Son wanting to sleep with mother

[Handy35]

My girlfriends son, who is 13 y/o keeps wanting to sleep in his mothers bed.  This has been going on for years, and up until a year ago she allowed not only her son but also her other two daughters to sleep in bed with her quite often.  The oldest daughter who is 14 now, no longer sleeps in her mothers bed, but her son who is now 13 and only a year away from high school, still attempts to sleep in his mothers bed.  My girlfriend has curbed this from happening somewhat lately but just recently, she said he has slept in bed with her and that he will rub on her while laying next to her and she said she has at times felt his erected penis rub up against her bac at which point she says she will jump up out of bed and act like she is getting a glass of water or something.  But after asking her if she lets him know that he cannot sleep in her bed anymore, she told me she hasnt told him or even addressed any of it with him.  I knw this is not ormal and frankly quite distrubing to me.  She says she knows she needs to tell him he no longer can sleep in her bed, but she doesnt know how to go about it?  Any suggestions?  I have a couple ideas but would like some input from others if i can get it?  Thanks!

[margypops]

Many families do sleep together all over the world I doubt very much if they are all child molesters, however from what you have said here I do think the child is too old with his behavior and she should have him and her others sleep in their own bed.She just has to be firm and not allow it.As for going about it how about ' Hey son you are a big boy now and need your space and Momma wants her bed back, so from this minute we each sleep in our own" ......

[AnnieBrooke]

Here is what I am planning to say to my son in a couple of years about wanting to take a bath with me.  "At this point in life, you are a boy with a changing body, and it is not appropriate any longer for you to be around me in the bath."  She doesn't have to mention the erections (he might not be thinking erotic thoughts of her ... kids get erections all the time) or even to wonder, she just needs to draw the line, and to tell it to him in terms of general propriety.  He is right at the cusp, where he still wants cuddles every now and then, but his bod is going to take it from there.  So it's better to couch it in a dignified way as him growing up and this is one thing that is no longer part of life for a man, than it is to get all oookie about erections and Freud and stuff.