My daughter is 10 years old and although she has always been a little more difficult than my other kids (I have three others), she doesn't seem to be "growing out" of her ocassional tantrums and episodes of "meltdowns" as we call them. The best way to describe it is that she cannot accept when something changes or doesn't go her way. For example, this evening we were going to play a video game she likes as a family, but after realizing that she had some homework she forgot about, we changed our minds since it got too late on a school night. My son (8 years old) was more mature about the change in plans than she was, even though he was disappointed. My daughter, however, spun out of control, begging, crying, screaming, and carrying on for at least forty five minutes. This is just one of many examples. When she gets this way, she can't be reasoned with, and acts as though it is the end of the world...sometimes she gets aggressive and violent toward others and herself as well, hitting herself or pulling her hair (although this has only happened a few times). It is scary to the other children, as well as confusing for me and my husband. We just don't know what to do anymore. My husband doesn't want her to see a councelor, although I am sure that she needs help. He thinks we can deal with her here at home, but I am so worried that there is something really wrong with her emotionally or mentally. Can someone please help me figure out if her behavior is normal or not?