my naughty kid

my child is of 7 year old is in 1st std.  her school timing is 8.45 to 4.00. as we live in rural area the school is in city she has to star 1.30hours before to school.she starts at 7.20 n returns at 5.15 .... after coming back she does not ask food or milk she starts home work.as i have 1year old child i help her little in her work.but she is class topper.  she never obey my words she never do her other works like bathing brushing ......dressing  she use to cry loud on every topic.and i get anger of her behaviour and i star beating shouting .....i become out of my control. she is very care less comparing other child of her age. teacher complaints that she start crying if i advice her on any matter and she becomes out of control.  my husband is in saudi as i have all my family presure on me iam fed up of my child.if i say dont do this that she never do.i want my child a qulity edu so iam sending her long distance not only she many little children were going like this. my child does not eat good food she eats 1 chapathi jam or curd rice n milk is her daily rutin food .iam fed up of her food habit also pls help me to change my childs behaviour

[margypops]

Only you can help her,I am wondering if giving her some food before she starts homework may help her feel better, maybe lay out some healthful food she can snack on she has just left school its hard to come home and start again , maybe a short respite before hand .I see you have a one year old and yes its hard to watch her and help the older child but possibly it would be a good idea to make the time some to be able to just focus on her, she may be feeling left out and it exhibits itself by her acting out.Beating and shouting only feeds into the frenzy,getting emotional and out of control doesn't help, and I know its not easy .. so maybe work on that as your own task.Make sure that the only food you keep in are healthful snacks and maybe some treats ..Children of this age often go through a picky stage of eating . ,maybe just let her get on with it as long as its adequate for health.good luck to you