overwhelmed

[teenmom7512]

I have a 2 year old, 1 year old and I'm 11 weeks pregnant. My kids are driving me crazy. My 1 year old screams and has a huge fit if I'm not in eyesight. All I want to do is take a **** without hearing a baby cry. I just want a little me time. I just want 15 minutes to myself. I constantly look like freaking shrek cause I can barely take a 3 minute shower cause my kids scream and cry cause I'm not in the same room. I cant remember the last time i ran a comb through my hair.the only way I can pee without hearing crying is if my one year old sits on my lap while I pee. Just wish I had some help.  

[Jessika20]

Yeah I know how you feel I have a 2 year old an since I been pregnant he has been joint at my hip. I can't even get dressed without him banging on my door. And it doesn't get any better when my fiancé comes home.

[Trista66]

Ever consider having a family member or friend watch them over night or something? Just to regain your bearings and relax by yourself for a few hours would be good for you.(:

[teenmom7512]

Yeah. I love them more than anything, but I just need a little time to myself. Not to go get my nails done or anything of that sort. Just a little time to take a shower and run a brush through my hair. Just enough time to breathe.

[teenmom7512]

I would ask friend but my so called friend stopped talking to me when I started having kids. My moms helps when she can but she lives far away. My hubby helps when he can but he's been working so much so we can put money back for the new baby and to make sure we don't fall behind on bills and rent.

[Pamela0128]

Awe im sorry you just have to set boundries. I know, it su.cks hearing them cry but eventually they'll learn they are not in charge mommy is. My 4yr old is the same way she would cry if she couldnt be with me every second but i just sit her on my bed and tell her mommy has things that need to be done and she can either stay on the bed and cry or she can play in her room like a big girl til mommy is done and finally she got the point that its not always about her . I hope everything gets better :)

[nursegirl6572]

Your id indicates that you're a teen mom?  How old are you hon?  Are you married?  Do you have a partner who helps at all?

Most definitely young children require a LOT of time and attention, and you have two children that are of that age, and another one on the way.

I agree with the others about asking for some help.  You could even look into hiring a teenager to help with the kids, even while you're there a few times a week.  Anything to give you a little break, but I'll be honest "me" time will be VERY few and far between for a while unfortunately, especially after the new baby enters the picture.  

I would strongly recommend maybe taking a break from having any more for a while, at least until one or more of your children are a little bit older.  Good luck on your pregnancy, and I hope you find someone to help you out a little bit!  

[Stacey_80]

Ask a family member to help you out once or twice a week if you can not afford a babysitter. Explain to them what you are going through, I'm sure they'd be glad to help.
We all go through the same phase at some point in our motherhood so do not feel bad about asking for help.

[skepticalpeach]

Please consult a crisis nursery. Do you have a job? It is a great way to get out of the house to do something constructive with no kids in tow.

[GInScott]

Listen, I am a mom of four and a nanny of 3 year old quadruptlets! I have never had a problem loving my children or others yet telling them NO...telling them no teaches them to be independent and start to solve their own problems, they learn to self soothe, so as long as all their needs are met, they will have to get over the obsessive neediness of your constant attention, you will be able to give back lots more love and time to others BECAUSE you made time for you....don't guilty parent....you run the show, stop giving in to them now because as they get older they will still be manipulating you...plz take my advice, give them a hug, and a kiss and tell them, they are ok....and do what you need to do, music, programs, and a special toy may help them to self soothe properly...I also suggest ( in a serious yet funny way) to buy squishy ear plugs, they are comfortable yet you can still hear them..it's really helps muffle screams, and calms your nerves....and tell them, mommy's ears can't hear crying, You are ok....and mommy loves you...hope this helps, it did for me over the 20 years...

[DorindaM]

well I know how you feel I had 3 children buy the time I  was 23 and had practically NO help. I agree with Pamela. Give them a hug and kiss and set them at an activity to color or paint with in a children's musical movie. Once you start setting boundaries that mommy needs time, they will stop screaming. Good luck though with the alone time... my kids are tweens now and still follow me into the bathroom. I'm sure your a great mama and you will learn to "breathe" " brush your hair" and multitask. I hope you get some help. if you ever just need a listening ear email me anytime. dorinda.***@**** I know what its like. Good luck sweet pea!