Social Behaviors

[2boysmommy]

My child is a typically developing 8.5 year old boy. He has many friends and 2-3 best friends. He behaves well in school with the exception of some disruptive behaviors last year. I have always found him to have an anger streak. He is the type of child who is unable to process when something is done to him accidentally. If he is knocked into or hurt by another child (whether on purpose or not) he will retaliate, continually harp on the problem and allow it to ruin his good time.
Another issue he has is perhaps jealousy. Today he went to a pool party with 17 boys from his football team. One of the boys was his best/favorite friend. Because this boy did not give my son his full attention, my son stared at the boy while he played, would not join in any other groups of play and basically ruined his own good time for about 20 minutes. Only after I prodded him to play did he let go of his emotions. He is typically the only child who has a problem at a party, play group etc. I am sad for him and his emotions and don't know what to do. Thank you for your help. I hope I have given enough information. He is the olderof two boys, his brother is 4.

[2boysmommy]

I agree, perhaps I am more concerned with how he holds a grudge, takes things very personally and some underlying anger, I don't see this in any of his peers. I know things could be much worse, but I feel this is serious enough that I would like to help him out.
Thanks

[margypops]

Perhaps you are over reacting and maybe it is worse when you are there, if you had left him at the party he would have joined in with the other kids, take a step back and let him get on with it, it was a normal feeling for him to feel left out when his friend wanted to be with the other children, we all want our children to be happy all the time , Some things he has to fix by him self , let go a bit and see if he does okay. Good Luck