saying what she thinks

[pickle32]

Hi, my 9 year old keeps saying whatever she is thinking even if it is bad, but then before I can say anything she will burst into tears saying she cannot help it that she has to say what is in her head out loud to make that thought go away. She will also be sitting there watching tv and just burst into tears and when I ask her what is wrong she say she don't know. She suffers with moto ticks, but as far as I'm aware the above is not a ssymptom of tticks, pleasecan ssomeone help me to help her.

[MarkLakewood3367]

I think that this is a smart move!  If anything, at least you will have ruled out any serious issues.  Please keep us posted!

[pickle32]

I now have an appointment with a pediatric psychiatrist so hopefully we can her the help she needs  

[MarkLakewood3367]

That is a very good idea.  It sounds like this issue stems more from anxiety than neurological.  I think that talking to the teacher may be a good starting point.  Additionally, it probably would be a good idea to have your daughter connect/talk to the school counselor at least once a week.  This would allow her the ability to discuss her feelings related to bullying, tics, etc... without feeling the need to bottle it all up.

[pickle32]

Hi.
She  does not say she hears voices, but she was botteling a lot of stuff up at one point, i.e. being bullied at school and is only now starting to say went went on. She said she only says what she is thinking at home because she is worried of getting in trouble at school as her teacher already has a go at her when she is doing her ticks at school  ( witch i will be talking to the teacher about today).

[specialmom]

Oh, and on kids place live yesterday, my sons and I heard this hysterical song that is about this.  It's got super sugary sweet words that say "Be Nice.  To Your friends."  and does that for a bit and then pauses and goes into " you don't know what is in my head and YOU ARE GETTING ON MY NERVES" in this really rock and roll heavy beat.  it's by Terri Hendrix and is called "Nerves".  Kind of drives home the message.  Look it up

Here''s a link to the lyrics:

http://terrihendrix.bandcamp.com/track/nerves

And you can listen to it here:

https://myspace.com/terrihendrixmusic/music/song/nerves-66454733-72861353

It just seems so appropriate for this post.  :>)

[specialmom]

This is something I've dealt with with my son who has sensory integration disorder and is not uncommon for many kids with neurological issues such as sensory or add/adhd.  It's kind of that 'lack of filter' type of thing.  

We worked on this with an occupational therapist.  What the emphasis always was is that it is OKAY to think anything but that you don't speak it. Instead, you visualize putting into a thought bubble (kind of looks like those things in comic books when people talk).  We practiced this over and over and my son was given many activities to help him with improving his 'filter'.  We also helped our son to know when his filter wasn't catching something that might be offensive to someone such as "I'm so bored today playing with you" to be honest and say "I'm sorry.  That wasn't the right thing to say and it was just my thought for a moment.  I really like playing with you.   Let's think of something else to do".  We helped with the language and words that would be better to use and with the concept to examine thoughts before letting them spill out into words.  And if in doubt, put it in a thought bubble rather than saying it.

That visualization really worked with my son.  I'll see if I have any references to the activities that were used with him and get back to you.  

good luck

[Sandman2]

   Have her teachers ever commentated on this?  or does it only happen at home?  
  She might try other ways of getting it out of her head by drawing, or writing, or even running around the house.  
  But, I agree with Mark - this probably should be checked out.  Especially, as Mark said, if it is affecting her outside of the house.

[MarkLakewood3367]

This statement has me concerned:

'she has to say what is in her head out loud to make that thought go away.'

This makes me think that something neurological might be going on.  Does she hear voices or experience hallucinations/delusions?  This behavior could be nothing and it could be something.  Hard to tell.  I could just be a phase. I would advise you to have her evaluated by her pediatrician to rule out neurological issues if this behavior is affecting her emotionally, socially, and /or academically.