school problems

[goodnurse]

My child is a 5 year old boy who started kindergarten this year.  So far he has gotten naked, touched another kid inappropriately, gets up out of his seat in class, stacks markers, chews with his mouth open, does not put away a crayon before getting another crayon out, etc.  Everyday it seems like it is something different.  I have caught the teacher in a lie once about my child and now I am wondering if she is lieing about the other stuff also or just blowing things out of proportion.  Is this just typical 5 year old behavior.  I have had him tested for all sorts of disorders and no one seems to want to say anything is wrong with him but his teacher insist that there is.  What should I do?

[waitingwithhope]

Did he get naked in class only because he had just been to the bathroom and he had taken all his clothes off to do his business? I think that you need to understand the context of each situation. Stacking markers, getting out of his seat, etc. sounds normal but touching others means he has not learned his boundaries. Most kindergarten kids are not aware of their own nakedness and that they should be embarrassed, however, they become aware as the year progresses and they mature. They are at the age where they become more aware of social cues. If he is not picking up on these cues, it is possible he is just too young for kindergarten or that he needs a teacher who will reinforce boundaries through "social stories".  Make sure, though, that if this has become an issue at school, that you pay some "surprise" visits, ask your child's teacher to keep a detailed log of his behavior (and ask her if she rewards good behavior) and discuss it with the principal if you are very concerned. Switching classes, schools or districts should be done only after you have addressed these issues because his file will follow him where ever he goes and just switching schools may not eliminate the problems.

[Kennie]

Getting naked in class, well ask him why. Why does he feel the need to. Ask him has he saw someone do it before?
Kids are like sponges, soaking up the enviroment around them. Its worth a shot

For the crayons and getting up out of the chair its normal. All kids do it and many adults even do it.

Talk to the school board, principle, teacher and see if there is any way you can move him into a better classroom. Try a 1:1 contact. The kid could just be overwelmed.

[RockRose]

I'm really concerned about the behavior of getting naked in the class,  and inappropriately touching other students.

I'm not at all concerned about the crayons,  and very little concerned about the getting out of his chair.  Those are very typical kinder behaviors.

What disorders have you had him tested for?  

[jdtm]

Your words "I have had him tested for all sorts of disorders" - my question, why?  Obviously, you must feel there is a problem here.  Does your school have a school resource teacher or special education co-ordinator or school psychologist or school behaviouralist?  If so, enlist their help.  The main issue here is obtaining help for your son, not whether the teacher has been lying, and this should be your focus.  I'm assuming you are working within a larger public system rather than a smaller private system.  If your school does not have access to various services, then the previous poster is correct - change not only schools but school districts.  I hope you soon will find a solution for your son because if this is difficult for you, imagine the pain your son is suffering.

[nyychic]

MAKE THEM PUT YOUR CHILD INTO A DIFFERENT CLASS RIGHT AWAY EFFECTIVE IMMEDIATELY, the caps were for effect this is non negtiable.  I had issues with my sons school and I requested him to be switched.  They pretty much have to do this and if they don't go over the principles head.  I didn't and I ended up homeschooling my son, however you don't have to.  FIGHT for your son, get him into a new teachers class room teachers talk and your son is too young to be labeled because of some B#*$@ teacher who is lying about your child.  Even if it was only the one lie than that gives more to worry about, if all the other is true why make something else up, I mean hello he has done enough to upset her why make more up?  I would be concerned.  Has your child ever been in daycare?  If so was this behavior an issue?  Get the info and move him into a new classroom.  Good Luck