My 4 (almost 5) year old son attends preschool daily from 9-1. While he does have a few friends there, he will not initiate play or contact with others, nor will he join in when invited (especially outside in the neighborhood). The most noticeable withdrawl is during birthday parties at a play gym where many of his classmates have their parties. In addition, he will become extremely close to one particular friend and dominate his time with that person, driving the other child to want to eventually separate from him.
Following are a few more details about his behavior in the following situations:
1. At birthday parties (specifically involving physical play)- initially, he's excited and will join his classmates/friends. When physical play (climbing, etc) begins, he mopes, rejoins his parents and (nearly) cries that he wants to go home, even while being encouraged by classmates, parents, etc to play. He has stated that he hates the play gym and refuses to go to any more parties there.
2. Neighborhood play in our cul de sac - he nearly hides behind my back when confronted by chidren who invite him to play. If he is one on one with a child, this isn't usually an issue - though he does try to dominate the play, almost mother-like. He would rather play with his 2 year old brother than the neighborhood children.
3. At school when his close friend is absent - he hides behind my back, physically draws into himself and has sometimes cried. This has improved as the school year has progressed.
A little background about our son:
1. He is very creative - has many imaginary characters with whom he engages in semicomplex play (car races, etc.), loves creating art projects and drawing, but becomes fixated on certain objects and will draw them frequently and in varying contexts.
2. He appears to be very intelligent - writing by 3 1/2, reading simple stories and a fair amount of sight words by 4, extremely articulate (at an early age)
3. While not akward, his gross motor skills (unlike his fine motor skills) are underdeveloped.
4. He is healthy and a very happy little boy.
We want to help our son become comfortable in social situations and make and maintain friendships.
Thank you!
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