stepdaughters mother influencing child in all the wrong ways, taking a toll on her 5yr old mind and developmnet as a strong individual.

[multitaskmama3]

My 5yr old stepdaughter has been through a lot!...My Husband and his ex divorced in 2005 and due to the mothers living conditions and carelessness, my husband has custody of their 5yr old. The mother had visitation every wednesday and everyother weekend. The mother just had her second child with 1 of 3 men and one of them is my stepdaughters uncle on her moms side of the family. My sd(stepdaughter) is constantly telling us what her mom says about us(cussing) and she knows that something is not quite right. We found out the mother had moved in with her felon brother in law and was intending to file for joint custody so she would have her daughter bi-weekly in one day last week!. We fear that the messages that this impressionable 5yr old is getting from her mother is less than favorable...Her way of diciplining her daughter is to "beat her a**" or put her in time out in front of the t.v. She lets her daughter run all over like a crazy person and when she comes home to us she is totally out of control...My sd doesnt hit me but she hits her mother and yells at her...now shes starting to yell at me. The mother chose her lover over her daughter and now we are having papers drawn up for supervised visitation..Im scared that this 5yr old little girl is going to be so screwed up in the mind that her longing for her mom and her mothers unfit nature will mess with her. We want nothing but the best for her and hope that with our care and love we can provide her with a normal childhood. I have a 5yr old daughter and a 4yr old son of my own and i really dont need her mothers transferance of emptional anger to seep through my sd to them...HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[multitaskmama3]

thank you so much!...

[Jennifer375]

It sounds like you and your husband are doing all the right things with getting stronger custody.... but unfortunatly this is a situation you really have very little control over it seems when she isnt in your care. Try to be forgiving, I know its hard when a child you love is involved... but your doing all you can and thats all you can do. Hopefully somone whos been through this can offer more advice or suggestions.

*with apprication and respect*           Jennifer