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I need to know who is the father???

My period was Oct 4th - Oct 8th --had sex with an ex during a break up on the 12th and then with my boyfriend on the 24th when we got back together...which one is more a probability of being the father?
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I don't think period tracker apps are very useful, unless someone has been able to track their cycles for 12 months and has found they are on the dot at (whatever number of) days each and every time.  When I was a teenager my cycles were so exact that bar-charting them on grid paper looked like a solid block, but by the time I was 30 they varied slightly (a day or two or three).  Your cycles being "pretty" regular is not the same as exact, and your app is only as good as your cycles.  An app cannot predict if your ovulation will vary by a day or two some month.

Similarly, someone saying casually that you're "at 5 weeks" does not mean the same thing as 5 weeks 4 days or 5 weeks 6 days.  (Or even 5 weeks 0 days.)  They weren't being precise, and you need precision.

I would go in to an ob-gyn where they will take you seriously (not an ER, not a right-to-life place that gives free ultrasounds to convince women not to get abortions -- you need a real doctor's office) and get another ultrasound, either this week or the week after but no later.  It is possible that with your long-ish cycles, your boyfriend is the dad.  If you're at about 7 weeks when you go in, the ultrasound should still be useful for seeing this.  Tell them your cycles are too irregular to count on, and ask them how many weeks GA you are (that is the count from the first day of your last period, but in your case they will give you the count from two weeks previous to when you conceived) and especially ask them when your estimated due date is.  Put that due date into a conception calculator when you get home.  Since the two guys are pretty far apart, if your ultrasound isn't later than your seventh week, you should be able to get a pretty clear idea which sex produced the baby.
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134578 tn?1693250592
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I'll be glad to hear!  :)
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Fingers crossed- I will def keep  you updated :)
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ALSO she said my due date is July 16th ( I had thought they said July 10th) .... and that is from the ultrasound I had Nov 19th as well-don't know if that changes anything as well-
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July 16 points back to October 24.
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Hey there Annie!! I just had a prenatal visit and I laid EVERYTHING out on the line to my Dr ( I am in a centering group and haven't felt comfortable talking to any of the 3 Dr's while in the group-today I had a one on one appt with the female Dr) SOO I had asked her about my situation, she said I probably ovulated around the 19th of Oct and also when I had that ultrasound on Nov 19th I measured at 5weeks and 5days--- remember I had said the only thing the tech told me was I was "at 5 weeks" so I don't know if this would change anything? She said she thinks it would be my boyfriends (from the 24th) but she wasn't exactly sure- what is your take on it? If I count back 5 weeks and 5 days that puts day one at Oct 11th- which is 7days after Oct 4th (the 1st day of me period-PLUS I did NOT tell the tech when I had my period to see if she could get a more accurate reading on how far along I am--- what is your take on this? Would it still point to my current BF on OCt 24th or my ex on the 13th???  
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It tends to point to your current boyfriend.  Let the doctor be your guide, she has the records.
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Ok, thank you :)
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I don't think you would feel implantation in your side.  If it is 'feel-able' at all (and I've never heard anyone say they felt it -- the uterine lining is thick for a reason) it would be centered.  It could have been ovulation, though.
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Hey Annie, quick question... do you know anything about when you ovulate you get a pain, when there is implantation, you ALSO get a pain.  On Oct 23rd the night before my BF and I did the deed, I remember getting a bad pain on my left side, lasted about 3-5 minutes and it made me nauseous.  Do you think that that could have been an ovulation pain or implantation pain? I have felt ovulation pains before, not that strong though-and I remember thinking I must be ovulating-but it was really different than any time before, so now I'm wondering if that was actually an implantation????
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Allure, do also keep in mind that eggs (before fertilization) are said to be viable 24-36 hours.  That pushes things to the 23rd, which is well within the margin for error of the later ultrasound, to indicate your boyfriend.  Talk to the doc and stay optimistic.
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Im in the same situation. I had sex with one guy on the 8th. 9Th. 10th. 11. And 12th. That guy vames inside me every time. The 2nd guy was one time on the 14th and he pulled out. I 99% feel its the first guys. The pull out method has always worked for me but just the fact that its 1% possible could be the 2nd guys is stresssing me out
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It's hard to say from your posts what your doctor was looking at and taking into account when he or she gave you information.  It sounds like the first person (who gave you the due date of 7/10) might have been counting from the first day of your last period, which is often done by medical people, though not usually if the ultrasound indicates something different.  The second ultrasound didn't sound like the first day of your last period was ruling the information the doctor gave, but it was late to be super accurate for pinpointing a conception date. (Though an ultrasound late in the 6th week or in the 7th week can be spot-on, by the 12th week the margin for error is +/- 7 days, meaning that in the 9th week the margin for error could be 2 or 3 days),  

The first ultrasound suggests you conceived around October 18, and the second suggests you conceived around October 22.  You had sex with your ex on the 12th and with your boyfriend on the 24th.  Obviously, none of this is all that helpful nor does it point convincingly to either guy.  But since one of them has to be the dad, because of the margin for error in ninth-week ultrasounds, it looks like the second guy has a better chance than the first guy.  Not from the first ultrasound, but from the second.  I'm not too excited about its convincingness, though.

If you were to talk all of this over with your doctor, he or she might be able to give you more clarity.  You could also get a prenatal DNA test, though at their high cost (if you go to one of the trustworthy labs) sometimes people just opt to wait.  In your shoes I would go through the pregnancy pretty optimistic that the baby is from your boyfriend, but would definitely test once the baby is born, to put the question to rest forever.
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Thank you... Im starting to think it is my boyfriends, but its just hard to get excited about, just in case it isn't his :( I did tell my BF that I think we should talk to the Dr about it too...I'll def keep you posted and thank you so much for your feedback :)
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yes
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134578 tn?1693250592
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So, your first ultrasound, which was not at your regular doctor, told you July 10, and your next ultrasound told you that you were in your ninth week and that your due date was July 14?
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At any of your appointments, have you been given a due date?  Please don't tell me x weeks x days, I mean a due date like July 10 or August 1.
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July 14th
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I think they are only going off of last period, and I dont go back until Jan 18th
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Do you think the doctor was counting from your last period?
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He said that he was
Do you think any of the information you have from any of your appointments was from the ultrasound measurements of the baby only, versus from a doc looking at a little cardboard wheel and predicting when you 'should' have gotten pregnant based on your last period?  You're better off telling them not to even use the date of your last period but just to tell you a due date based on the baby's size and developmental markers, in order to sort this out.
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yeah the ultrasound on the 19th (in the e.r) she just said 5 weeks, yesterday my Dr gave the 9 weeks 5 days... when I had the ultrasound on the 19th there was no movement that I saw what so ever,
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And did the doctor this time give you an estimated due date from your ultrasound?  Just messing with weeks and days is not as helpful as putting an e.d.d. into a conception calculator.

Generally speaking, it does not seem like the guy on the 12th is the dad.  It's puzzling, because if your doc is right and you're 9 weeks 5 days now, your ultrasound on the 19th should have revealed you to be at 6 weeks, not 5 weeks.  

When you got your first ultrasound, did you see the screen at the time?  Did you see a moving-around embryo with a beating heart?  A fifth-week ultrasound looks a lot different than a sixth-week ultrasound, (unless, of course, the person was just saying "around" 5 weeks and it might have been 5 weeks 4 days or like that.)  

Anyway, the new ultrasound suggests conception around October 22, the old one suggests it was a week later, neither particularly implicates the guy on the 12th, but it is odd that you were told such varying numbers.
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and no, they are 2 different Dr's...first one I was in the emergency room (something unrelated) they did an ultrasound and yesterday was with my OBGYN
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yes, Nov 19th I was told I was "5 Weeks", yesterday I had an ultrasound by my regular Dr and he said 9 weeks 5 days
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Just to check everything you are saying, did someone say that as of November 19, you were "5 weeks," and now as of December 15, you are 9 weeks 5 days?  Were these dates given to you by the same doctor?
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Hi, Allure, did you get an estimated due date (from an ultrasound) when you went in?  Or just weeks and days?
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I went today, they said I am 9 weeks, 5 days.... I'm thinking it is my current boyfriends????
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Hey I'm having the same problem can I please get some help I'm 39 weeks My due date is December 5th it's almost time but I'm been stressing my self out about who might be the father of my child they said my last period was February 28 and I start ovulation on March 14 can anyone tell me if I got pregnant before or after February please !
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I was actually asking about the test due to a conversation with one of my girlfriends.. I had a positive text on Nov 6th, and thank you again :)
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