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Need Closure....!
Hi I'm 25 & just found out on May 4th I was 3wks (2wk gestational age) pregnant.. I'm currently 13 weeks now.. My last lmp was March 28th but I had unprotected sex with my close guy friend April 2nd for the last time, we still decided to remain friends.. our fling lasted a whole 2months.. but our last sexual contact was the second of April.. After we said our goodbyes I made amends with my ex boyfriend which is Guy#2 & we got together a wk after Easter (April 5th - present) ...Well to make the long story short Im wondering &confused on when did i get preg with my baby & whos the dad.. Only trying to put these pieces together... thanks soooo MUCH !
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Even if his sperm lived 5 or 6 days after the 2nd, I don't see it quite stretching to the 11th, which is when your ninth-week ultrasound suggests you conceived. Do get a DNA test, but please in the meantime try to calm down.
Did u notice they were 2 weeks apart but u still stated it's point to guy#2 my bf.. because for guy #1 the sperm would've been died off.. correct.?
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Just tell both guys that a DNA test is needed. The guy with whom you had sex on the 15th is probably the most strong candidate.
may 4th I was a week pregnant..? I'm scared I might have got pregnant by guy #1 on the fifteenth of April we we're the most sexually active... I think I just need a DNA test I'm scared I'll be embarrassed... I've never had to go thru this..
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I trust the ultrasounds. Regarding ovulation bleeding, there is no such thing. Regarding implantation bleeding, an embryo is maybe as large as the dot on the i in this sentence. It would not produce bleeding that lasts for days and looks like a period. If it produced anything, it would be a little wisp of blood. But I've actually never heard anyone say they had it. Lots of women write about it, but nobody ever writes in and says that is what they saw when pregnant.
So u sure Ms Annie it wasn't ovulation/implantation bleeding? & the ultrasounds are so accurate and precise I think they are going by my last menstrual period I am not sure though....
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Do you mean "So u sure it wasn't ovulation bleeding.. & the ultrasounds are so precise & accurate to rather I think they are going by that last lmp!.. not sure though!" is that a question? I took it as a comment, since there wasn't a question mark. Could you restate the question?
So u sure it wasn't ovulation bleeding.. & the ultrasounds are so precise & accurate to rather I think they are going by that last lmp!.. not sure though!
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All along it has suggested the second guy more strongly than the first, with the first guy only having a slim chance. The fact that the baby is a boy also helps to support that idea. It doesn't mean you shouldn't get a DNA test, but in your shoes I would feel pretty confident it is the second guy.
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Hi Ms Anne I know it's been awhile just wanted to inform u that Im 5months now & recently did my 2nd ultrasound & it is a boy my GA is now 20weeks 2days dated on 8/17/2015 .. remember my dating scan was 9wk4days on 6/3/15.. so is it still adding up to the second guy.??
COMMUNITY LEADER
It does mostly seem to point to the second guy. Go through the pregnancy with that assumption. But because the number of days between is not that large, you do still need the DNA test.
OK Ms Annie around how positive could it get to be for the baby to be guy #2... I know it's not 100 without a DNA test but I just want a lil closure while I'm preg because I'm so stress about it.. & alone
Thats why it's good to have accurate facts... so I won't get confused.. I'm going with going with guy #2 as well.. hopefully it's correct! ;) I pray Lol
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Oh, and they also say they got pregnant right after their periods because they had sex then. But given that sperm can live and stay viable in their body 5 or so days after sex, they could have had a period on the 1st, have sex on the 5th, and not get pregnant until the 10th, and still have the baby be from the sex right after their period on the 5th. That is one of the reasons I needed to know what the doctor or tech said; I needed accuracy for trying to figure out your time windows. The tech saw and measured your actual embryo.
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Women believe (and write) all kinds of stuff on the Internet based on not knowing anything about how pregnancy is counted. The GA method of counting was invented before there were ultrasounds, and now even the ultrasounds (which see and measure the actual baby) have to add the two weeks at the front end to count back to the first day of the last period, because that is how it has always been done. Doctors are used to saying "You're 11 weeks" when they mean 9 weeks since conception, and the pregnant woman gets used to it really fast too.
You're right tho but I was Googling online & some mothers stated that they became right after there periods & etc... that's what kind of had me lost as well... but those data scan will pretty much tell the story!!; )
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It wouldn't make that much difference if the baby is a boy or a girl, but there is the theory that male sperm die out sooner than female, so if the baby were a boy it might be less likely that the first guy is the dad. This is more theoretical than absolute though.
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No, not a nurse, I have a law degree.
Mostly it does add up to the second guy. But not by all that many days. The sperm from the guy on the 2nd could have been alive on the 7th or even the 8th in your system. I still don't think the margin for error stretches back that far, but in your shoes I would do a DNA test when the baby is born, to put this question to rest once and for all. If you are going to file for child support, you will need to do a DNA test anyway, an official one that comes from a lab certified by the family courts in your jurisdiction for determining paternity. In other words, not a drugstore test.
It seems like you can go through the pregnancy assuming the baby is from the second guy, but should still test in the end, because you never want to be looking at the child and wondering.
Mostly it does add up to the second guy. But not by all that many days. The sperm from the guy on the 2nd could have been alive on the 7th or even the 8th in your system. I still don't think the margin for error stretches back that far, but in your shoes I would do a DNA test when the baby is born, to put this question to rest once and for all. If you are going to file for child support, you will need to do a DNA test anyway, an official one that comes from a lab certified by the family courts in your jurisdiction for determining paternity. In other words, not a drugstore test.
It seems like you can go through the pregnancy assuming the baby is from the second guy, but should still test in the end, because you never want to be looking at the child and wondering.
U are a very helpful person..! And I thank u so much... why would it make a stronger suggestion if the baby is a boy..? But I'm not sure yet I'll have 2 more months to go in order for me to find out the gender..! ;) ;)
Are u a nurse Ms.Annie Brooke because u are really good with calculations... ;) I don't mean to sound dense or anything but it's been quite a long time for me this pregnancy was also a shock.. I have one daughter she's 7.. so it's been seven years since I've had a child... Lol.. so you're going with guy #2..? Its adding up to him..
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