Should I get a paternity test?

[MClaire93]

Hi okay, so my story is kind of a weird one. I suffer from intrusive thoughts. I'm 21 weeks pregnant and completely in love with my boyfriend. However about 6-7 weeks ago things turned very sour with my health. I had been living with my boyfriend and his dad because my dad hadn't quite accepted that his little girl was pregnant and the atmosphere was quite awkward. Things were going so well in my boyfriends small town and everyone was so happy for us. I began getting these thoughts that my boyfriend wasn't going to be the father and that I must have slept with someone in January and somehow their sperm had lived in side of me until May.. Sounds crazy I know but it felt so real. Once I began to rationalise that that wasn't possible I began to think that I must have slept with someone and that I had blocked it out.. I don't think it's something that I would ever do but again it felt so real. When I began getting some clarity that it never happened I sill couldn't shake the feeling that he wasn't the dad and that somehow I was going to be punished and the punishment was going to be that he wasn't the dad and I'd have absolutely no explanation as to who was or what had happened. I know how ridiculous it sounds but when these intrusive thoughts come into your head you just can't shake them. I had to come back home because I couldn't even bare to look at my boyfriend as I felt I had done this terrible thing. My mum and dad have been absolutely amazing with me and assuring me that I'm just sick atm. My dad especially has been so supportive about everything including the pregnancy now and is excited for my little bubba coming along. He spoke to my boyfriend about everything and he too has been so amazing and understanding with everything. I want to go back and live with him but I feel at the moment I can't because when these thoughts come into my mind they feel so real and they feel like they're really going to happen. He says he knows 100% that the baby is his but yesterday I asked him if we could get a paternity test just for peace of mind and he said he was all for it if it meant giving me closure. This made me feel a bit more secure as I feel having it on paper will allow me to get rid of this thought and be happy with my life. A part of me is still nervous though at what to do if it comes back that the baby isn't his. My mum and dad think it's a terrible idea as its just feeding the doubt and that I will just replace that thought with another 'what if'. I really don't know what to do. I doubt anyone has ever related to this before but if they have could you please give me some advise. Even if you haven't been in this situation, all advise is gratefully appreciated. Am I just being ridiculous?
I'm currently on 20mg Prozac to manage the depression and anxiety stemming from this and I've just had my first session of CBT but not sure if it will work for me.

Please reply. Xxx

[PreguntonaPensativa]

I would not do a paternity test it cost money and its just your imagination. When I was 18 like 10 years ago :D I was married to the only boyfriend and only man I had been with in my life and while pregnant I would be worried that my baby was not his. Like maybe I was sleeping and someone broke into my apartment and got me pregnant or I just got pregnant and the baby was not his...thoughts that are so strange because I had not been with another man. Even at birth I was worried...but I was not worried like I was a few weeks back when I really was not sure who the daddy was. I was just nervous like what if. Well the baby was his obviously and looked and looks just like the guy I was married to. So crazyyy. The crazy things our mind sometimes makes us think.

[Jpike31]

and sorry to answer your question, if you havent been with anyone you dont need a paternity test, but I am all about doing anything that makes YOU feel better. If you want to do so and it will help by all means go ahead.

[Jpike31]

Wow, it sounds like your boyfriend is a great guy and that you have a very loving and supporting family for your situation.

Im not sure how old you are, but this is a VERY survivable situation. When I first got pregnant at 19 (7 years ago), I had the EXACT same wild and crazy thoughts. I thought "maybe I got drunk and had sex with someone else?" but I DIDNT. Like at ALL. it was a faithful relationship with my boyfriend at the time, but trust me I had all kinds of crazy thoughts going through my head. You are NOT alone!

Its AMAZING what our minds can do to us. I am planning on getting a prenatal paternity testing (before the baby is born) due to my horrible situation i put myself in... try to take a deep breathe, and keep reminding yourself that you did not sleep with anyone else so you have nothing to worry about. Sometimes in my head its like an inner battle where I literally have to talk sense into myself. Its wild!