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Who is the father?
Me and my husband recently gotten married March 8. We have been in a long distance relationship for our whole relationship. However in December-Beginning of February we had some problems and called the marriage off. I had sex with a man from my town in the beginning of February around the 2nd -3rd week it was unprotected and he did pull out. During February was when me and my husband now got back together. I got my period March 5. My periods are always regular. Always. From March 6-23 I spent with my husband we got married. He cam in me nearly every time We will still be distant until the end of the year. When I came home the 23. I found out today April 6 I am pregnant. He knows about the other guy. Once I'm 10 weeks we are getting a DNA test to confirm if it's his baby. I have been so scared. So worried. I want a happy life with my husband and my child. What do you guys think??
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Try to get the ultrasound first. You will save a lot of money if and when it shows what I think it shows (that you won't need to get a DNA test). Get the ultrasound in two or no more than three weeks from now -- schedule it now so there will be no last-minute scheduling issue.
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I think you had sex with a man from your town in February, than had a normal period in March and never slept with the man from your town after February, and then were with your husband and are now pregnant. It doesn't sound like the man from your town, it sounds like your husband's baby. That's what periods show.
When you get your first ultrasound, be sure to tell them that you would like to know an estimated due date based only on the baby's size (crown to rump) and developmental markers as shown by the ultrasound. Then take the estimated due date home and either count back 266 days on a calendar, or use an online conception calculator, and it can give you an estimated date of conception.
Please remember that when doctors, nurses, midwives, and ultrasound techs count up the pregnancy in "weeks pregnant," they use a medical way of counting that begins not at conception but on the first day of the woman's last period. It's April 6 and your last period began on March 5, you would be counted as 4 weeks 4 days gestational age (GA) right now. This doesn't mean you got pregnant 4 weeks 4 days ago, it means you had your last period before getting pregnant 4 weeks 4 days ago. That suggests you got pregnant about 2 weeks 4 days ago, if your cycles are regular. (The average woman has about a 28-day cycle and ovulates in the middle of it.) Get an ultrasound in your 6th or 7th week (again, counted from first day of last period) if you can, that will give you the greatest accuracy for trying to determine conception.
Ultrasounds can help a lot (if you don't misunderstand the "weeks pregnant" count and think it leads back to the day you got pregnant). But as the pregnancy progresses, they get less accurate for this purpose. That is why I suggest doing one in week 6 or 7 from the period. By the time you are at week 40, they can be three weeks off.
Anyway, get an ultrasound and ask them to tell you from the measurements of the baby when your estimated due date is. Take that home and work out an estimated conception date. It will probably ease your mind a lot. That, plus the fact that you had a period. Women don't get periods when they are pregnant. :)
When you get your first ultrasound, be sure to tell them that you would like to know an estimated due date based only on the baby's size (crown to rump) and developmental markers as shown by the ultrasound. Then take the estimated due date home and either count back 266 days on a calendar, or use an online conception calculator, and it can give you an estimated date of conception.
Please remember that when doctors, nurses, midwives, and ultrasound techs count up the pregnancy in "weeks pregnant," they use a medical way of counting that begins not at conception but on the first day of the woman's last period. It's April 6 and your last period began on March 5, you would be counted as 4 weeks 4 days gestational age (GA) right now. This doesn't mean you got pregnant 4 weeks 4 days ago, it means you had your last period before getting pregnant 4 weeks 4 days ago. That suggests you got pregnant about 2 weeks 4 days ago, if your cycles are regular. (The average woman has about a 28-day cycle and ovulates in the middle of it.) Get an ultrasound in your 6th or 7th week (again, counted from first day of last period) if you can, that will give you the greatest accuracy for trying to determine conception.
Ultrasounds can help a lot (if you don't misunderstand the "weeks pregnant" count and think it leads back to the day you got pregnant). But as the pregnancy progresses, they get less accurate for this purpose. That is why I suggest doing one in week 6 or 7 from the period. By the time you are at week 40, they can be three weeks off.
Anyway, get an ultrasound and ask them to tell you from the measurements of the baby when your estimated due date is. Take that home and work out an estimated conception date. It will probably ease your mind a lot. That, plus the fact that you had a period. Women don't get periods when they are pregnant. :)
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Thank you so much! This helped a lot! Once I'm 10 weeks were going to get a DNA test. In a few weeks I will be able to get an ultrasound.
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