Who is the father of my baby?

[livort]

I had sex with my husband on 10 & 17th nov 2014 with no condom and with other guy on 22th nov. On 25 th nov, I got a positive result. Now I am 6 months pregnant. Who is the father of my baby?

[livort]

Ok thx alot Annie for your help :).

[AnnieBrooke]

It does not sound like you can be certain, but the 15th might be a little too late in terms of when you seem to have ovulated.

[livort]

So based on the ultrasound test, it wasnt his child?

[AnnieBrooke]

Sounds like you conceived around November 9, give or take a few days.  There is a margin for error in your eighth week, but it is probably not quite enough to stretch to the 15th if your earliest ultrasound said you conceived around the 9th.  Hate to put you through it, but after the baby is born I might consider a DNA test just to put the question to rest once and for all.  You could do a drugstore test with the other guy, if you can't tell your husband.

[livort]

yes the August 2 is from my early ultra sound (27 december 2014). I also had an ultrasound on April 9 and the doctor said the same think the due date is on August 2.

[AnnieBrooke]

How early in the pregnancy were you given the due date of August 2, was it from an early ultrasound?  Can you look at an early ultrasound record and see?  You're giving me a lot of "about" dates, I'd feel more comfortable telling you what I think if you actually read something off an early ultrasound report.

[livort]

Annie, sorry here is the detail. On 7 May (a week ago) i had an ultrasound. My baby weight is 1.1 kg (2 pounds). The due date is early August and the baby is 27 weeks.

[livort]

The due date is on the 2nd August.

[livort]

The Doctor estimated around 8 th - 15 th November. On 15 nov. My boyfriend didnt come at all and we only did 1 round. on 22 nov, we did had sex 20 minutes for a second time after he ejaculate.

[AnnieBrooke]

It doesn't entirely matter if the guy came inside or just put pre-ejaculatory fluid inside you.  It's quite possible to get pregnant from pre-ejaculate.  One ejaculation contains something like a milliion sperms, so there are a lot to work with, and though the fluid from the Cowper's gland (pre-ejaculate) doesn't have sperm in it, the urethra can have sperm in it from a prior ejaculation and the pre-ejaculate can bring it down and into the vagina.  This is why a guy pulling out to ejaculate, then having sex again without ejaculating, can still get someone pregnant.  The sperm can live a while in his urethra.

It would be a bigger chance that your husband produced the baby than the boyfriend producing it, just because more sperms would be available from him.  But it would help to know your dates more clearly.  What due date has the doctor given you?

[AnnieBrooke]

When you had the ultrasound on July 6, did they give you a number of weeks pregnant or an estimated due date based on the measurements of the embryo as seen in the ultrasound?  If so, we might be able to figure out a possible conception date from that.

[livort]

Next month on 6th july. I have a feeling this baby is not his, but i didnt know that pre *** contain sperm. So it doesnt matter if the guy came inside or just pre ***. It could have the same result?

[AnnieBrooke]

When was your next ultrasound, after the one in your fourth week?  Yes, there is a chance the baby came from either guy the way you are describing the situation.  As I said, the fact that he didn't ejaculate is not enough to rule him out, because there can be sperm in pre-ejaculatory fluid.

[livort]

Yes, I had on my 4 th week, but the doctor cannot determine the exact date of ovulation. Doctor said 10 nov - 15 nov or earlier, but he wasnt sure. The other guy didnt came inside me on 15 Nov only pre-*** because after that he came outside and I saw him doing it. I had sex with my husband on 10 & 17 nov. Is there a chance that this baby belongs to the other guy?

[AnnieBrooke]

If you had sex on the 15th with the other guy, he could be the father.  Taking a pregnancy test on November 18 would be too soon for a positive to appear related to sex on the 15th, the fact that it a test on the 18th was negative does nothing to rule him out.  Pregnancy tests don't give an instantaneous answer (one woman writing in to this site thought you could have sex, then take a test an hour later, and it would say yes or no, sorry to say it doesn't work that way.) You have to wait at least a week or sometimes two before a test will show a pregnancy.   Getting a negative on the 18th does nothing to rule out sex on the 15th as producing a pregnancy, since it would be too soon for a pregnancy to show up, and getting a positive on the 25th rules out only the sex on the 22nd.  But a positive pregnancy test on the 25th does nothing to rule out the sex on the 15th as producing the baby.

The fact that he didn't ejaculate is not enough to rule him out, either, unfortunately.  There can be sperm in pre-ejaculatory fluid.

I hope for your sake that the baby is from your husband, but there is not really any evidence leaning more toward him than the other guy except that he ejaculated.  Did you have any really early ultrasounds?  (Like, in your 6th week?)

[livort]

Thx Annie for you answer :). Actually, I also had sex with this guy on 15 th (but he didint came at all, only a pre ***) I got a negative result on 18 November. On 22 November, we had sex & he didnt come inside. I was afraid there might be a little bit of sperm left when we had sex for the second time. I am so relieved if the child belongs to my husband.

[AnnieBrooke]

If you got a positive on a pregnancy test November 25, sex from November 22 did not produce it.