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Hi I'm 25 & just found out on May 4th I was 3wks (2wk gestational age) pregnant.. I'm currently 13 weeks now.. My last lmp was March 28th but I had unprotected sex with my close guy friend April 2nd for the last time, we still decided to remain friends.. our fling lasted a whole 2months.. but our last sexual contact was the second of April.. After we said our goodbyes I made amends with my ex boyfriend which is Guy#2 & we got together a wk after Easter (April 5th - present) ...Well to make the long story short Im wondering &confused on when did i get preg with my baby & whos the dad.. Only trying to put these pieces together... thanks soooo MUCH !
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You found out on the 4th of May that you were 3 weeks pregnant? How did you find out the number 3 weeks?
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Right, what I am saying is, how did you learn that you were only one week preggo including 2 week gestation age of the fetus? Did you have an ultrasound?
The emergency room also I got a dating scan a couple of weeks later when the baby was visible.. my lmp & dating scan adds up correctly!! Though...
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When you got a scan "a couple of weeks later," did were you what, at 5 weeks 0 days? Could you be specific? Was that 'dating scan' at the ER, or at your ob-gyn? If the latter, what estimated due date did they give you at that time (i.e., at the ultrasound where you were "a couple of weeks later when the baby was visible")?
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In other words, I'd like to hear the estimated due date you were given at the earliest ultrasound you had, except, not the one at 3 weeks GA that was done at the ER, if it was an ultrasound.
The due date is January 6, 16 I made a mistake and gave them March 31st for my lmp it's actually 28th... so I'll say Around January 3rd..
I could've got pregnant at least five days before I ovulated or did I get pregnant after ovulation I'm totally confused...
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Was the ninth-week ultrasound at your ob-gyn's, or was it at the ER?
You say you went for your dating scan on 6/3/15, and they said you were 9 weeks 4 days GA. In that ultrasound, did they give you an estimated due date based on the ultrasound? (Not based on what you told them regarding when your last period was and what you now think that means if you gave them a wrong date.)
Usually on the ultrasound report, it will say the calendar date [June 3], the weeks GA [9w4d], and an estimated due date (EDD) right on the report. I am looking for what the report actually says, not your estimate and your corrections. I am looking for what someone with medical training, measuring the embryo in an early ultrasound, said at that time.
You say you went for your dating scan on 6/3/15, and they said you were 9 weeks 4 days GA. In that ultrasound, did they give you an estimated due date based on the ultrasound? (Not based on what you told them regarding when your last period was and what you now think that means if you gave them a wrong date.)
Usually on the ultrasound report, it will say the calendar date [June 3], the weeks GA [9w4d], and an estimated due date (EDD) right on the report. I am looking for what the report actually says, not your estimate and your corrections. I am looking for what someone with medical training, measuring the embryo in an early ultrasound, said at that time.
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Also, when you had sex on April 2 with the other guy, was it unprotected?
Yes it was unprotected and yes I had it done at a On clinic.. considering March 31st was my lmp they only use that date so after they did my first dating scan they told my 9weeks4days due date January 6,2016
Here in Mississippi they go by your last lmp always & go from there... but that's exactly what the dating scan had on there..
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If the ultrasound tech said you were 9 weeks 4 days "pregnant", it would not count back to conception but to two weeks before conception, even in Mississippi. All medical counts of pregnancy (the GA, which is the number like 6 weeks 3 days or 11 weeks 4 days) begin on the first day of the last period you had before getting pregnant, or a computed first day of last period (computed from averages of lots of women), calculated at 2 weeks before conception. If a doctor says to a woman, "Congratulations, you are 8 weeks pregnant!" he means 8 weeks since her last period began, or about 6 weeks since conception.
The count is done this way because the period is a big, obvious signal, not because the doctor thinks you are pregnant when you are on day 1 of your cycle. That's why pregnancy, which takes 38 weeks or 266 days from ovulation to full term, is counted as being 40 weeks long. I'm sure they do count full-term pregnancy in Mississippi as being 280 days, the same way they do in all the other 49 states. They add a spare two weeks at the front to count back to the presumed first day of the last period.
This can sometimes mean that a woman's GA count given to her by a doctor does not align perfectly with when the first day of her last period really was. (A woman who has 60-day cycles, for example, might ovulate at day 46, and trying to compare to what the doctor said was the first day of her gestational age would not match up. But the ultrasound sees and measures the actual embryo, so for a woman who gets a GA count that doesn't line up with her real period, she should believe the GA count, less two weeks, for dating conception.) When the doc told you that you were 9 weeks 4 days 'pregnant,' he was saying your embryo measured about what an embryo would measure that had been conceived 7 weeks 4 days ago.
The only other thing to remember is that ultrasounds can become less accurate for determining a conception date as the pregnancy progresses, since although all embryos begin life as one cell, some grow more quickly or slowly than others. An ultrasound at 6 weeks 1 day can be spot-on for dating conception, and then in the same pregnancy an ultrasound at 12 weeks can have a margin for error of +/- about 7 days. This puts your ninth week scan at about halfway in this count, or with a margin for error of +/- 3 or 4 days.
I asked about the guy on the 2nd because sperm can live in your system a while. But even if his sperm lived 5 or 6 days after the 2nd, I don't see it quite stretching to the 11th, which is when your ninth-week ultrasound suggests you conceived, even with a three-day margin for error computed in. It's a close thing, but I don't think so. Is the baby a boy? If so, that would be even a stronger suggestion he is from your boyfriend and not the first guy.
The count is done this way because the period is a big, obvious signal, not because the doctor thinks you are pregnant when you are on day 1 of your cycle. That's why pregnancy, which takes 38 weeks or 266 days from ovulation to full term, is counted as being 40 weeks long. I'm sure they do count full-term pregnancy in Mississippi as being 280 days, the same way they do in all the other 49 states. They add a spare two weeks at the front to count back to the presumed first day of the last period.
This can sometimes mean that a woman's GA count given to her by a doctor does not align perfectly with when the first day of her last period really was. (A woman who has 60-day cycles, for example, might ovulate at day 46, and trying to compare to what the doctor said was the first day of her gestational age would not match up. But the ultrasound sees and measures the actual embryo, so for a woman who gets a GA count that doesn't line up with her real period, she should believe the GA count, less two weeks, for dating conception.) When the doc told you that you were 9 weeks 4 days 'pregnant,' he was saying your embryo measured about what an embryo would measure that had been conceived 7 weeks 4 days ago.
The only other thing to remember is that ultrasounds can become less accurate for determining a conception date as the pregnancy progresses, since although all embryos begin life as one cell, some grow more quickly or slowly than others. An ultrasound at 6 weeks 1 day can be spot-on for dating conception, and then in the same pregnancy an ultrasound at 12 weeks can have a margin for error of +/- about 7 days. This puts your ninth week scan at about halfway in this count, or with a margin for error of +/- 3 or 4 days.
I asked about the guy on the 2nd because sperm can live in your system a while. But even if his sperm lived 5 or 6 days after the 2nd, I don't see it quite stretching to the 11th, which is when your ninth-week ultrasound suggests you conceived, even with a three-day margin for error computed in. It's a close thing, but I don't think so. Is the baby a boy? If so, that would be even a stronger suggestion he is from your boyfriend and not the first guy.
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In other words, counting the margin for error I get a range of perhaps April 10 to April 16 or so, for conception. Not early enough to be the first guy.
Are u a nurse Ms.Annie Brooke because u are really good with calculations... ;) I don't mean to sound dense or anything but it's been quite a long time for me this pregnancy was also a shock.. I have one daughter she's 7.. so it's been seven years since I've had a child... Lol.. so you're going with guy #2..? Its adding up to him..
U are a very helpful person..! And I thank u so much... why would it make a stronger suggestion if the baby is a boy..? But I'm not sure yet I'll have 2 more months to go in order for me to find out the gender..! ;) ;)
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No, not a nurse, I have a law degree.
Mostly it does add up to the second guy. But not by all that many days. The sperm from the guy on the 2nd could have been alive on the 7th or even the 8th in your system. I still don't think the margin for error stretches back that far, but in your shoes I would do a DNA test when the baby is born, to put this question to rest once and for all. If you are going to file for child support, you will need to do a DNA test anyway, an official one that comes from a lab certified by the family courts in your jurisdiction for determining paternity. In other words, not a drugstore test.
It seems like you can go through the pregnancy assuming the baby is from the second guy, but should still test in the end, because you never want to be looking at the child and wondering.
Mostly it does add up to the second guy. But not by all that many days. The sperm from the guy on the 2nd could have been alive on the 7th or even the 8th in your system. I still don't think the margin for error stretches back that far, but in your shoes I would do a DNA test when the baby is born, to put this question to rest once and for all. If you are going to file for child support, you will need to do a DNA test anyway, an official one that comes from a lab certified by the family courts in your jurisdiction for determining paternity. In other words, not a drugstore test.
It seems like you can go through the pregnancy assuming the baby is from the second guy, but should still test in the end, because you never want to be looking at the child and wondering.
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It wouldn't make that much difference if the baby is a boy or a girl, but there is the theory that male sperm die out sooner than female, so if the baby were a boy it might be less likely that the first guy is the dad. This is more theoretical than absolute though.
You're right tho but I was Googling online & some mothers stated that they became right after there periods & etc... that's what kind of had me lost as well... but those data scan will pretty much tell the story!!; )
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Women believe (and write) all kinds of stuff on the Internet based on not knowing anything about how pregnancy is counted. The GA method of counting was invented before there were ultrasounds, and now even the ultrasounds (which see and measure the actual baby) have to add the two weeks at the front end to count back to the first day of the last period, because that is how it has always been done. Doctors are used to saying "You're 11 weeks" when they mean 9 weeks since conception, and the pregnant woman gets used to it really fast too.
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Oh, and they also say they got pregnant right after their periods because they had sex then. But given that sperm can live and stay viable in their body 5 or so days after sex, they could have had a period on the 1st, have sex on the 5th, and not get pregnant until the 10th, and still have the baby be from the sex right after their period on the 5th. That is one of the reasons I needed to know what the doctor or tech said; I needed accuracy for trying to figure out your time windows. The tech saw and measured your actual embryo.
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