3 possible fathers

[angel2299]

My boyfriend had a semen test done in January 2015 that showed he had no normal sperm aka zero morphology. We had been TTC for two years without any luck. I have three older children from previous marriage so I'm obviously fertile. My due date is march 27 2016 based on LMP. My ovulation date should be around July 5. I had a lot of ovulation symptoms July 1-4. But not quite sure when I ovulated because first ultrasound dated me at 6w1d on 8/5/15 and no heartbeat could be picked up yet but it was seen. Second ultrasound on 8/27/15 dated me at 9w3d. Third ultrasound on 11/10/15 dated me at 20w2d. I had sex with guy A on 6/27/15 and he came in me. Sex with guy b on 6/28, 6/30, and 7/10 with a condom every time. Sex with my boyfriend was almost daily and he always came in me. Since guy b used a condom everytime I feel it is unlikely his. But my boyfriends sperm test was pretty abnormal. Any thoughts? And if you want to judge go ahead just remember you're not perfect either and if men can do it and be glorified a woman can too.

[AnnieBrooke]

Delighted for you!  It's nice to see that the logic and rationality of what we were discussing did get confirmed.

[angel2299]

Update my boyfriend is the father even with previous sperm test with zero morphology and Dr telling us we had one percent chance each month!!

[AnnieBrooke]

While it does seem like your boyfriend's odds were very slim, from your first ultrasound I get July 7 and from your second I get July 6.  The only way Mr. Condom would be the dad is if there was a condom accident AND if he had sperm that lived 6 days AND the sperm continued to be viable that long.  That's a lot of contingencies.

One thing you could do before the baby is born that is not wildly costly is to have your sweetie do another sperm test.  Maybe things have changed.

All the best.

[angel2299]

Thanks Annie. I'm not going to spend the money for prenatal test as for now were together he knows the whole story and is willing to forgive n stay only if baby is his. I have plans for a local lab to come to hospital right after birth its $200. Takes a week for results. I never thought I'd be in this situation.

[AnnieBrooke]

1% is better than 0%, after all.  If you want to spend the money, you could get a prenatal DNA test done by Ravgen or the DDC and know for sure.  (I would not recommend any other lab if you go for a prenatal test.)  Otherwise if you're content to wait, you'll save a whole lot of money by testing once the baby comes.

[angel2299]

Also yes I have a copy of the report and my RE had told me we have a 1% chance of conceiving each month!

[angel2299]

Oh jeez pregnancy brain here I just realized if the Dr said baby was measuring two days behind on 11/10 that'd put conception date on 7/7 not 7/3 so that date seems pretty consistent.

[angel2299]

Thanks for your replies. I strongly feel that it must be my boyfriends and that his sperm is bad but it only takes one. Yes I was in the room when he masturbated and I turned the cup in myself the sample was so small which it always is and sometimes there's hardly any semen at all so I do feel he has a sperm problem. He also has been on high blood pressure meds for 10 years and is 41. We tried two years and nothing then the month I got pregnant I ended up messing around. Of course he doesn't believe its his and we will get a DNA test right after birth. My boyfriend also has erectile issues :( I just figure it'd be very hard for me to get pg using a condom and the most likely time frames.

[AnnieBrooke]

I might add, here on the DNA/Paternity community, we don't judge the number of lovers a woman has had.  The only time I've ever seen an eyebrow raised is when she has been unsafe.  

[AnnieBrooke]

I ask (how reliable the sperm test was) because by all you're saying I get conception as being around July 7, and if so the most likely candidate would be your boyfriend.  (Did your boyfriend have the flu or a fever right before he took his test?  Did you go with him when he gave the sample?  Did you see the report?)  Mr. June 27 would not have had living sperm left in you by July 7, and Mr. Condom would not have a big chance either, not because of the condoms but because of the seven-day time period  between June 30 and July 7.  The 8/27 ultrasound suggests July 6, but even then it's a long stretch for the sex on June 30.  But if you had to have a second choice, I'd say Mr. Condom from the sex June 30.

[AnnieBrooke]

How reliable do you think your boyfriend's sperm test was?

[angel2299]

I forgot to add my cycles are usually 26 days long but range from 25-28. And on 11/10 ultrasound Dr said baby measured two days behind making conception date July 3.