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Who is my baby's daddy?

Okay so many of y'all know my situation and are all probably annoyed by all of my questions, lol I'm sorry I just don't have anyone to talk to about this and I need help. The first day of my LMP was Feb 23, I had sex with my bf on March 3rd and he finished inside me. (I make it clear that we were not together at the time but we were before our break up in a 3 year fully committed relationship) then after we had sex we stopped talking again and me being hurt and all I've always been the type that feels better with attention (I hate that about myself but my dad never gave me the attention I needed from a man) anyways, I slept with another guy on March 9th (my supposed ovulation day) then a month later I find out I'm pregnant so of course the first person I tell is my ex (now bf) because he was the only one that came to mind and he automatically thought it was his and asked no questions and I myself believed it until his mom asked for a DNA test since I had hurt him once before and he decided to put it behind us and keep strong but she still never forgot, I don't blame her. I never cheated though it was something else. So I guess then the other guy came back to mind and I been freaking out. So according to numbers I was wondering if each of yall who are willing if yall can do the math (I've already done it myself) but tell me what yall get. In all honesty PLEASE. like I said I had sex with my bf March 3rd and sex with the other guy March 9th, my LMP was Feb 23 (I'm not sure when it ended because I can't really tell when my period ends Idk if I count the brown left over blood or just the heavy days) and I've only jotted down my last 3 periods which have been Dec 25 Jan 25 and Feb 23 I'm not sure if those numbers are needed but your answers will definitely help in my decision on what to do. So please be honest with what you get, who's my baby daddy? Thanks in advance.
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I am glad you have decided to keep your baby, it is a very hard decision to make. In my honest opinion I think the best thing you can do is be honest with your fiance about the fact that there is a slim possibility that this baby might not be his and that you should get a DNA test after the baby is born. He might be hurt when you tell him,but he could get over that in time,he can request a DNA after the baby is born as well and if he where to find out that way rather than you telling him, or when the baby is older and it comes out a different way it would hurt him a lot. Just give it some though.

Good luck with everything, H&H9M!!!
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My first pregnancy I didn't feel an attachment to my son until after he was born... I was excited and protective of the baby inside me but its common not to feel very attached... once you see them, see that they are little people with their own personalities, every minute you will become more and more in love! A childs love for their mommy is the best feeling ever. :) I know you have mixed emotions but I hope everything works out for you, I know its hard I'm in the same situation... has had me torn with happiness and being terrified these past 35 weeks. One thing is for sure, we have these little ones insid us depending on us to be strong :) xx
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Thank you for your answer.
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I have a pregnancy wheel like the drs have...with LMP on Feb 23rd it shows probabal date of conception March 9th...im sorry but i honestly dont think its your fiance's...
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I'm sorry, my intent was not to attack you. I realized after I'd already commented it was harsher then needed. I was only trying to.point out that adoption would seem.to be a better option as apposed to abortion, for YOUR mental health and physical health AND for you baby, I wouldn't.have judged you either way.
Regardless I'm glad that you have decided to keep your baby. Congratulations and good luck!
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Thank you smiley and thank you Emily, I see that some other comments where deleted, thanks for the support!
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