Dna

[Mamabear4321]

If I had my last period on nov 26th and had an ultrasound on Jan 13, it said I was 7 weeks exact, how accurate would it be?
I had sex on nov 5 with not my love , he used a condom and I had sex after , I'm not sure exactly when , with my love, no protection, it would be my loves correct? I'm so stressed and it would kill him.

[Mamabear4321]

I don't want it to be the guy I had sex with on nov5,

[AnnieBrooke]

I can see that.  What I can't understand is specifically what part of the story makes you think the guy November 5 has any chance to be the dad.  Possibly I could address that particular part so you could understand it.

[Mamabear4321]

Idk. I just made a mistake and it haunts me. So when I found out it just popped into my head. I don't really know too much about conception or periods or ovulation. So I thought "what if that wasn't your period, what if this ruins your life, what if what if what if"

[AnnieBrooke]

Hm, well, please keep in mind that it's easier to invent what-if stories than to face that you did something you are ashamed of and can't change.

In this forum we often see women with guilty consciences (or other existential worries such as shame over being unmarried and pregnant, or not liking their boyfriend very much, fear of divine retribution, fear of living in poverty with a baby and no partner) obsessing over dates instead, even in the face of all medical evidence. This is because doing so is easier than living with the thing that is really bothering her. No amount of answers and reassurance over dates will stop anxiousness if that is not really what is causing the anxiety.

If you can't shake the anxiety over having cheated and it has reached the point where you reject the answers that ultrasounds and doctors have given you, see a counselor or therapist, and work on the real reason you feel anxious (not on a false target like an unrealistic worry about dates). Otherwise you risk ending up doing a DNA test and then writing in and saying "How reliable are DNA tests?  What if the test is WRONG?!?!?"  

Good luck, find a way to process your guilt.  Parenthood is tough, stay rational. :)

[AnnieBrooke]

The sex you are worried about is November 5, (not December 5), right?  In other words, you had sex, 21 days later you had a period, and then you got pregnant, am I understanding this?  (What are you worried about again?)  Did they give you a due date when you had your ultrasound?  Was it around September 1 or 2?

[Mamabear4321]

I am worried about the nov5 sex. And yes my due date is sept 1. Im not sure when I got pregnant but on Jan 13 my ultrasound said 7 weeks exact. So I did get pregnant after my period right?

[AnnieBrooke]

Of course.  Why were you worried?  Women don't have periods if they are pregnant.  Your ultrasound indicates a conception date a whole month later than the sex you are talking about.

[AnnieBrooke]

Here is what the conception calculator I use says if you key in a due date of September 1.

Probable date of ovulation:
December 9

Possible dates of conception:
December 5 to December 13

[Mamabear4321]

So there is no way it could be from the nov 5th sex right? 100% sure?