I was fine.now.im confused..

[madisondeforest]

can you get a positive test back 2 weeks after conception???  I was looking online and it said very unlikely.... but that means my 8 week ultrasound is off. im worried.

[AnnieBrooke]

Don't worry about it in the slightest, Madison.  I think you are going to do fine as a mother.

[madisondeforest]

* I apologize gosh sorry

[madisondeforest]

*apologize

[madisondeforest]

sorry I didnt mean to cause any drama. I wont ask about this stuff again. my apologies.

[AnnieBrooke]

scaredold, I'm the CL of the DNA/Paternity forum, an extremely anxiety-driven forum made worse by the hormones of pregnancy.  People ask and ask and ask and then come back with fresh worries.  One poster wrote in literally 105 times asking the same thing in different ways.  And I answered her each time.  The solution for someone in such a world of hurt is to see a counselor, but she wouldn't, she just came on the site and wrote the question again.  All of the CLs here are volunteers, and the rules of the site prohibit excessive posting of the same question.  I'm sorry if you think I was mean to madison, but she has a very obvious situation (the men were 5 weeks apart and if I recall, she had a period in between).  Her numbers are not really in doubt, as she herself has acknowledged before.  She needs a bracing wake-up that it is time to stop fretting, so she can begin to develop herself an adult outlook as a prospective mom.  Answering the question about dates again would NOT change her anxiety level, because it is not really what she is anxious about.  But acting like she has it in her to be an adult over this, might help.  People can do pretty well when they suck it up and stop working themselves up.  It's her time to do this, she's about to be a mom.

[scaredoldlady]

sometimes people are just scared and that replays in their minds and that may replay over and over..not everyone is as solid as you,  dont get me wrong please, but I think unless you walk not even a mile, but a foot in those shoes it may be hard to understand..its ok to feel scared and unsure,  That is why they are on this site looking for answers,  You have great input and it seems you are always there with an honest answer and that is great and all but go easy on them,  Us...  I am signing off now as I feel that whatever is to be is to be

[madisondeforest]

thank you, I appreciate all your help always. I will try to just calm down. I just am a worry wort in general about a lot of things. I guess its time for me to get out of that faze and grow up. I am very excited to be a mom. I want the best for my baby. I guess thats why im worried about paternity cause the other guy is really not the best option for a father at this time in his life. I will relax do all I can to relax and tell the people around here to back off about the situation. I appreciate all your time and help .

[AnnieBrooke]

Honey, you're going to be a mom.  There are tons of time a mom has to make her own call and look the world calmly in the eye.  I don't expect you are going to wring your hands and whine about how nervous you are and let the whole town tell you what to do when you have to go fight for your child getting a better education at the elementary school, or make a decision about treatment when your child is sick.  You are going to be the adult in this relationship, so you might as well practice being the one who makes the call.  Just look the emotional bullies in the eye and say calmly, "There is no mistake.".

[madisondeforest]

I am sorry if I seem annoying. I just get confused.. I am a young 19 year old girl and im just nervous I live in a small town where everyone knows my situation and is judging me amd keeps bringing up the topic of this.not being my boyfriends baby..its just.upsetting and my dates if my ultrasound is correct would be 5 weeks 3 day difference from the other guy. but everyone keeps asking me " what if somehow" I tell them its not a chamce and they drag me down I guess..im sorry.  im not trying to annoy.

[AnnieBrooke]

And for what it's worth, I got a positive on a home test before my IVF doctor's blood test, and he does blood tests on day 14 from conception.

[AnnieBrooke]

Hi, Madison, you post, people help you, and you end up saying that you realize your dates are five weeks apart and that you know there is nothing to say the wrong guy is the dad.  Then after a while you come back saying "I have thought of something else and am worried!!!."  Everyone you have talked to on the Internet and medical professionals in person have told you that you have no reason to worry about paternity.  If you are anxious in general, please see a therapist, what is bugging you is probably something in your relationship or in your past behavior, and not really the paternity question.