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This is gonna be kind of long and I'm sorry I hope you guys tell me your opinion. So I was with my ex for 6 months and around July 19 or 25 I don't remember the exact date but it was a weekend of those days I decided to have a couple of drinks and cheat on my bf with another guy and he told me the next day he came inside of me so he bought me a plan b so ok I know I wasn't pregnant. Few days maybe weeks me and ny boyfriend decided to have sex and we never did use a condom so we had sex through the 1st and 2nd week of august, we had sex like crazy. On august 8th I remembered that we had sex and I had to clean myself because I think he came inside of me. (He was kind of tipsy so he doesn't remember) and on the night of august 9th I decided to be a ******* and have sex with the other dude I ****** in July & obviously we used a condom because he always had used one except for that one night he came in me because we were feeling good. So know I'm iffy about who is the father of the baby. I want to say its my ex because we never did use a condom. Anyone else have opinions?? Does the day of getting my period have anything to do with knowing whose it could be?
COMMUNITY LEADER
You're asking if having sex on August 8, which was before a normal, full-length period that began August 11, would have got you pregnant? No.
You had to have gotten pregnant from sex AFTER your period. That is the way it works. A woman does not have a period if she is pregnant.
You had to have gotten pregnant from sex AFTER your period. That is the way it works. A woman does not have a period if she is pregnant.
Yes I did have sex after my period. If I had to clean myself with guy A because he came inside of me, could it possibly mean I didn't clean myself right?
COMMUNITY LEADER
OK, so how do these relate?
"Sex with Guy A: 1st & 2nd week of Aug. I clearly remember on Aug. 8th I had to clean myself with guy A which was my ex. Unprotected sex.
Sex with Guy B: Aug. 9th but protected sex."
and then your period on August 11 and -- no more sex with either of them?
In other words, are you saying that after the first day of your last period, August 11, you never had any more sex?
Your conception dates would be at least a week after that, you really had no more sex after August 11?
"Sex with Guy A: 1st & 2nd week of Aug. I clearly remember on Aug. 8th I had to clean myself with guy A which was my ex. Unprotected sex.
Sex with Guy B: Aug. 9th but protected sex."
and then your period on August 11 and -- no more sex with either of them?
In other words, are you saying that after the first day of your last period, August 11, you never had any more sex?
Your conception dates would be at least a week after that, you really had no more sex after August 11?
Quick question around how much will they charge me to get an ultra sound for the measurements and due date? If they will even charge me.
No because on the 11th of Aug. I got my period it was regular and lasted 7 days. And I just stopped talking to my ex (guy A) and guy B. Yes they gave me an estimated due date based on my last period. Actually a possible due date of the 20th, very close. Could you at least tell me whose baby it could be just from what I'm telling you?
COMMUNITY LEADER
OK, and after August 9, did you continue to have regular unprotected sex with Guy A?
Was the estimated due date given to you up to now based on your last period? (Guess it had to be, right?) Does that mean they gave you a possible due date of May 18? For that due date, your possible conception window (if your cycles were regular) would be:
Probable Date of Ovulation: August 25
Possible Dates of Conception: August 21 to 29
It almost sounds like all the sex with Guy B is too early. But that is if timing things on the first day of your last period is correct, and I think it can't be counted on because you took Plan B.
Go thee to a doctor, sweetheart, and get that ultrasound. Write back when they give you an estimated due date and we'll see if we can chop some dates.
Was the estimated due date given to you up to now based on your last period? (Guess it had to be, right?) Does that mean they gave you a possible due date of May 18? For that due date, your possible conception window (if your cycles were regular) would be:
Probable Date of Ovulation: August 25
Possible Dates of Conception: August 21 to 29
It almost sounds like all the sex with Guy B is too early. But that is if timing things on the first day of your last period is correct, and I think it can't be counted on because you took Plan B.
Go thee to a doctor, sweetheart, and get that ultrasound. Write back when they give you an estimated due date and we'll see if we can chop some dates.
First day of my last period: Aug. 11.
Sex with guy A(my ex that I've been with for 6mo): was most of the time. We never had protected sex.
Sex with guy B: either the Friday night of July 19 or 26 not quite sure but I know its either one of those nights. Unprotected sex. The day right after our unprotected sex I took the plan b pill.
Sex with Guy A again was 1st & 2nd week of Aug. I clearly remember on Aug. 8th I had to clean myself with guy A which was my ex. Unprotected sex.
Sex with Guy B: Aug. 9th but protected sex.
Sex with guy A(my ex that I've been with for 6mo): was most of the time. We never had protected sex.
Sex with guy B: either the Friday night of July 19 or 26 not quite sure but I know its either one of those nights. Unprotected sex. The day right after our unprotected sex I took the plan b pill.
Sex with Guy A again was 1st & 2nd week of Aug. I clearly remember on Aug. 8th I had to clean myself with guy A which was my ex. Unprotected sex.
Sex with Guy B: Aug. 9th but protected sex.
COMMUNITY LEADER
An estimated due date would help only if it was given to you by the measurements of the embryo seen on an early ultrasound. Until you get an ultrasound (try to get one next week if you can), you cannot really know your estimated due date with any certainty. There are two ways to compute estimated due date, one is counting forward from the first day of your last period, and the other is counting backwards from the embryo's size. Counting forward from the first day of your last period will give you a general guess, but if your periods are not regular like clockwork (and if you took Plan B, they won't be), the estimate could be way off. Counting backward from the estimated due date given to you by measuring the actual size of the embryo on an actual day, is much more precise. However, even it is not reliable if you wait too long. For an estimated due date to be useful for determining a conception date, it has to be from a relatively early ultrasound. If I am reading any of this right, it means you have to hurry.
I am actually having a lot of trouble understanding your whole story. Could you write it out like this:
(date) first day of last period
(date) sex with guy A (protected/unprotected)
(date) sex with guy B (protected/unprotected)
(date) took Plan B
(date) sex with guy A again (protected/unprotected)
(date) sex with guy B again (protected/unprotected)
Because the way you wrote it out, for all you really know now, you could just as easily have been pregnant before you ever had sex with guy B.
Long and short of it, if you want to have any chance of making even a close guess before the DNA test, do everything you can to get an ultrasound next week, from an ob-gyn's office or clinic (not the ER) and get from them an estimate of the GA (gestational age, which is counted from the first day of your last period, not from presumed conception) and especially get an estimated due date based on the measurements of the baby in the ultrasound, not based on your first day of your last period. Without that, it is going to be a waiting game until the baby is born, to get the DNA test then.
I am actually having a lot of trouble understanding your whole story. Could you write it out like this:
(date) first day of last period
(date) sex with guy A (protected/unprotected)
(date) sex with guy B (protected/unprotected)
(date) took Plan B
(date) sex with guy A again (protected/unprotected)
(date) sex with guy B again (protected/unprotected)
Because the way you wrote it out, for all you really know now, you could just as easily have been pregnant before you ever had sex with guy B.
Long and short of it, if you want to have any chance of making even a close guess before the DNA test, do everything you can to get an ultrasound next week, from an ob-gyn's office or clinic (not the ER) and get from them an estimate of the GA (gestational age, which is counted from the first day of your last period, not from presumed conception) and especially get an estimated due date based on the measurements of the baby in the ultrasound, not based on your first day of your last period. Without that, it is going to be a waiting game until the baby is born, to get the DNA test then.
I'm single at the moment me and my ex (the one im sure is my baby daddy) were working things out not for the baby but for the both of us. And the guy I slept with in July always wore a condom except for the night we hooked up the first time because we had to many to drink but I did take a plan b pill then me and my ex had sex on the 8th and then the guy I hooked up with in July we had sex on the 9th but he did use a condom
No I haven't got an ultra sound yet but they gave me an estimated due date, will that help? And when and how can I find out the conception date?
COMMUNITY LEADER
Did you have an ultrasound yet? If so, when was it (what week pregnant did they say you were) and especially, what due date did they give you? Because the sex with both guys was so close together it might not help, but it might help identify the conception date.
It sounds like it's you're ex boyfriends hun.. You are still with you're current boyfriend now? Im just a little confused.. did you use protection with you're boyfriend? I know you said you didn't use a condom with the guy you cheated with and you took plan B..
Morning after pills aren't always effective especially if you only take one. Trust me I took one less than 24 hours after unprotected sex and here I am 32 weeks preggo. Only way to be sure is to take a DNA test :/
But if I am 10 weeks now and I do the math it doesn't Add up to the time I had slept with the guy I took plan b with? Or does that not matter?? Help :( I was happy being it my exes but now I'm scared
Ya plan b failed for me years ago. Id say its anyones at this point. Dna test is your only option really. If you remember the first day of your last period it would be helpful insight.
I dont have an opinion on whose but i have a few things to say. Plan b is not 100%. I took it the morning after the only time i had sex and i am now eight months pregnant, so, just keep that in mind.
when was your period? you will be pregnant from the guy you slept with after your period
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