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whos the father
sex october 9th with guy a and got back with my current partner rest of oct nov etc
i am due july 31 ive had 4 ultrasounds that date me due date aug 2nd and july 31st even if i give birth earlier that doesnt mean my ultrasounds could have been 3 weeks apart right? i do not remeber my period
i am due july 31 ive had 4 ultrasounds that date me due date aug 2nd and july 31st even if i give birth earlier that doesnt mean my ultrasounds could have been 3 weeks apart right? i do not remeber my period
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No, you're fine. Guy A is three or even four weeks too early to be the dad.
Even if you were to have the baby early, it wouldn't mean the baby was conceived at a different date than the ultrasounds have indicated. Babies do sometimes come early, after all. That doesn't reach back in time and change when they were started.
In fact, if you had gotten pregnant by Guy A, you would have had the baby by now. Due date for a baby produced by sex October 9 is around the 4th of July.
Congratulations on your new little one. :-)
Even if you were to have the baby early, it wouldn't mean the baby was conceived at a different date than the ultrasounds have indicated. Babies do sometimes come early, after all. That doesn't reach back in time and change when they were started.
In fact, if you had gotten pregnant by Guy A, you would have had the baby by now. Due date for a baby produced by sex October 9 is around the 4th of July.
Congratulations on your new little one. :-)
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so no chance? i keep rethinking because i read online that i could have implanted late and gotten that due date and also my fundal height has been off but this is my 3rd baby and doc says my ultrasounds are inline with my dates that i jus carry big but its still haunting me and its getting so close to due date that i am worried also cause everyone says due dates are estimates
So, your doctor says your ultrasounds are in line with your dates, but to you, medical evidence (plus the fact that if the baby came from the earlier sex it would have been here two weeks already), is less significant than something you read online, because "everyone says" due dates are estimates, and because when you're measured from the outside, your fundal height is "off." Let's discuss.
The "could have implanted late" stuff doesn't impact development of the baby. (Except that if it didn't implant in about 10 days, there would be no baby. Embryos need nutrition.) But the development clock begins on the day the sperm meets the egg and creates an embryo. It doesn't matter when it implanted, what is being measured is the embryo from its day 1. The ultrasound shows how long ago the embryo began, not when it implanted.
"Everyone says" that ultrasounds can be "off" -- ultrasounds are done to check the baby's development, not to tell a woman what day she got pregnant. But if the woman asks for them to be used to tell her when she got pregnant, they will be accurate early in the pregnancy, and if the baby is developing at an average rate, they stay accurate throughout. This is because babies begin as two cells, and then split to four, and then to 8, and then to 16, at a known pace (so much splitting in so many days). After a few weeks, though many babies do continue to grow at an average rate throughout pregnancy, some can develop faster and some more slowly. This means, for those babies whose development diverges from the average rate, later ultrasounds can be less precise than early ones if someone tries to use them to pinpoint a day of conception. By full term, a baby that developed faster or slower than average could measure three weeks bigger or smaller than average on an ultrasound. But in week 7, or week 9, all babies are much closer to the start point, and an ultrasound is reliable when it comes to identifying conception. I am assuming from the fact that your doctor was reassuring you based on your ultrasounds, that at least one of them was in your first trimester, and that there is nothing unusual about the baby's growth rate. This suggests your ultrasounds are not "off," no matter what "everyone" says.
Fundal height is indeed affected by whether you have had other children in the past. The body is affected by pregnancy. We get fatter in unusual places. The muscles holding the uterus in place have been stretched. Etc. etc. A measurement from the outside of the body is also not as reliable as an ultrasound noting the baby's size, crown-to-rump length, and other developmental markers. In a lot of ways, measuring from the outside is kind of outmoded since they know so much more from seeing the actual baby with an ultrasound. My doctor didn't even bother with fundal height.
Besides all of the above, how do you negate that at this point, you would have had your baby in your arms by now if the wrong guy was the dad? Pregnancies don't go on for 42 or 43 weeks, the baby comes.
The "could have implanted late" stuff doesn't impact development of the baby. (Except that if it didn't implant in about 10 days, there would be no baby. Embryos need nutrition.) But the development clock begins on the day the sperm meets the egg and creates an embryo. It doesn't matter when it implanted, what is being measured is the embryo from its day 1. The ultrasound shows how long ago the embryo began, not when it implanted.
"Everyone says" that ultrasounds can be "off" -- ultrasounds are done to check the baby's development, not to tell a woman what day she got pregnant. But if the woman asks for them to be used to tell her when she got pregnant, they will be accurate early in the pregnancy, and if the baby is developing at an average rate, they stay accurate throughout. This is because babies begin as two cells, and then split to four, and then to 8, and then to 16, at a known pace (so much splitting in so many days). After a few weeks, though many babies do continue to grow at an average rate throughout pregnancy, some can develop faster and some more slowly. This means, for those babies whose development diverges from the average rate, later ultrasounds can be less precise than early ones if someone tries to use them to pinpoint a day of conception. By full term, a baby that developed faster or slower than average could measure three weeks bigger or smaller than average on an ultrasound. But in week 7, or week 9, all babies are much closer to the start point, and an ultrasound is reliable when it comes to identifying conception. I am assuming from the fact that your doctor was reassuring you based on your ultrasounds, that at least one of them was in your first trimester, and that there is nothing unusual about the baby's growth rate. This suggests your ultrasounds are not "off," no matter what "everyone" says.
Fundal height is indeed affected by whether you have had other children in the past. The body is affected by pregnancy. We get fatter in unusual places. The muscles holding the uterus in place have been stretched. Etc. etc. A measurement from the outside of the body is also not as reliable as an ultrasound noting the baby's size, crown-to-rump length, and other developmental markers. In a lot of ways, measuring from the outside is kind of outmoded since they know so much more from seeing the actual baby with an ultrasound. My doctor didn't even bother with fundal height.
Besides all of the above, how do you negate that at this point, you would have had your baby in your arms by now if the wrong guy was the dad? Pregnancies don't go on for 42 or 43 weeks, the baby comes.
well thank you for that very detailed info. i guess im just getting scared to give birth.
hey annie sorry to bother again but i am 2 days away from my due date and getting sso nervous. do you think late implantation would be the case here? or you still think i am okay? i also keep thinking well maybe if i concieved from sex oct 9th and takes a few days to concieve then implantation that i could jus be giving birth late?
I just answered you, but wanted to ask what is driving this fear. You obviously don't really think you're four weeks overdue, right?
no i think its just i really dont want jt to be the other guys baby and i have stressed my whole pregnancy over this and im a way overthinker i guess i jus keep wanting reassurance but i really do appreciate you taking the time to give me some reassurance
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If you conceived from sex October 9, the baby would be wildly overdue by now, like you'd be in your 44th week of pregnancy.
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so me not remembering my period and how long my cycles are doesn't play part in me maybe being further? im sorry im probably being super annoying jus terrified that it could possibly
The doctor based your estimates on the ultrasounds, not on whether you could remember your period.
thank you for taking your time annie i appreciate it alot i probably sound like an idiot
Well, sweetie, you do need to do some reading up on the psychological notion called "ruminating," where someone gets obsessive thoughts of things that are just not true and just won't stop. One way you might be able to see the goofiness of the "what-if"s you are telling yourself is to read some of the other posts in this community where other women have done it too. (It's easier to see it as a useless pattern when it's not you doing it. lol)
We get a certain number of posts in DNA/Paternity where it really isn't possible to tell who is the dad because the sex was just too close together to know without a DNA test. But we also get a hefty number from women where it genuinely can't be one guy and has to be the other, and they are still freaking out and can't (or won't) stop. No amount of explanations or reassurance penetrates; they are lost in their anxieties. If you read some of these and can see how obvious they are, it might help you to see that you're being no more rational.
And I will tell you, even though I've had this volunteer task in this community for years, and even though I do have empathy for women who are pregnant and frightened, even I don't go in for patting someone on the hand and saying "You poor dear" if she is just kind of indulging herself in an anxiety head trip. You really should begin to be aware of this kind of pattern as an anxiety reaction, and learn to nip it in the bud. Being a mom is cause enough to get anxious, it will do you good to learn some ability to manage anxiety when you need to be strong for your kid.
Congratulations on your little one. :-) Hope everything goes fine! Write back when the baby comes.
We get a certain number of posts in DNA/Paternity where it really isn't possible to tell who is the dad because the sex was just too close together to know without a DNA test. But we also get a hefty number from women where it genuinely can't be one guy and has to be the other, and they are still freaking out and can't (or won't) stop. No amount of explanations or reassurance penetrates; they are lost in their anxieties. If you read some of these and can see how obvious they are, it might help you to see that you're being no more rational.
And I will tell you, even though I've had this volunteer task in this community for years, and even though I do have empathy for women who are pregnant and frightened, even I don't go in for patting someone on the hand and saying "You poor dear" if she is just kind of indulging herself in an anxiety head trip. You really should begin to be aware of this kind of pattern as an anxiety reaction, and learn to nip it in the bud. Being a mom is cause enough to get anxious, it will do you good to learn some ability to manage anxiety when you need to be strong for your kid.
Congratulations on your little one. :-) Hope everything goes fine! Write back when the baby comes.
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