I have mentioned to him many times that he needs a therapist but he refuses to go. How can you make a 20 year old young man get psychological help if he refuses? He tells me I'm crazy because I bother him. He has 3 sisters that are college graduates and 2 with post graduate degrees. But he refuses to go to even a county college or trade school. I never ever compared him with his sisters but I know he does. How can you make an adult seek treatment?
Your son sounds like he is not only depressed, but lost and confused and very stuck in his life. The very best thing for him is to see a counselor since he probably won't talk about what is really bothering him to his family. He also may have something more serious, but the fact that he has friends sounds encouraging, and of course, drugs are also a possibiltiy, and that means more trouble. so get him to a therapist if you can.