Mixing the perscriptions

[jdove]

My wife has been taking at least 20-30 mg of Lortab,1 aderral, at least 1mg xanax and cybalta for 8-9 months. She seems to losing it accusing me of terrible things constantly with no reason at all. It seems she convinces herself that I'm cheating on her constantly. After 8 yrs. of marriage and 2 little ones we have decided that a temporary seperation is best. Now she says she wants a divorce. All I can say is WOW I'm losing my three best friends for what? Can mixing these drugs with alcohol help someone mentally believe things that are so far fetched? She has lost 18 pounds in the last 2 months. When I say accusations I mean they are downright outrageous. She hasn't shown proof of anything and even her family believes that all of these drugs could be the problem.
Thanks for an as specific response as possible. Also, how do we get her off of these drugs without hurting her? I spoke with her Dr. today and he said will call her in for an appt. Mon. or Tue. and sounded very concerned to say the least. We have had but a few small arguements the entire time we've been married.

Thanks

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

Your wife needs to get off the medications or at least reduce them, but more importantly, she needs to see a psychiatrist or a therapist for a consultation, and if she won't do that, then suggest that the two of you see one together for marriage counseling.  That's the right way to dealwith this.

[laneybuns]

one more thing - you might let her take the xanax - 1mg is not very much - but just one a day as it is  also very addictive.   This will help her stay calm throughout the detox which is crucial.  Please, please, please see a doctor before undertaking detox.  Suicidal tendencies are huge and especially if she realizes she has made mistakes.  If I could, stick by her side.  My husband of 12 years and my 2 young children have stuck by my side throughout all of this even though at times my husband has lost it.  Convey to her that you will be there, that you love her, and you will work through it.

My theory on marriage is people give up way too easily.  Marriage is hard - raising children probably even harder.  But remember your vows always - "through sickness and health".  And, you obviously love her very much.  Always keep that in the forefront of your mind through this very difficult time.

laneybuns

[laneybuns]

I will tell you that I have been on vicodin 10/325 for 3 years in large amounts.  I detoxed from it once between my 8 surgeries.  After I detoxed, I realized that while I am on it (sorry to say I am back on it at high levels because of 1 recent surgery and one more huge one coming up) I am living a different mental picture than what is reality.  I looked back on my mental state when on the medicine and all the decisions I had made were far fetched and ridiculous.  You might convey this to  her.  It is a shame for anyone to make such rash decisions when on "drugs."  What is she on the medicine for in such high amounts?  if you don't mind my asking.  If she can come off it - do it under doctor supervision or hospitalization for a few days as the detox side effects are miserable at best.  She will be very depressed and probably realize she is making a huge mistake.

Good luck and let me know if I can answer anymore questions to the best of my experience.

laneybuns

[jdove]

Thanks for your comments. She has said she only takes a few a day but who knows for sure. She seems ready to throw away a great family because of the addiction. Shes on xanax for anxiety pain pills for what seems to be recreation. Thanks for the inight.