I've been married 20 years, and have three teenagers. I have a history of moodiness, and have been on prozac for approximately 10 years. I am melancholy by nature. I fear I have inherited a mental instability from my mother's side, and my 2 sisters also have instability problems. I have down through the years obsessed over issues, from spiritual matters to child-rearing issues, to relocation, to environmental issues. I seem to become consumed with a particular problem and I cannot rest until it is solved...the problem is that many times there is no viable solution...and if there is, the peace only lasts a short while until the next issue comes up. Each problem becomes gigantic in my mind, and overshadows the rest of my life, often depriving me of experiencing joy in living, and leaving me with a general feeling of insanity. My relationship with my husband is nearly severed, as I have not loved him the way I believe I should love my husband. Through the years, I have attributed my lack of emotional attachment to him to whatever issue was at hand at the time. I have no love for him, other than the love I feel for every human being. I want to end this marriage, but I do not want to be ostracized by my children, my family, the Christian community, and the community at large. I want to someday know what it's like to cherish my spouse, to look forward to time spent together, to protect and care for my spouse, to nurture and complete his life. I believe I can have this, but not with my current husband. I mention my own potential psychological issues first only out of fairness, but my husband also has his own issues. Reading through the author's "signs of troubled relationship", we have experienced most of these signs down through the years. His lack of self-esteem and resulting suffocating jealousy have definitely created in me a bitterness and a general disdain for him. His extreme neediness did nothing to endear him to me. I was a good wife, caring for him and the home and children, submitting to his every sexual whim, but he didn't hold my heart. I was holding to my vows out of duty and religious conviction, but I received no satisfaction from my marriage, other than the satisfaction of knowing that I was doing "the right thing". He has told me on many occasions that I am "nuts", citing my mother's instability and my similarity to her. I am contemplating divorce, but am sometimes convinced that I am indeed just a mental case who needs more medication in order to finish out this life. My mother has struggled for years with her lack of affection toward my father, yet they remain married, it's been 44 years now. The lack of respect she has for him is plain to see, and she clearly struggles to be kind to him, not to mention "loving". She drinks regularly in the evenings, and I suspect it is to drown her disappointment in life. I have been to a counselor several times. I know this is a multi-faceted post, but would like feedback.