help meee

[LMilla7]

i need help its been since like this thanks giving since ive been having really bad homosexual thoughts. Ive never found them arousing and it just creates more stress that i dont need. I always feel myself looking in the mirror naked to know that i dont like male parts. Im also always looking at porn to stop the thoughts from coming but i feel sometimes it just makes it worse. Ive always liked girls i have never thought of being with a man. It been almost a year though since my last girlfriend but i have this girl i am kinda seeing right now. When i get my thoughts i get all nervous and i hit myself sometimes to try and get this **** out of my head. I always get nervous when i have to go to the bathroom and stuff or being in the shower. I always get thoughts to like what if i couldnt get an erection when im with a girl. or why do i like boobs and stuff like that. Its just been really hard and i need a way to stop it.

[TheRealTruth]

Look sweetheart, you are young and curious. Everyone has had a homosexual thought one or more time in their life, it's normal to have thoughts. With all of the images and openness about homosexuality, it's no wonder that many, many, many people have these thoughts. This does not mean you have an obsession. It may mean that with everything that you see and hear, you want to be sure that you are clear about your feelings about the same sex. I am a heterosexual woman. I've never been with a woman but I can say that some strange thoughts have crossed my mind. Hell, I used to think that I was possible born male when me cycle (female thing) didn't start when all of my friends did. But, I am now a mother so that was just a thought. As a teenager, Especially, we are trying to find our niche in life. Psychiatrists and medication are only there when it becomes unbearable and affects every aspect of your life. It seem to me that you are not gay but, if somewhere down the road, you find that you are gay, then embrace who you are, if not, then embrace that too!!! Either way you'll know that you are who you were meant to be. Don't worry. If you are not aroused then these are just thoughts that you have of things that you don' t want to happen. You can not control WHEN your mind thinks of certain things, but you can control how you act on those thoughts.
Talk to your parents or any adults who are around you that have an OPEN mind.
Relax, you are not alone!! :-)
I hope to have been of some help.

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

You need to consider psychotherapy when you're having thoughts like this.  That is the only thing I know that can help you sort this out in your mind.  Having these thoughts does not mean that you are homosexual but it does mean that you have an obsession of some kind.  You would best be served to see a psychiatrist who can talk to you and give you medication.