bit of bg
Single parent home living with dad whos a drunk, and really messes with my mind alot, like i know its something small but years of stuff like this really has messed my confidence up big time, its like my mind has been completely worn out, I study, im 20, but im dealing with home pressures that should have gone when i was like 14, my head hurts so much, i do sometimes want it to stop, whether that means the uh-oh, which ill never do, but just to consider it is enough of a mindwarp,
im thinking of leaving here to go back to my moms, not lived with her since i was 5, and since that point i barely see her, miss her alot too but there the cards life deals,
ive had the offer to have their spare room, its a motivating environment, my dads never looked at a piece of work/art/anything even concerning me, hes probably proud in his own way but its a way thats messed me up i feel. my head hurts so much here, yet over there im refreshed and motivated, ill be away from everything i know at my moms, different lifestyle, no 4am gaming sessions, proper cooked meals, family values, maybe thats what i missed and why, not dysfunctional per se, im not too good socially anymore, my confidence is wiped like the energy from my body, im just dead in the water here...
should i make the drastic change, it is a whole new life away from everything here, i mean outside my house its great i love it, inside where i am mostly i feel im slowly twisting, it hurts alot as im a very chilled out, objective and confident guy in my element but here i feel weak and powerless and just numb to everything
so, should i stay or should i go?
I stay, i keep easy living by not working yet suffer hardships from the mental pressure from him
or go, new lifestyle, job, happy times, more effort
thats what im scared of i think effort, i havent had to here as ive just been left, supported but left alone, over there im not alone and i have the opportunity to support myself?
help me someone?