heartbroken

[vimbfish]

well, hie everybody' im going through a heartbreak..im a college student aged 20. i bn in love with my girlffrioend for a year now but our relationship was suffocating due to our differences but we did love each other ..she told me one day she was preg and she already knew frm long bacjk that i ddnt want a childso we aborted...after 4 months she told me she was preg again so everything went wrong.. she ddnt want see me ..she told me she really wanted to see me but when we met she cud dismiss so early and later told me i annoy her...she told me she was gonna remove and after she remove she said she wanted her alone time .. i freaked out and i heard she hanging out withanother guy..now we dont talk she jus sent me a message saying she aborted the preg and she dont reply my texts .she cuts my calls.i sent her one time she said leave me alone i hate you ..but i love my girl and dont kno wat to do ..to move on or hold on her

[AnnieBrooke]

You said "she dont reply my texts .she cuts my calls.i sent her one time she said leave me alone i hate you ..but i love my girl and dont kno wat to do ..to move on or hold on her"

She is saying get out of my face and my life, she is not saying she wants to have you around.  She is not being cute, she is not being coy, she is clearly and directly saying it is over for her.  When two people get together it is because they both want to.  When one person doesn't want to, the two people don't get together.  Same thing for staying together -- it takes both people being interested.  She's not interested.  That equals, not being together.  

[specialmom]

Hi. Well, I don't think she is giving you any choice here.  She's made the decision for you.  She is moving on, wants to be separate from you and has some bad feelings.  So, that is your answer.  You have to move on.  I think an abortion is hard to deal with for a couple.  And then a second one----  very hard.  Hard emotionally and hard physically on her.  You get to walk away when she's had two procedures in a short time that could cause scar tissue, etc. It's a lot to deal with.  Why didn't you guys use birth control?  That's a must if you are to responsible.  

So, stay in school and get your education.  Time will heal. Learn from mistakes.  Understand that what she is dealing with ending two pregnancies is a LOT and lasts a lifetime for her.  Let her be in peace.  good luck