Well just an update. I think it was all anxiety. I have no trouble and I am almost 41 years old now. I guess anxiety can kill anything. Thanks to all who gave me advice and tried to help.
Well I am in a slump again. I have a hard time keeping erections and I can't keep an erection when she is on top of me while I am on my back or sitting in a chair. I am on the same meds as before. I have Viagra a doctor gave me and if I use only a quarter of a 50mg pill (12.5) iI have zero troubles no matter what position I am in. I can even stand while holding her up and still keep an erection. A couple of times I took it only 10 or 12 minutes before penetration ( I know you are supposed to wait 1 hour) and I had a hard erection. Could it have been a placebo effect?
I am also starting to believe I have some sort of psychological issue. We had sex recently and I was having the usual difficulties. I was behind her and could look into a mirror and see the penetration and got really hard almost instantly ( to the point where it kinda hurt a little). I thought that was a little weird. Could that signal a psychological issue?
One more question. I also don't get morning erections and I have not had any in 12 years or more. I used to get them every morning. I do get night time erections while sleeping but never a solid morning erection. I have been two 2 different urologists and they just don't really care I guess. I am really concerned about this. I shouldn't be having given my age and health.
it most likely the lack of sleep and stress causing the ED. if you work your butt off, you body does not have energy for sex.
Magnesium sulfate (Epsom salt); Magnesium is better absorbed from skin. Take Epsom salt bath to increase you magnesium blood level.Google Epsom Salt of magnesium sulfate.
Learn to do abdominal breathing. This will help to calm your emotions. Another technique is Breath to orgasm. This technique comprises of three type of breaths. Simultaneous breathing, alternate breathing and circular breathing. This is good exercise for fore-play.
Considering magnesium is responsible for around 300 processes in your body - including muscle control, it may definitely contribute to your problem. Cut right back on your caffeine intake, as caffeine robs your body of magnesium.
Remember, when you are having an emotional problem, you are focusing on THAT problem instead of enjoying the feelings in your penis.
Thanks you so much for the advice. Erections have been much better, but not quite what is was in May. I found out my magnesium was low 1.6 Meq/L. The doctor told me that is was really low. He said he wants it around 2. Could the low magnesium have caused softer erections. Thanks
Notice how your mind panics when you feel like you are losing the erection? This is because you don't have an exact procedure to follow during sex, so when an emotional response (anxiety) is triggered, your mind panics and then you lose your erection. This also occurs when a man has a premature ejaculation problem, but it causes him to lose control.
This slump will last until you correct your focusing problem.
What you need to do is control the emotional response program in your BRAIN, so you can remember the next sequence of focus to stay in control of the sexual act. If you try to ignore the associated feelings of the emotional response program (butterflies, tension, blood rush) your mind will panic and you will remember nothing.
Thanks so much for your advice. I hope and pray that is what it is. If we are not in bed and I know we cant have sex, I get hard erections if she just touches my skin. If I touch her feet or her hand, I get a hard erection. We had sex tonight, and it was good for a little while and be erection was beginning to soften. I got on top and it came back, but I didnt last long. I have bad anxiety so I think you are right. How long do think this slump will last and is there anything I can do to work past this issue. Thanks so much
It is likely that one instance of losing your focus during sex (or just before sex) caused you to lose your erection. Constant performance anxiety has become your ongoing problem. When your mind becomes fixated on your ability to get an erection - and how long you will last, your mind is not focused in a way which would cause you to gain (or keep) an erection.
If you are working long hours and feeling tired, that will also affect your ability to stay hard and in control. As will wondering if things are ok with your wife. Remember that your conscious mind can only focus on one task at at time.
If you enjoy the feelings in your penis, you will gain the erection. Then switch focus to attending to your wife's needs to stay in control.
I am followed every 6 months by an Electrophysiologist and a Cardiologist. I have been on sotalol for 6 years. I dont see how this medicine would cause this out of the blue?? I am on it for PVCs. Thanks.
You should see a cadiologist to follow up with him for your medication , he may replace any drug by another. i said that because you are living a healthy life with the same partner , the investigations results you said are quite normal , So, this may be a side effect of long term usage of these medications , so , again, i recommend that you go to a cardiologist ,
Crap I also forgot to mention that I also take Coumadin 12mg daily and Sotalol (betapace) 80mg twice daily. I know ED is listed as a side effect of Sotalol, but I have been on it since 2008 and I didnt bother me then. I usually only take it in the am and forget the pm dose. So sorry for posting like an Idiot.
I forgot to mention I do not smoke or drink alcohol and never have. I also dont eat processed foods most of the week.