Hi, I'm really hoping for some advice on what to do, I'm a bit lost, so apologies for the long post.
I'm a healthy and fit 35 year old guy and over the past year have experience more frequent ED episodes. I came out of a long term relationship about a year and half ago (ED never an issue) and then began hooking up with different girls, all of which I found extremely attractive. Not always sex, sometimes just making out, and usually after being out drinking. First off it happened once after drinking and now its starting to happen when not drinking. But I feel like I'm way too young and healthy to be having these issues. It's torture, I'm meeting these hot and amazing girls who are in to me and I can't satisfy them or myself.
I have a few suspicions about why this could be happening but not sure what action I should take.
a) Performance anxiety?
b) Overstimulus from porn? (used to watch way more than I do now but I acknowledge it may be a cause)
c) Some other biological thing going on? I ride a bike quasi frequently and only in the past year, far fetched?
d) Stress/anxiety/depression? Although I'm a really relaxed person, so this would be deep seeded I guess
These are the steps I've taken so far:
• Raised it with my GP, she ran tests for diabetes, tests on my prostate, kidneys, and bladder. All perfectly normal.
• Went to see an ED specialist who basically told me I was too young to be having these issues and prescribed me Cialis. Which seems to work fantastic, but I want to resolve the issue not just treat it with medication.
The thing now is that I've met this amazing girl and I want to see it where it goes with her. I know talking about it with a partner can prob help t work through it, but i think ED is a tad full on to drop on someone after dating for a few weeks. We have been having sex and I had used the Cialis most of the time, and when not using it took forever to get firm, never really got hard hard, and that was only for oral sex. I tried so hard to clear my mind, relax and focus on sensations but that didn't really help.
I'm terrified and feel great anxiety at the thought this might mess up a really great relationship before it starts.
Thanks so much for any guidance and what my options are :)