Keeping an erection seems to be a problem!

[solvingpuzzles]

Me and my boyfriend have'nt been together that long, but when we first had sex, everything seemed to be working okay, i was on the pill and we did'nt use a condom. After a few times, there began a problem, he could develop an erection during foreplay, but simply could'nt keep it after putting on a condom/taking our clothes off. He works 20 hours a week which could be stressful, he goes to college and coursework seems to be somewhat of pressure, he recently visited a doctor who then told him he suffers from anxiety, which could be the cause of him not keeping his erection. He has been advised to go on some tablets, not sure what they are yet, but it is really making him feel low and self concious... is there anything else we could try?

[solvingpuzzles]

hmm, i will definately be trying these methods, thanks!

[Myron_Long]

The problem here is uncertain but from what I read it sounds like his penis stays hard as long as its being stimulated. If no condom is being used, it only takes about 5 seconds to get on top and penetrate the vagina (back to stimulation). However, when using a condom it could take 30-60 seconds to get the condom on and then penetrate. For some reason, his penis cannot stay fully hard on its own (without stimulation) pass 30 seconds. This is why he keeps going down. You have 2 choices.

1) go back to the pill and no condom
2) if using the condom, figure out a way to keep his penis erect while he puts on the condom

[tkd4u2]

You could certainly try some relaxation efforts during sex. Sounds like he does ok until it's time for intercourse. You can try to get him excited by playing around with him for a bit to see if the erection would come back. Try some different things. Maybe during foreplay don't keep that too long. Who knows.