Erection questions

[310moriceo]

Hey all, im 22 goin on 23.. and for the most part have never had any erection/libido problems.. infact, ive always been really horny. Ive been with the same girl for about 3 years and never had many problems... one time I had problem getting erection, then thought I couldnt get one at all, and after a few days went to the urologist and he said it was all in my head, and it turned out to be correct, after he told me that my problems seemed to dissapear.

The past 6-8 months ive had a lot of anxiety problems/panic attacks, but have been going to a therapist and am doing way better.. even though I was under a lot of stress, I didnt notice any erection problems..

Then about 2 months ago.. my girlfriend accidentally hit my testicle, not very hard but enough that it was a little painful at the time.. then I started worrying that she had done some damage cuz it seemed like one of the veins on the back was swollen or something.. then I started worrying that my erections werent as strong and started noticing a decrease in hardness, especially when my girl was on top.. this ofcourse freaked me out and i started worrying about it alot.

I went back to the urologist and complained about it, and that I had noticed some cloudy urine.

He told me i had prostitis but that my testicles seemed fine. He also said there was no connection between prostitis and erections.

I had some problems with prostitis for the next month, which caused me a lot of anxiety + also feeling like my erections were still not what they used to be..

I went back and he said my prostitis was gone, and I havent had many symptoms the past month.. but have still been worrying about my erection strength. Now I notice my libido has dropped quite a bit and I just dont feel as excited as I used to (probably form anxiety) and have been having more premature ejaculation then normal.

Any idea whats going on? Theres no doubt a large part of it is psychological now as ive been so concerned about it for a while, but any reason there could be a rather sudden decrease in erection strength.. I mean, it seems like most of the time my erection is at 80% when it used to be 100%... even when masturbating to porn it doesnt seem quite as hard.. except for right before I ejaculate..

Another thing is, my erection points to the left.. when its fully hard its not as noticeable but at 80% its more noticeable especially if im sitting. When I was a teenager it always pointed straight up, but i noticed a few years ago it points to the left when erect.. like theres some weak cartilage on the left side at the very base.. but this hasnt caused me any erection problems so i doubt its contributing..

The weird thing is, last week with my girlfriend I had a full erection.. but it just doesnt seem to happen very often etc. I noticed that I was tired alot after working out and didnt have the same physical stamina when this started happening, but other then that im in good shape, skinny, healthy.. work out a lot, do martial arts, eat pretty healthily.. do smoke pot though.


Any help please? Has anyone had a similar problem and cured it ? is it all in my head?

[metropolis]

Your doctor told you there's nothing wrong with you, so you probably have nothing to worry about. You may want to get a second opinion, but I'm sure this is just a case of sexual performance anxiety. Just relax and things will improve.

I'm a terribly anxious person and anxiety can have a drastic effect on a man's sex life. Anxiety and erections don't go well together and there's a logical reason for this. When you face a dangerous situation - real or imaginary - and get too nervous, the release of stress hormones constricts peripheral circulation so that blood can get to your vital organs (heart, lungs). The penis is not a vital organ and the last thing you need in a situation of danger (e.g. escaping a lion) is an erection!

Depression can also have a negative impact on your sex life. There aren't many studies on this, but it is undisputed that depression is both a cause and consequence of ED - ED causes depression and depression causes ED. To make matters even worse, most antidepressants can have sexual side effects.

Sexual performance anxiety is easily treatable, though. In my case, I take three different drugs on demand: Cialis, Vigamed and Seredyn. Cialis is very effective but it is not an anxiety drug. Vigamed (oral phentolamine) is a new ED treatment that blocks the negative effects of stress hormones via the sympathetic nervous system and improves erections. Seredyn is not an ED treatment, it is a natural supplement for the treatment of anxiety that has no sexual side effects. It's a lot of stuff but I'm happy with the results. And if I can do it, so can you.

I hope this helps. Always consult your doctor before you decide to try any of these treatments. Good luck!

[310moriceo]

Thank you for taking the time to submit a detailed reply!

I think you are probably right.. it is probably 90-100% mental..

Although it is conceivable that prostitis could have some effect.

Ive been feeling a bit more relaxed about it and have been reading some books about sexual dysfunction/etc. Today I was actually saying out loud "I can have strong erections whenever I want. My erection is strong" (when no one was around) kind of like a positive affirmation and it seems to help me.

Another thing to help me with the mental stuff is to remember, if it ever got really bad, there highly effective treatment options for any type of ED so its almost impossible in todays society for a man not to be able to have sex if he really wants to.

If it gets any worse I will look into the drugs you mentioned! Thanks man.

[310moriceo]

Any idea though why my erections dont seem as strong/responsive when masturbating to pornography?

like I can get fully hard right before ejaculating or if I stroke it for a while, but it seems to drop down like 20% pretty quickly... I also notice if I flex my PC muscle, it inflates with more blood for like 3 seconds then drops down again..

ive been looking at porn for years so I could just be desensitzied to it.. but this seemed like a rather quick change.. then again im probably reading too much into it.. my erections seem to be stronger/longer lasting with my girlfriend.