Why do I have ED??

[Bikeman80]

Hi, I'm really hoping for some advice on what to do, I'm a bit lost, so apologies for the long post.

I'm a healthy and fit 35 year old guy and over the past year have experience more frequent ED episodes. I came out of a long term relationship about a year and half ago (ED never an issue) and then began hooking up with different girls, all of which I found extremely attractive. Not always sex, sometimes just making out, and usually after being out drinking. First off it happened once after drinking and now its starting to happen when not drinking. But I feel like I'm way too young and healthy to be having these issues. It's torture, I'm meeting these hot and amazing girls who are in to me and I can't satisfy them or myself.

I have a few suspicions about why this could be happening but not sure what action I should take.
a) Performance anxiety?
b) Overstimulus from porn? (used to watch way more than I do now but I acknowledge it may be a cause)
c) Some other biological thing going on? I ride a bike quasi frequently and only in the past year, far fetched?
d) Stress/anxiety/depression? Although I'm a really relaxed person, so this would be deep seeded I guess

These are the steps I've taken so far:
• Raised it with my GP, she ran tests for diabetes, tests on my prostate, kidneys, and bladder. All perfectly normal.
• Went to see an ED specialist who basically told me I was too young to be having these issues and prescribed me Cialis. Which seems to work fantastic, but I want to resolve the issue not just treat it with medication.

The thing now is that I've met this amazing girl and I want to see it where it goes with her. I know talking about it with a partner can prob help t work through it, but i think ED is a tad full on to drop on someone after dating for a few weeks. We have been having sex and I had used the Cialis most of the time, and when not using it took forever to get firm, never really got hard hard, and that was only for oral sex. I tried so hard to clear my mind, relax and focus on sensations but that didn't really help.

I'm terrified and feel great anxiety at the thought this might mess up a really great relationship before it starts.

Thanks so much for any guidance and what my options are :)

[Bobby577]

Hi....initially I was put on a course of 1 injection per week....for 6 weeks..then I went back to the doctor...repeated the testosterone level test...and was prescribed again a course of 8 injections....finally I now take injections once in a month or once in 2 months......injection is very simple...it's all ready made...just like an insulin injection....I take myself.....so do not worry..it's simple...I am also 35 years old..

[Bikeman80]

So are you still taking injections or was it just a course of injections to get your level back up? I'm 35 and a bit daunted at the thought of taking T injections for the next however many years.

I've been thinking about seeing a urologist anyways so this may be the nudge I needed to go and at least chat with someone who deals with this on a daily basis.

thanks once again!

[Bobby577]

My case was low testesterone level...the range is between 2.8 - 8.0....mine was 2.69...So i was treated with injections to increase my testesterone level and its fine now with me.....I saw a urologist...he also prescribed me cialis but for a certain period only...and that too 5 mg per day..

[Bikeman80]

Thanks for the insight. In your case was there a low testosterone treatment that was successful in resolving the ED?

Also, what kind of physician would I see about this? A urologist? I've already seen a GP and an ED specialist (who was the Cialis prescriber) and neither of them mentioned low testosterone as a possible cause. Do I go back and specifically request a testosterone test?

I would consider this quite a possibility seeing how mentally I am incredibly into these girls, I just want to avoid unnecessary trips to see doctors. I'd like to pursue each possibility and as quickly as possibleget myself on a path to overcoming this as I'm positive its going to happen (eventually).

Thanks again :)

[Bobby577]

You have to find the cause of it....some times it is due to psychological factors but in most cases it has physiological factors as well....one cause of ED if everything is perfect is low testesterone level......the doctor(ED specialist) normally runs a blood test to check the level of the hormone.....further to this the blood flow to the penile region is checked to see if there is any restriction......for your case as Cialis works means your blood flow is perfect...you can get your testesterone level checked..I have been through similar situation.....

[Bikeman80]

Cool will do. Yup I think porn is a big contributor but the general thinking about sex all the time must also be exhausting myself. I don't really masturbate that often (few times a week) but my approach to it was almost like 'training' as my goal was to learn how to last longer. I guess this too has turned what should be an enjoyable experience to an exercise of sorts.

I tried to do some meditation yesterday evening and woke up in the middle of the night with a strong erection so I'm positive that I can make progress by learning to quiet my mind and hopefully meditation will help.

Thanks again!

[Bikeman80]

Thanks for the feedback yobh, really appreciate it!

I also forgot to mention that I occasionally get morning wood, but I can't seem to remember the last time I got it.

Do you think theres anything that I could look for as an indicator that it may not be porn? After reading a bit about it, it sounds like a plausible explanation. I just want to make sure I don't overlook anything.

Thanks again!