erection concerns

[dineshtrivedi]

I am 4 years old,  After my radiation treatment for cancer in neck completed in may, I hardly get errection, and it is very very frustrating for not able to satisfy my wife due to por errection, what should I do? what medicine to be taken? Please advice.

[Janice M Epp, PhD]

Hello. Many men have erection difficulties after cancer surgery or radiotherapy. You may feel fatigued for several months after treatment, and this can definitely affect erections as well as any physical activity, not just sex. You need to be patient with your body. You’ve just been through a very traumatic experience—both physically AND emotionally, and recovery takes time. If you put pressure on yourself to be hard RIGHT NOW, you’re setting yourself up to feel like a failure. Once you do that, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. Remember that sex is about pleasure, not performance. Just being close with your wife and touching in a pleasurable way can build intimacy and closeness.

While you’re recuperating, you can do many pleasurable activities that don’t require a full erection. Believe me, you do not need to have a hard penis to give your partner pleasure! Take this opportunity to experiment and have fun with each other. You may find it helpful to increase your range of sexual activity to include oral sex, mutual touching, shared self-pleasuring, or use of a dildo or vibrator to increase your pleasure and that of your partner. First step: discuss this with your wife and find out what she'd like to try. She might surprise you! Good luck. Dr. J

[dineshtrivedi]

Sorry my age is 44 yrs,  by mistake  age shown 4,