having trouble!

i am aged 17 and i have had sex before jus recently like the past couple of months i have been unable to perform properly due to the fact that i can not maintain an erection long enough or get one properly when with a girl but when by myself it is fine, i thought it could be my diet but im not very sure. i would really appriciate some help.  what should i do? do u have any explantions?

[Janice M Epp, PhD]

Dear Ollie:

Hello. Our society does a terrible disservice to men by raising them to think that their penis has to be 10 inches long, hard as a rock and last all night. It’s no wonder that many men feel insecure about their sexuality. Great sex involves your whole body; in fact, having great, mutually satisfying sex is usually quite the opposite of what you see in those performance-oriented sex videos.

The more you think of sex as being about performance, the more worries you'll have. If you're stressed, you'll probably worry even more. And this can be a vicious circle. For most of us, sex is about fun and pleasure. If you think of it as performance, or a “job,” you’ll set yourself for a stressful experience. Remember: Performance can be the enemy of pleasure and fun.

Men receive so many messages that sex is about “performance” and pleasing a partner, rather than just enjoying the pleasure of it. Everything is goal-oriented—like a football game. The other message that many men receive is that sex is somehow dirty and wrong, unless you’re doing it for reproductive purposes. Sometimes this can creep into our unconscious thoughts and sabotage any pleasure.

Two other reasons why you might not be having erections are that you’re bored with your current partner or the sexual activities you’re doing together, or that there are some conflicts in the relationship and you’re feeling anxious or angry.

It’s also important to remember that if you’re having erections at other times besides with a partner (morning erections, being sexual with yourself, etc.), chances are there aren’t any physical causes. If you aren’t EVER having erections, see your physician for a check-up, because you might have a medical condition that’s interfering. Good luck! Dr. J

[strongboy_f5]

Use viagra by prescription. Im not a doctor by the way .

[timannn]

it just could be performance anxiety.

http://www.whitelotuseast.com/PerformanceAnxiety.htm

read up about it. it could be all in the head.