hi i got same troubles, im trying to focus on phisical pleasure but its not easy to concentrate on it at once, problem is that when you get ashamed with one girl, second time you think to not get F...d up again! i use sometimes cialis, im geting hard but not like i use to be in a morning sometimes)), now i have one girl, she's not my girlfrind we just banging, i know if one day im not gonna use Cialis im gonna get ****** up and i know im will lose this girl(i dont really want it) can you tell me please if there is any exesises to work on concentration or something like that? there is any way to fix my troubles?
Two things.
One, if you masturbate a lot and watch plenty porn and hardly get anything in real life, then that could be a factor.
Secondly, when you worry about getting an erection, you don't get any.
If it's not those 2, then something is wrong with your body but the 2 I mention are your main worry. I was the same man, could get hard from masturbation but first time with a girl, didn't get hard.
It affected me and it played on my head. Stopped masturbating for 5 days and stopped worry then had a very good time with my girl. Took a while to get hard but once i got hard it lasted while i was in here and I lasted from 30 seconds some weeks ago to over 15 minutes this time.
Seems like you are stressed out. Be Relax before sex
Sounds like you are just anxious...or have something called performance anxiety. Without even realizing you could feel pressure to please your girl so much that you physically get stressed out and it causes you to loose your erection. Just try focusing on physical feelings and how much you care about your girl. She will be pleased because she's with you!