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Getting hard problem
Hi I'm 16 and sometimes I have problems getting hard,when I am about to have sex it just doesn't seem to get hard,it usually works when I'm masturbating (the odd time it wouldn't) any suggestions and would Viagra help this?
Remember that sex is for both of you - if you are focused on your penis and worrying about whether or not it's going to become hard, then it isn't possible to become hard. This is because your mind can only focus on one task at a time and you need to focus correctly to activate the correct muscle programs.
So put more of your focus on attending to your partners emotional as well as physical needs. Hold her close, tell her how special she is and enjoy the feelings in your penis as you stroke each other. If your mind starts wandering back to worrying about your penis, flex your penis (same muscle movement as when you need to pee, but you have to hold on) then enjoy the feelings in your penis as you relax the muscle. Then focus on your partner again.
So put more of your focus on attending to your partners emotional as well as physical needs. Hold her close, tell her how special she is and enjoy the feelings in your penis as you stroke each other. If your mind starts wandering back to worrying about your penis, flex your penis (same muscle movement as when you need to pee, but you have to hold on) then enjoy the feelings in your penis as you relax the muscle. Then focus on your partner again.
Viagra is not the answer. You have performance anxiety erectile dysfunction, you are watching yourself and that is stopping your brain communicating with your penis. Take intercourse off the menu for a while and enjoy each other. This will come right when you stop looking at yourself.
Hi Liam!
This is a quite common occurrence when, for example, you're just being nervous about having sex with another person. Another explanation COULD be what is called Sexual Performance Anxiety. This means you might be worried about something, such as being worried about maybe not being able to give your partner an orgasm or being worried about not being good enough in bed overall. I know the possible solution I'm going to give you might be difficult but at least TRY to not think about that. If this is a partner that you love, think about how much you love him or her instead of thinking about theoretical ''failures'' (not being able to give your partner an orgasm isn't really a failure. I just didn't find any good word to use and to you, it might feel like it'd be a failure). If this doesn't work, ask your partner if you two can talk about what makes you worried or nervous, if that's the case. This might help A LOT if you get a good conversation going and might even make things easier in the future as well.
Take care!
This is a quite common occurrence when, for example, you're just being nervous about having sex with another person. Another explanation COULD be what is called Sexual Performance Anxiety. This means you might be worried about something, such as being worried about maybe not being able to give your partner an orgasm or being worried about not being good enough in bed overall. I know the possible solution I'm going to give you might be difficult but at least TRY to not think about that. If this is a partner that you love, think about how much you love him or her instead of thinking about theoretical ''failures'' (not being able to give your partner an orgasm isn't really a failure. I just didn't find any good word to use and to you, it might feel like it'd be a failure). If this doesn't work, ask your partner if you two can talk about what makes you worried or nervous, if that's the case. This might help A LOT if you get a good conversation going and might even make things easier in the future as well.
Take care!
Hi Liam245 , you maybe having a bit of anxiety when you with your partner i bet , you probably nervous as well , thinking you got to do it right and stay erect , please calm down take your time , there is no rush what so ever , you got to relax , Viagra you don't need at all your age its all trial & error , please don't rush into anything , and if you are having intercourse Please use a Condom at all times ,take care & Enjoy your Teens ,
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