Been trying for over a year :(

Question

So af appeared today :( been trying to conceive for over a year now. I track my cm and cervix position everything I understand (meaning position and cm consistency) When I look back at previous months there is definitely a pattern. So why can't I get pregnant. 
I have even holding back from seeing a doctor but I think after af has gone I think it's about time I do. I am so scared though.

laura221188 · Answer

They only reason we have waited so long is we already have a 7 year old. After he was born it was pretty much  all work soo over a year ago wen we decided to try for baby number two we did not think after a year we would still be sitting here with now baby. I read that after a year to seek medical advice so that's why I have waited. Even though we did say a year it does not stop you from worrying.  I just pray that  myself and partner are okay.

RippedonScotch · Answer

its time to talk to the Dr for sure. Fertility specialists are not a scary as they sound. I love the fertility clinic I go to. the nurses there are awesome and they will answer any question i have without an appt. it's fantastic.

RockRose · Answer

Laura,  you need to stop acting out of fear.  That's what you're doing now - you're refusing to get information out of fear.  The truth is,  as a couple you two are infertile.  (Often,  couples are infertile,  not individuals).  

Fear has been keeping you from achieving pregnancy.  Everything is not okay between the two of you,  fertility wise,  and the sooner you find out what the problem is,  the sooner you'll have your bundle of joy.  

Best wishes.

laura221188 · Answer

Soon as af disappears I will be going to get a little check up. Just keeping my fingers crossed that everything is okay with myself and partner that we are just a tad unlucky. :(

koppert1980 · Answer

See your fertility doc ... after a year of unprotected sex you should be pregnant.  Its best to see someone have some tests for you and your partner

laura221188 · Answer

Thank you.

felki · Answer

Seeing a doctor can be scary but a lot of times its a simple visit and they are very caring and explain things to you so that the "lost" feeling goes away.  Sometimes it is better to know then to be left wondering.  Good luck!