Glass of wine??

[SDteacher]

I have been trying to get preg for 7 months.  I have had all the testing and I am clear.  I have had one unsuccessful IUI and waiting to see if I get AF after my recent IUI.  This time around I am taking the gooey suppository, pregesterone. Not fun!  I have been trying to stay healthy... no coffee, no chocolate (no caffine) no sushi, no alcohol....and have been taking prenatal vit. for 7 months.  Is it okay to have a drink since I am not pregnant?  Have sushi?  What do you think??
Is anyone else out there totally making the full sacrafice without being pregnant?  I am not an alcoholic but it would be nice to wind down after work with a glass of red.  I just am afraid that it will decrease my chances.

[psg136]

Live your life!!  This journey can be so hard and it can really take over so if you need that glass of wine to unwind then do it!  I've been going through this for years and have spent way too much time micromanaging everything I do "just in case".  Just have faith, relax as best you can and don't stop living!  Good luck to all of you :)

[SDteacher]

I agree with Tanker chic.  We can not stop living.  This has caused a bit of strain on my relationship because of my stress level of wanting to cc.  I have been a bit uptight the past few months from restricting myself from many of the things  I love and bfn!  I think I will wait until I find out if I am pg or not this time.  If I get a bfn, then I will at least allow myself a drink!  Men have it so easy!

[Tanker Chic]

I do the  same as tina.  I've been trying for almost two years.  At some point to you have start living your life again.  

[wishing4#2]

I think one glass of wine is fine. Especially if it is red. I have read so many success stories for BFP when people had a glass of red wine to relax. I think if we never have anything we like it stresses us more, and that's not good. I tried to do everything perfect the whole last year. This month I had a glass of wine, it felt good, I also didn't get my BFP, but don't think the wine had anything to do with it.

[tina1111]

Ok, I'll probably catch hell for this but, I drink and do all my normal routine from af to o. Once o is confirmed it's all back to the same as if I was pg. I still take vits. The last time I got pg on the 1st try I was pretty much intoxicated. IMO, it's all ok until actually pg. If you have known infertility issues, this probably is not the course to take.

[shesherm]

I dont know but think 1 glass would be OK.  They do allow you to have an occasional drink during PG right?  Actuall the time I got my BFP I had gone out dringking the night before and had a few that weekend I conceived :O)
I have tried to do everything right also ...Prenatals for ever, no caffine, no drinking and......NOTHING.. it's pissing me off so I may have a drink tonight You have to do what you feel comfortable with but I know alot of people who had drinks when they didnt know they were PG and ended up with healthy babies...my sis smoked her whole pregnancy...Dr told her cutting back was best since withdrawl would be more difficult on baby :O(  super sticky baby dust

[SDteacher]

True!  Thanks!  Seemed like a no brainer, but sometimes the frustration & waiting gets the best of me.

[Srfoshee]

Well, if I understood your post you are waiting to see if you are pregnant after an IUI, right? If that is the case, you could be pregnant and have it just not showing on a test yet, and should not have the wine.

Let me tell you what I do.  During the follicular phase I am completly baby healthy and completly avoid the no-no's that you mentioned lilke alcohol, sushi, etc.  Obviously I do the same during the luteal phase, one exception:  If I have a blood test on 11 or 12 DPO that shows I am not preggo, I allow myelf some treats those 2-3 days before AF starts, for me it is cherry coke  : )  

I dont really know the rules about this though. Obviously if there is any chance of an egg being fertilized in there you dont want to, and doing it before O can mess O up, right?  I dont really know, sorry all that for much of no help, huh?  : )