How come I can be 8weeks pregnant and no heartbeat....

[Mariana101]

and my body still has not started the miscarriage process. No bleeding at all and it has been one week without heartbeat (supposedly) . Last week's ultrasound was awful... no heartbeat at 7 weeks of pregnancy. I wanted to wait until tomorrow for another ultrasound to then do a D&C but it amazes me that my body has not realized the baby died> What happen if we did not have all this technology. It's weird. I thought the body was wiser than that. Anybody has any idea about why this happens.

[Mariana101]

Thanks Melissa. I read it. It is so scary though how much damage they can do. I will ask for a guided one so they can see but who knows if they do it. I will call on Monday to make sure they do.

Thanks everyone for the support. I truly appreciated.

They told me they won't do genetic study of the fetus because I have to miscarriage three times for them to do so. So stupid. I will have to pay if I want to do it.

[mhv]

I am so sorry you are having to go through this!  It just isn't fair!  I am hurting for you!
But you are a very strong woman, and will make it through this!  God knows we've been through enough!

I just wanted to make a recommendation for you dnc...
please, make sure they are doing an ultrasound guided dnc.
I know I probably harp on this too much, but just am trying to save my friends from going through what I have these past 8 months.  The ultrasound helps to insure that they do not remove to much of your endometrium, and it's just not a blind dnc.  Both can lead to adhesions and a permenatly thin uterine lining.  

My heart and prayers are with you my friend!!!  
You know I'm here if you need to vent!

there is a website you can check out ~DandCnow.info~  it's not meant to scare you, just to help you to be more educated.

((Hugs))
Melissa

[kris71]

mariana - I am so sorry. I also just went through something similiar. Baby was 6 weeks 2 days and i was just under 8 weeks. No heartbeat either. I also had no bleeding so i had the D&C as well. I know nothing i can say will make it better. It does get better as the weeks progress though and you can start looking towards trying to conceive again. I had my baby tested and sure enough it came back as a chromosome problem. 9x out of 10 this is why the baby has no heartbeat and doesn't grow. it's your body's way of getting rid of something tht would never make it through birth. I know when someone told me this after I just found out my baby wasn't going to make it, i wanted to tell them to shut up but really after I got the test results back I definitely felt better. please let me know if you want to talk. Sometimes, i felt like none of my friends or family understood what i was going through.

[usuk]

good luck honey. one silver lining is it will bring you closer. now you both know what it feels like to lose. up until now all he understood what not "getting". XOXOXOX

[Mariana101]

I went this morning. No heartbeat again. Scheduled D&C for Wednesday because they did not have anything earlier. They said the baby died at 6 weeks 4 days. I am 8 weeks 3 days now! CRAZY that I have to wait!!! I will take time off from work starting Monday in case i start bleeding or something and end up in the ER!! I hope not!!!

I'm actually worry about my husband. He is even more devastated than I am.

This shall pass...........

thanks for the support

[lickerlacker]

I went to my first ultrasound with hubby to hear the babys heartbeart for the first and come to find out the baby had no heartbeat. We decided not to do the d&c But instead took the pills to speed up my body missing the miscarriage and boy was it hell all around!! I feel your pain, send me a msg if you need to. this happened to me last month and hubby and I cried for weeks. It's very hard. Wish you the best!
Stay positive doll

[Mariana101]

Thanks usuk... I have never heard about that. I read a bit about it and I won't be stubborn tomorrow when they scheduled the D&C.

Thanks so much. You saved me:)

[usuk]

i think it's a missed miscarriage technically. if it never had a HB it did not really die it just never got started. at least with my 3rd that was the case. good luck tomorrow.

[misslollipop]

good luck to you

[Mariana101]

wish me luck tomorrow!!! I want this to be over! I'm so mad now. I cried all my tears!!!