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I lost it again
Hi Girls,i have again bad news. I started bleeding yesterday and having pain.I'm on my 8 week of the pregnancy, had a sonogram done at 7 weeks 3d and everything looked ok. Heartbeat and the embryo was right on time. I went today for a visit and u/s because of the bleeding and there was no heartbeat.It stopped at 7 weeks 6d.I'm feeling much worse than with my first miscarriage.I started crying since yesterday and i couldn't even explain to my husband why.I feel so bad right now especially for him.He loves babies so much and i cannot even give him one. I feel so bad when he hugs me, and says that he;ll always love me, and we are going to pass everything together.My doctor scheduled for an d/c on thursday but i really don't want to go. I'm thinking that maybe the heart is gonna beat again but my bleeding tells another thing. I miscarriaged at home the first time and it was terrrible. The pain like labor pain, but the frustration that i had to wait 3 weeks to miscarrie.I really don't have the courage to try again.
I am so sorry for your loss. I had 2 early m/c last year. They were both natural. the first one happened pretty quickly and not too painful-more emotional for sure. the 2nd one I was on progesterone supp. and once I stopped them I m/c soon after-a couple days. I had the choice to do a d&c but I just couldn't bring myself to do it. I, like you, had hoped the little heart would beat and that maybe they just made a mistake. just know that you will get through this again as long as you have support and your dh sounds wonderful. I know if I get pregnant again everyday will have that bit of fear of going through it again but I think taking the chance to hold our healthy baby one day out weighs that fear. take good care of yourself and good luck to you
I'm so sorry for your loss. That's pretty much the same way it happened with me at the end of Jan . except I wasn't bleeding I though everything was fine and we discovered the twins heartbeats we saw two weeks earlier were now nonexistent and the day after I had my D&C, I didn't want to go in for that and cried the whole time going in and leaving for my babies. It's hard and again, I'm so sorry for your loss... try to keep your faith....my prayers are with you.
I am so sorry to hear your news. I lost a baby at 9 weeks of pregnancy when we went in for a routine u/s and the found the baby had stopped weeks before. They said that my body wasn't going to figure it out anytime soon as my hcg level was still at 47,000 and said that it would take another 1-4 weeks with my wedding just a few days later. I had a d & c donefour days before our wedding. It was the hardest thing that I have ever gone through. At the same time my Dad had emergency surgery and we found out that my father-in-law is dying of cancer. What a hard time. I know when all that happened to me I felt so alone. Then I discovered this site and all the people have helped me so much. My doc said they won't test me until I mc three times in a row, so my DH and I are saving money so that if it happens a second time we will pay out of pocket. I don't know how they can let it go that many times. Anyhow, I am so sorry for your loss, but we are all here to listen. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Thanks ladies to all of you and your suppport.Your words give me courage to go ahead.
I agree with marie, the people here are wonderful and very supportive. I too am here for you if you need to talk.
I'm so sorry!! I know exactly what your going through. I had a u/s done at 8 weeks and saw the baby and hb. Went in for a follow up u/s a week later and the hb had stopped. This was 2 weeks ago. I felt so empty and sad. They had me go over for another u/s to confirm the 1st one and I scheduled my d&c for a week later. I knew I couldn't wait for my body to do it naturally this time. I waited with my 1st two m/c's and it took nearly 3 weeks and was very painful, I knew i couldn't put myself through that again. The d&c was much better then I had expected it to be. I had very minimal bleeding and it really wasn't too painful except a bit of cramping but nothing bad. My heart aches for you, it is a very sad feeling. I'm doing a bit better and don't think about it constantly like I did right after the d&c. I still have hard days when I feel down but I've been trying to keep myself busy and surround myself with people who care about me and give me great support! Thinking of you and hope your heart can begin to heal.
Jenny, I am so sorry. It is a very hard thing to go thru, but like you said, your husband is their with you, both of you will be able to go thru this & try again. Good luck
After my first miscarriage my RE said that he could do some test like generic test for me and dh and also test for me to check for antibodies. He says that those test are done if more than two miscarriage happens, so this time he is going to do those. The problem is that those test are expensive dont know how much but my problem is that i don't have insurance. I have been paying my RE and the medications from my pocket.Only for the progesterone i paid $300 for 90 pills. I'm gonna do those test this time cause i really don't want to get pregnant again without knowing, obviously something is not right.
I am so sorry for what you are going through. Miscarriage is one of the worst things a woman can experience. I wish you didn't have to do this. This m/c sounds just like my last one. I started bleeding at 8 weeks and found out the baby stopped growing around 7.5 weeks. I've had 3 m/c in a row so I know exactly how you feel. After my last one, it was a while before I wanted to try again. I knew that once I saw a positive pregnancy test, my worrying and the possiblity of m/c would start all over. I wasn't sure I could handle it again. Two of my m/c were natural and the third was a d&c. Honestly, they are all scary. I'm pregnant again, 4th time, and so far, everything is good. I'm farther than I've ever been but I'm scared everyday. That is a consequence of m/c that I was willing to deal with. There is hope, there is always hope. Have you had any testing like chromosomes, or immune system? My problem is chromosomes so with each pregnancy I know my chances of m/c are greater than normal but still, I try. If you really want this, don't give up. Give yourself time to grieve and time to heal. We're here for you. If you need to talk to someone who has been there just let me know. I had a lot of shoulders to cry on and I'm more than happy to offer mine to you. Good luck to you and take care of yourself.
My heart aches for you. :( I know that this doesn't make it any better, but if the baby is aborting, it is because it is not well.
i am sooo sorry for your losses. I have m/c 2x as well. It gets hard some days but you will find a way to keep trying. My husband says "how many times do you want to do this" and I say dont ever ask me that. I will never stop trying. Never. You will never forget that pain but it makes you a more compassionate person. You appreciate the great gift of life. It will get better. I hope you are feeling better soon. :)
The progesterone and estredol levels were great, my re put on progesterone suppositories very early in the pregnancy even though the level was not low.
Did they test your progestrone levels? Just a thought...
I know how you feel, and it sucks!
I know how you feel, and it sucks!
I;m so sorry honey. Nothing anyone says will ease your pain. You are in my thoughts.
I'm really sorry there is nothing I can say except I know the pain you are feeling and I am truely sorry.
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