No protection of any kind during sex for the last 6 years...No pregnancy scares ye. Is this normalt?!

[Cosmito]

I am 26 years old and was on the pill for no more than a year about 7 years ago.
I've been with my partner for the last 6-7 years and have never had a pregnancy scare...PLEASE LET ME EXPLAIN WHY I AM A BIT/SOMEHOW CONFUSED ABOUT THIS ISSUE.
We have regular sex just like everyone else. We don't use condoms or any other kind of protection.  I do know we don't want a baby right now but sometimes wonder how come it hasn't happen...

He does ejaculate outside everytime.  That to us seem to be the reason why a pregnancy has never happen. Yet again, everyone always (Including us) seems to be a bit "surprise" that an "accident" hasn't yet happen.
My partner is 33 yrs old. Had a daughter when he was very young.
I have always have irregular, extremely painful periods ( 3-4 months with out one)
My mom had me at the age of 21 and couldn't have any kids thereafter.

Could It be me?
Should I bring this up to my doc's attention?
We do wanna have kids in the near future...
I've always been confused and worry about it ... Am I over reacting?

Thanks a bunch for your opinions/advise.

[cactus4l]

your painful periods and irregularty could be symptoms of endometriosis. As for the withdrawal method, it is not to be considered a form of BC, men have pre-ejaculate that may or may not contain sperm and all it takes is one, even if your DH pulls out on time, so if you are not ready for a baby, then I would advice you get back on BCP or use another form of BC, unless you like surprises. Other than that, It could take years, I hate to say, to concieve. Don't assume that it is you, it just may not have been meant as of yet. Smile.  

[mlb1234]

I agree that you MAY have pcos with the irregular periods.  A diagnosis of PCOS also requires evidence of cysts on ovaries via ultrasound and/or increased body hair.  Many with PCOS are also overweight but it is not a requirement.  My hubby and I had unprotected sex for 5 years without a single pregnancy before we were married, although I would try to be "careful" around ovulation time (what I thought was ovulation time - I was wrong).  Anyways last year I found I have PCOS and that is probably why we never had an "accident".  PCOS can make conceiving more difficult but there is treatment available and it works (I am pregnant now).  Also it is helpful to know that even with irregular periods you ovulate two weeks before your next period, not in the middle of the cycle like I thought.  So if your cycle is 50 days you actually ovulated on day 36, not on day 25.  So if you are trying to get pregnant with irregular cycles it is difficult to determine when you will ovulate, especially if your cycles vary like mine (33 days to  54 days).  I would recommend you see a doctor.  Not having a period for months can be harmful to your endometrial lining (causing further problems conceiving later).  Your doctor can give you the best advice and get you on the right track so that when you are ready to conceive you won't have a difficult time.  Best of luck!

[shayla1]

I would talk to your doctor...saying that you have extremely painful periods sounds like a sign of endometriosis....you'll need to get that under control before you'll be able to get pregnant....but MANY women get pregnant with endo...and you will too when the time is right....and I'm not a dr so I'm not even sure if that's what it is:)

[mommyluv02]

it sounds to me that you may have PCOS or endometriosis(sp?) google both of them and look into the symptoms but i agree you should probably look into some sort of birth control if you dont want a baby. Good luck

[Srfoshee]

Well, I would definatly start using some kind of protection to avoid any of those accidents, the last thing that you want is a baby that neither of you feels it is the time for.
However, yes I think you need to bring this up wiht your doctor. having periods that far apart is not normal and there are any number of things that it could be; however, most of these things can be treated so that you can have babies when the time is right. But, it is better to get started with those treatments now so that you dont suffer from other reprocusions long term, if there is an issue you need treatment.