OMG!!! why didnt they tell me

[waitn838]

well...i have a need to vent...i thought today was going to a better day but then the obituary from my uncle was in the newspaper and I saw he was preceded by a daughter...well i have never heard of this girl so I called my mom and said who's Shannon...my mom's like dont tell me nobody told you...told me what!!!!

it appears that my biological side of the family that I'm not very close to has a problem of preterm labor and all women in total lost 10 babies...now 11 taking into account my baby boy i just lost...but why didnt anybody tell me this...

Shannon was born 3 months early and med has changed since then so today she would have been able to survive but back then she didnt survive...and yet nobody told me this...OMG

im thinking my problem is genetic now and maybe the genetic bloodwork my doc wants to do is for a good reason....

i needed to vent...i understand im not that close to them but when I lost my baby I contact my biological father to tell him and he never mentioned this to me

i cant believe it

[waitn838]

this has def not been a good week for me...im trying to keep my strength up but my emotions are here there and everywhere

all the support on here is helping maintain my emotions and im thankful for each and every one of you

please pray...i just dont think i could handle anything else going bad this week or month....even year

[mommyluv02]

oh man this is just not a good week for you. I am so sorry about all this. i think that when you get pregnant and if they do a cerclage (sp?) then you will make it full term maybe you just have a short cervix which could be genetic. i hope that you get no more bad new and that from now on its all great news. so sorry
Amanda

[waitn838]

this week has been one thing after another

i wonder if this means its going to happen again....i cant believe nobody in my family told me about this

i go back to the doc april 3 and ill inform her and see where to go next...this is going to a long journey before im able to TTC again...i think the genetic testing is the longest testing but i now know i have to do it

[jenandjon]

I'm glad the Dr is doing the genetic testing then.  Maybe that will help.  Worst case scenario, you could do IVF with PGD so that the only good embies that would put back shouldn't have any genetic disorders...Probably not necessary, but something to keep in the back of your mind....

So sorry they didn't tell you about this.

We're thinking of you.