Welcome ladies! I hope we can all continue to support, inspire, and hope together. Some of us have already been through multiple rounds together, facing this roller-coaster with fearless optimism, and I have been so uplifted by the ladies' kindness, knowledge, and understanding. We invite you to join in....
We are here because we know it will be our turn soon!
Sherry - it is great that he sought help. If he was mad that you were called, he might not mention it again to his dr, so be sure to keep an eye on him. And if you notice unusual behavior, be sure to call his doctor. Different medications make people have different reactions. Your husband is probably feeling a bit of embarassment right now and perhaps that is why he doesn't want to talk to you about it. I understand your fustration at him prefering to talk to his doctor or mom about it. But if he thinks like I do, then moms always love their children, docotors don't keep emotional attachments to patients, but spouses CHOOSE to love each other (meaning they can stop loving at any moment). He probably just wants to try and work thru this without trying to upset you....afterall, you ARE 20 weeks preggo!
I would just try to offer help or assistance. Be open to what he might have to say, and try to make things happy and less stressful at home for a few weeks. I know that's a long list of hard things to do when you are stressed yourself and freaking out on the inside!
You mention coming to Florida (great weather right now btw)...is he coming with you? Maybe some time apart or a vacation together is just what he needs to revamp this depressing state.
Finally, don't underestimate the value of therapy and medication. I used antidepressants for about a year and I can't explain the great benefits to me. It helped me get thru a tough time in life and the counciling I took gave me great tools to cope with stress. It's been 5 years since then and I still use those tools and haven't found myself in a super depressed state that lasted more than a few days (and was circumstantial - like losing a loved one, ttc failures, or a friendship gone bad). It DOES get better if he's willing to seek help (he did) and keeps up on his treatment. :)
Kikk - congrats!
Carlis - I'm anxious to hear more from you! How are you feeling?
Rmm - any more news? I'm biting nails over here.....
im ok i guess, he's acting like nothing even happened. I don't wanna keep asking him about it and pushing him so im just letting it go to keep my own sanity. If he's not willing to share with me his problems and something happens then its all on him. He can't dump something like that on me and then blame me for when everything fails. Its not fair of him to do that - he can't play both sides. So as long as he doesn't wanna talk to me about it im ok with it and at peace with it. I need to keep my own sanity for my pregnancy and daughter!! Wow almost 21 weeks and feeling my lil peanut kick now. Cant see it but can feel it!! Im so excited to go on this vacation more than ever now. I really need to get away and just relax!!!!
All: I gave in and took a test considering today is day 33 of my cycle. Of course no suprise BFN!!! No bloating just sore boobs that leak. it looks like i will start on vacation at he beach. yeah are i so excited about that. I have been waiting to start for a few days now. I guess my body is just mad that i put it through the surgery.
sherry: hang in there! enjoy your vacation... you need it!
rmm: so sorry! let us know about bw and us.
all: i just got back from a trip to the valley to visit family and show off my baby girl. i stopped by the RE as well since they asked and it was great! they loved on her and the dr told me how amazed she was that iui worked for me and how happy she was- it was a great feeling!
it seems this is the right place to post this doubt ....
From 2dpo i had breast and nip pain, very tender to touch .but gradually the pain decreased.. now i have pain on only side of my bbs, and only when i poke em .nip pain s completely gone.
today is 12dpo ..
I am very tired and nauseated... vomited day before , but no idea whether thats from the sleepless night journey ... but i sure am tired and get a nausea kind off thing if i go little late to have something .. some times i also have cramps in lower abdomen ..esp .. left portion ...
the only thing bothering me is the breast pain reducing ... what could it be ?? successful fertilization and failed implantation ???any idea?? anyone experinced this during ur pregnancy ???
ok Dr / Re did blood test and beta was neg. One test show i am either ovulating or getting ready to start. I am sure it is start. Just intme of the beach trip. I am 35 days into my cycle. I am so furstrated.!!!! My boobs are leaking and i am not bloated. I sould be prego but no I am not. OF course i cant get prego!!~! My body just goes crazy. I am so erked!!! oh well i guess it will take several more months and i just pray that the next one doesnt end in a mc. I will know prolackin levels today
good morning all!! Well im 21 wks :) and feeling really bloated today - not really sure why. I look huge in my pic (which I posted) Im thinkin i need to change into maternity underwear now. Mine just dont fit right. I leave for Florida Sunday morning and really excited to get away :) Im staying inside today cause we're in a heat wave in Toronto now. Today is like 47 degrees with humidity ughhhhhhh - im sure thats like 120 deg to you americans lol. Thank god for a/c :)
Thanks ladies. We are going to try natural this month. Im not sure if i am going to use the strips. I felt my ovulations this past month. We had has S** the night before. the pain was at 6-7 am I had a huge knot on my right side. + the day matches up for when i started.
RE is not going to be happy but i wasnt cutting my vacation short so i could take meds that make me crazy. I just wanted to enjoy time with my family.
I have a second job interview with the school system this week. I am having doughts about it. I have already set through one interview with them What else can they ask me. I will let u ladies know how it goes. It is not until Thursday.
Hello Ladies sorry I have been MIA.. I have only had enough time to read all your post and update my tracker.. Work has been crazy all the kiddies out of school for the summer.. So I see all is well with all..
Sherry enjoy your vacation
Trying how are things with the lil one..
rmmoye That is how we got pregnant this time no meds for a mth.
I am on CD 5 .. we are also trying naturally this month .. last month i was able to bring in ovulation with the help of having lots of fruits and no medicine ... I am planning to continue that to bring in ovulation . i suspect that last month fertilization happened but implantation failed.So i am also planning to take litlle amounts of pineapple juice from 1dpo to 5 dpo to help implantation ..
Sherry I need good news today!!! post about your vacation and how good things went.
I have only cried once in the last 2 months over not having a baby. Today was that day. I dont know why. I have two boys i love very much and cant wait to adopt but i still want a baby "of my own". please dot take this the wrong way. Those two boys are mine and i woul get mad of anyone said other wise but how else do i word it. I want a bio child as well as the two i already have. I want to feel it growing inside of me.It will not cnage my love for my tow boys. I cnat tell anyone else this because they migh think that i am selfish or that i dont love my boys of that i will play fovorites. that is not the case. I just want tha special gift of carrying a child and feeling it move in me, hearing its first crys. I guess i am crazy but this is how i feel. What is wrong with me. why cant i just be happy with the blessing God has given me. I have a wonder Dh the best there is. two great boys that i have fallen in love with and that love me.
HI all!!!!! WEll our vacation was awesome. Paige loved it :) it was super hot walking on all that concrete all day at Disney but well worth it. I was physically drained yesterday when i got home and slept for 11 hrs lol. Hotel was great - Sinbad (actor) was staying at our resort. I will post some pics this week. I think i took over 400 lol. CAnt belive im almost 23 weeks geeeesh. Hubby is still cra*py. he wasnt even home when we got here and when he got home 3 hrs later I just asked if he was down at his parents and his response was "does it matter??" really?? i was pissed. then Paige was so excited to tell him about the vacation and he didnt even listen to her so when i started to tell him about it it he said he didnt really care cause if it was up to him we wouldnt have gone in the first place. So I showered and put paige to bed and then he left to go in basement to watchh tv. - like he couldnt sit in the family room with me to watch?? So today he hasnt even said one word to me. I dont' know what his problem is - he didnt stay at his parents like he was supposed to either!!
Sherry i am glad your vacation went well andi cant wati to see the pictures. 23wks is so exciting. when is your next us?
it isnt fair taht u r going through this. I dont get it. >D::D< big long hug just for u.
I am feeling a bit better. tearsandhope. com/emptyarms_video. html and then sent it to my bf who yet again ask me this past wkend i i was preo yet. i am hoping it helps. dh watched it and said kill me now!!!
Rmm: You are in my thoughts and prayers as always! There is nothing wrong with wanting a bio child!!! There is nothing that can replace the feeling of having a baby grow inside of you and all it brings you!
Sherry: sorry things between you and dh are still rough :( Hope things get better!
All: Well ds had his 3rd birthday Friday and we had a little party for him and then another bigger one at a jumping place on Saturday. He thought it was the coolest thing ever. So much fun! I am going back to work Friday... stinks!!! Baby is good though, dealing with some colic which is exhausting but all else is good. Hope everyone else is good :)
Trying thanks for the prayers and understanding. That does sound like a fun party. U have to post a few pics. Also i am trying to plan out jac's third birthday. do u invite the kids from daycare or do u just do a family thing? I dont want to be one of these moms who over does stuff. .... colic is hard to deal with. they cry so much and u cant do anything to help. My heart goes out to u. I hope work goes well. returning will be hard but U can do it. Who is keeping your little angel?
All: i posted pics of opk. It is a different type then i have ever used. it is like a prego test. it said no lines is bad test. 1 line is neg and two lines is pos. in the pics it used it showed the second line lighter than the control line. look at my pics and tell me what u think. thanks all. i am going to do another one tonight.
rmm - i understand how you fell. I had those same emotions for a long time. It does get better and don't get too down on yourself. This is a great place to express those emotions.
Sherry - sorry dh is being so rude. I understand he is going thru a tough time, but ignoring your daughter and not trying to uplift his mood is just selfish and inconsiderate to others. What is he doing to try and help himself feel better? Seeing a dr is a good start, but changing things yourself is going to get you better results. Doing the same things and expecting different results is the official definition of insanity!
how sweet and kind of you to think about adoption ..
So sorry , i was not able to answer your query about the fruits...
Grapefruits are the best . Carrot Juice will get you more fertile CM ...
From some research i did , found that taking Vitamin C is good for both male and female ...
I had lots of Grapes too before ovulation day ( No idea how helpful grapes are , but had lots of it , since i love grapes) ...
well Im back at work now and he's on nights until monday so i wont see him until then. At this point i don't really care (tufff love i guess) I just need to be strong for my kid(s) My well being is most important to me right now.
Sherry i am so sorry! i sent u a personal message.
All Ladies : Ok so i did an opk today. I think it is a real +I just posted it. We ssbd lastnight should i ssbd today. should we bd tonight or should i wait until tomorrow night? please look at picture and tell me . Thank you.
I went to my dr appt yesterday (13 wks 4 days) and the dr couldnt find the heart beat with the doppler, she tried 2 different dopplers. I have to go to the hospital tonight for another ultrasound. Please pray for me =( She did say that this could be because of my anterior placenta, she said maybe the baby is hiding behind it.
Thank you for all of your prayers and well wishes! Everything was perfectly fine! The baby was bouncing away. Measured on track for 13 wks 5 days and 158 bpm. Thank God! Oh and i got more pics, but they would look between the legs. Im just happy everything is fine, now ill be able to sleep tonight.
Hi everyone!! Long time no talk!! The baby is doing well. I'm 14 weeks today. I've definitely been more naueseous this time around. My bump is already forming and I'm feeling alot of pain in my pelvic region which I remember with DD however more at like 4 or 5 months not 3.5 months. Amazing how fast things happen the second time around.
Amanda: so good to hear from you. Ava is adorable!!! Sorry you had to go back so early but you're right you have to do what you have to do.
rmm sorry you haven't gotten your BFP yet. I know it'll happen.
Kelli I had tears in my eyes reading about your DS. I hope he is doing well.
Trying: Glad to hear all is going well with you :-)
JoJo I'm glad you were able to hear the heartbeat. I couldn't hear it one time but was able to see it on the u/s then I had another one and heard the most beautiful sound ever.
Sherry: Glad you had a good vacation, but I am so sorry what you are going through. Can I just say seriously we are so similar it is scary!!!
So I've been MIA because my DH is having some sort of mid life crisis!!! He's depressed and very resentful and angry towards me. He's not happy about the baby and let's just say this whole situation *****!!!!! it's hard enough to deal with this and then add pregnancy hormones to it it's absolutely no fun. Sherry at least he went to see a dr. We've been to couseling twice together and it was ok. i've gone to counseling before he hasn't so he's fighting it. He didn't go with me the other day so I went myself and it was great. I'm hoping he goes himself to work on what is holding him back from moving on with us. It's just really sad. But I'm learning not to take it so personally. We have been through alot the past few months with buying of the house and then finding out we are pregnant. the hardest part through all this is I've lost my best friend. We have always gotten along for the most part and enjoy each other. but something snapped. I don't know if it's the fear of having another child. so i guess time will tell. At this point I need to take Care of me, the baby and DD. I'm very lucky. I have a great support system with family and friends. He feels he has no one which depresses him more. My dh is a perfectionist and likes things done his way and I think he got off track. so that's what I've been up too. but I believe this baby is such a miracle and a blessing and why after trying for over 2 years did I finally get pregnant and not using anything. A true miracle!! I find out the sex sept 7th. Can't wait.
Sherry- Glad you and your family had fun away.. I hope things get better for you and DH soon hun.. We are all here for you.. xoxoxoxo
rmmoye so happy to see your pictures.. Get DH and seduce him every sec you can.. Good luck..
Trying How is mommy life.. I can't wait to hold our baby 4 more mths.. Time sure is flying by us..
CarlisMaMa So happy for you.. 14 weeks wow...
Amanda Love love love you baby pictures.. To cute..
godskid84 It will happen it happened for us no meds and we weren't even trying his time around we where giving my body a break from the 4 MC...
Well ladies I will be 18 weeks tomorrow. We have a US Aug 12 we are going to find out what we are having.. Any guess's?? lol.. Than we have another US on Aug 18th I have already had 4 US so by the 18th I will have had 6 so far.. I know alot but they are keeping an extra eye on me and the baby...
Rmm: I hope things go well for you this month. I am still thinking and praying for you. I foudn that the 3rd bday is a really big deal. We had the small party at the babysitters because he wanted a cake, birthday hats and blowers so we handled that there. THen we had a few of our friends with kids he knows and family at the jump place with pizza and cake and presents. I don't think you can "overdo" a 3rd bday. I know people that over do a 1st and 2nd but they are still a bit young to understand everything. At 3 they aren't. Have fun with it!!!
Carlis: Good to hear from you but so sad that things have been rough with dh. I cannot imagine going through all that and am glad the counseling is helping. I hope he goes and things get better quickly. I am so excited to hear about the sex in a month.
Sherry: Hope that things are getting better for you. Try to stay strong for you and your babies! Hang in there!
Watch: 18wks... yeah! Almost half way there. I cannot wait to hear about the sex!
JoJo: Glad all was fine... that would be really scary!
All: Things are good here. Colic comes and goes. My son had it worse so jsut trying to get through it. I got pics done with the kids and that was an experience... keeping a 6 wk old and 3 yr old happy at the same time and not tired or bored was no fun. I will post pics next week when I get them. These 2 kiddos are keeping me on my toes. I am sad to return to work but excited about my new position. I hope it works out. I cannot shed these last few pounds that I blame mostly on clomid so have to buy some new clothes for work... bummer!
Trying u will get it off keep working hard. I think those meds pack it on us.
Carlis I'm glad ur pregnacy is going well but sad to hear u and sherry r having hd trouble. Maybe they will both snap out of it but until then u can lean on us and each other.
Jojo yeah! Glad to hear baby is doing well.
Watch 18 wks is great. No 6 doesn't sound like a lot to me. I was having 1 a wk until 12 wks with the 1st one. I had 4 with the 2nd one and only made it to 10 wks. I say get as many as they will let u.
All we r having fun trying. I decided not to buy more opks for Friday. I figured thay I would o on that day based on the previous opks. We bd mid sat and then dh woke up frisky this morning. I we went iwth it. He has a high sperm count. I did cramp really bad Friday night for 3 hrs on right side. I think tat might have been the ovary. What do u think?
Carlis - so sorry you have to go through what im going through. if you wanna chat pm me and we can talk more. Can't believe 14 weeks already :) few more til you can find out gender (or are you waiting?)
All: well coming onto 24 weeks. Feeeling baby kck more and starting to see it on the outside too which my dd thinks is so cool lol. She said to me last night - so what happens if the baby falls in the toilet LOL too funny. Dh still wont talk about anything and i think that once i have the baby we are gonna have to sit down and decide if we should just separate.
The fall in the toilet thing is funny!!! It is amazing what kids come up with. herry i am sorry that it is going to become that serious. I know it will be really hard on u and the kids. Maybe he will snap out of this before it reaches that point. Is he willing to go to theropy? At least u will geet 1 year off to be with the kids. I will keep u in my prayers.
All: i think i am in the tww. between the pain saturday night on my right side for 3 hrs and the opks. Keeping my fingers crossed and sending up lots of prayers.
He's not willing to go to therapy and wont talk to me about it. It wouldnt be any diff than it is now if we did separate. I was pretty much a single mom for the first 3 1/2 years cause he was on a midnight shift and the past 2 years he's gotten a lil more invoilved but not much. He wont put her to bed or bath her or get her meals or take or pick her up from daycare etc.... and instead of talking to her all he does is bark at her (no wonder she wont let him do the above- i wouldnt either) My parents live 2 blocks from us - so that helps alot. I hope it doesn't have to come to separation but i just don't like the way Im being treated and talked too. Hes always so pessimistic and down, im a social butterfly and he doesn't like to go out or do anything or talk to neighbours etc... He has no friends. He just wants to work work work.
Sherry I am so sorry. It does sound like u wouldnt really be losing anything. I have a friend who was and still is in a marriage liek that. she left him for almost 2 years. after that she went back and things are better but still not like they should be. You need to do what is besst for u. I say my friend happier when she was living on her own but she said she lovedhim and didnt want to die alone so she went back. she said her point was made and that she was putting money aside that he doesn know about incase she ever had to leave him again. I have even helped her withthat. It is good that your parents are so close to u. It is nice to have your mom to talk to and lean on. What are his parents thinking about all of this? I hope they are supporting u. >:D<
still really tired today. :( thank god my day at work is almost done. Also to top it all off - it looks like i may have shingles :( im heading to doctors this afternoon to get checked out. Not sure what the effects are on the baby (will baby get chicken pox shortly after birth?) Im sure stress with dh isnt helping the matter.
On a good note I can finally see the baby kick on the outside now lots so dd will be so happy :)
Thanks for all your thoughts..
Jesse is 2 months old now and we still havnt got internet on at home. It makes iit hard to keep up with everything going on here. But in two days it gets installed and then i have the huge task of reading everything that has happened while i was away..
Baby jesse is all well now. he still has a funny cough and the dr said it might stay for awhile due to the damage done to his lungs. He hs his big hering test to see what they can do about his deafness....
so hang in there for a few more days and ill be able to ask you guys about everything thats going on...
Kelli: it is good to hear from you! I am glad baby jessie is doing well. Maybe the dr. can solve his hearing problem. I am in my tww. I didnt get the job i interview for. Things are going god with the boys. We still cant adopt them yet but maybe by the end of the year. We still have bio dad of my oldest to deal with. I will let the other ladis catch u up on them.
all: I have started cramping. It is bad bad cramps. I had a major headach monday. my boobs are leaking. plus i have white cm. I am betting that i am not prego. I am still hopeful thaough.
Hey all!! Today is the day we are just getting ready for our U/S.. DH had me wondering last night and I couldn't sleep he turns to me last and tells me what are you gonna do if they can't see what we are having.. Grrrrrrrrrrr I hope they can see.. Im so excited to find out...
As for me had my 24 wk appt the other day and no weightgain in the past 4 weeks (guess i burned it off walking at Disney LOL ) So belly is pretty much all baby so far. Feeling baby all the time now and can see belly move from the outside so my daughter thinks its "so cool" lol. My brother flew in from Edmonton yesterday so we had dinner with my parents and him. Was nice. Today i am craving French Toast with icing sugar and syrup lol Seems like everyday is diff for food for me this time. I had no craving with my dd!!
Not much going on with me. Just got on to see how everyone is. I have been so busy with new job... case load of 26 so far but child find testing next week so will most likely go up to 30-35 depending on how many get identified with special services. I absolutley love the job but will be making many changes for next year. Ds has to have another u/s of us kidney to follow up from one he had last year and see if there is any change in size. I am between ins right now so going to hold off a couple weeks if we can.
Sherry: So sorry to hear bout shingles! They are SO painful. I have had em and so has my mom and I am sure stress did it to you :( Try and get some rest!
Kellie: SO happy to hear you and baby Jesse are doing well. Keep us posted on hearing.
Watch: Congrats on the girl!!! THought both are very special :)
All I'm bloated right now and burping everthing I eat or drink. It is gross.
We went to the beach this wkend and found out aftewards that it was contaminatded with a bacteria. I wish they would have put up big warning signs instead of just putting it on the news. Now my yougest has an ear that is ozing I'm taking him to dr. Tomorrow.
Hi all well, went to the doctor last week and thank god it wasn't shingles. But was like i broke out in hives from stress. Its pretty much gone now Thanks god!!! Work is completley stressing me out. Its month end, its also our year end which means audit time!!! I look after the fleet for my company on top of all my other duties and it sticker renewal time by month end. Some days i just wanna scream.
Baby is kickin up a strom nowadays and starting to get the"waddle" lol Im on vacation again next week so im gonna try to clear out the babys room and get hubby to paint. Starting to get heartburn a bit but not too bad. Im starting to go pee more in the past week and starting to get more tired in teh afternoons too. Im wishing i could take naps some days. My dd is so excited to get back to school in a couple weeks :) Ive almost made it to the single digits :)
Watch : so happy on the girl :)
Rmm: that really ***** - Our beaches have to post and weekly testing is done.
I finally have time to sit down and read through all this for a few minutes before jesse needs another bottle.
rmmoye - thats horrible. I hope his ear clears up soon. Nothing is ever as bad as a sore ear.
Kelli He is beautiful. Keep postin gthe pics. I think it is cute that u want another one already.
Sorry my hands are shaking this morning. and i am having crazy nausa. I test sunday to see if ig et my bfp. My left boob is likking me and if u look at my pics u can see the crazy amount of bloating i have done in the last few days.
Anyone have suggestions on how to deal with the changes that happen in a marriage after baby arrives? I'm so tired. Litterally. Hubby doesn't seem to be helping with chores, that makes me more tired. I've had 1.5 hours to myself since baby has been born. Our love life is non-existant. He went to see family this past weekend and I must admit that life is easier without him. I HATE nagging at him, but it's the only way to get him to do ANYTHING. He returns from his trip and I have to ask 4 times for him to simply remove the water jugs from my car so we can leave.
He spent 10 minutes with Ava when he returned and I FORCED him to spend the time with her. I told him he could get her from the sitter for the afternoon or go home and nap. He chose to go home and watch tv. Then when I got home he napped. For real?! I can't remember the last time someone offered to let me nap! And of course his luggage was everywhere, the dishes magically manifested dirty dishes, and he didn't even let the dogs out to pee.
We haven't slept in the same room since he's returned. That's the only thing we did together anymore and now that's gone. I'm fustrated. I'm tired. He's becoming a burden, not a help.
I'm about ready to give up on him. I've talked to him about this at least 4 times since the baby has arrived. Any other suggestions ladies? It seems like a lot of us are going thru the terrible husband times!
Amanda I am so sorry. I wihs i could offer suggestions. I dont know what to tell u to do. My dh stepped in and helped when we got the boys. maybe he will get better. >:D< huge hug for u. Give him a swift kick in the butt!
Try just going to go take a nap when u get home and leaving him up with Ava. Have a botle for her in the fridge. See if he does anything.
Sorry to hear Amanda!!I agree that sometimes its just easier to do it all yourself. When I had my dd my dh was on a night shift so i was pretty much a single parent for the first 3 years. He's now gotten better (a lil) but I find it easier to just do it myself now.
Morning Ladies.. Well I have now already had 6 ultrasounds and they are giving us another one today so that will be 7 in total.. I asked if everything is ok and they said ya just have a low lying placenta. So they are keeping an eye on everything.. Just with the history as well after so many losses..
Hope everyone has a great day and I will check in later. xoxoxoxo
i was told i have an anterior plactenta (its in the front instead of the back) And my dr. didn't seem too concerned but i was reading online that an anterior placenta can move down and cover the cervix and that would require a c-section. Is this maybe what is happening to you??
Watch I hope everthing remains fine. U ar e getting to see your little one more so that is a +.
I have manage not to test today either. 13dpo. I am really trying to wait until at leat 15 dpo. that would mean testing saturday morning. I am working tomorrow also so i think that willhelp me hold off.
Thanks all, Ok so i told u about the beach and the water but what we found out this morning was that it gave us ecoli(sp. Dh and i have both been sick. Dh has left work every day for at leasst two hr the last two days. well he got bad lastnight. Throwing up, dizzy, nausa, bloating, all o fmy sign/sympthoms. it got so bad he went to the ER. He tested + for ecoli(sp) I am so up set. we have had this for a week and didnt know it. it can kill u. Next time they should post big signs. So i dought i am prego knowing that i have ecoli(sp). Plus i started cramping lastnight. I am still having the nausa and dizziness and bloating. I will still test tomorrow and let u now.
Rmm: SO sorry to hear af showed up and about being sick! I hope you all feel better soon. I am praying the IUI does the trick and this will be your month and success!!!
Watch: I had a low lying placenta with ds and they watched it with u/s every couple weeks. Nothing to be concerned about yet, stay positive. SOmetimes they move up late and mine did just in time to have the baby so all was fine. Just don't over do things and dont have intercourse. Watch for any bleeding. Thoughts and prayers are with you.
Amanda: I could talk to you about this for days!!! Ok, men just don't have our mommy skills and never will. I know there are a few out there that do but they are FEW. When ds was born he was colicky and I was going nuts. DH did NOTHING!!! I had to do everything on my own and I was SOOOO close to jsut leaving cause I might as well have been on my own. We had no love life, it is really hard with a new baby. It didn't get better until ds was almost a year then when he was able to walk and get around dh became interested. It wasn't until he was 2 that dh actually did stuff with him alone. It is very difficult for men for some reason even if they really want the baby. Try to talk to him and communicate. I kept my babies in bed with me and that helped us to not grow completely apart. My ds just started sleeping in his own bed and he chose to do so without us pressuring him. Try not to give up. Go talk to someone if you need to, it helps. I saw a psychologist monthly and it jsut gave me someone to vent to. Also, you have to TELL them what you want done! Say "Hold her while I go shower" or whatever it is you want to do, don't give them the option. The more you make them do the better it is. It has been better with the 2nd one but still hard. I know how to deal with him now :) It is ok to be frustrated but don't let it get worse or it will be too easy to walk away. Message me if you want some advice or opinions, I have been there and it will get better love!!!
All: Well, I am just working like crazy and being a mom :) I have 26 preschoolers with special needs and they keep me super busy with lessons, games, meetings, etc then I come home to my super busy 3 yr old ds and 9 wk old dd. No complaints though, things are good. Im exhausted from another week so going to bed.
Trying: Just enjoy it. I bet u are tired. 26 is a lot at once.
All: I started Gonal F sunday night 112.5 I do this through tuesday night and go back in on wednesday to see how i am progressing. I am praying this iui works and this baby sticks. I want to join u all so bad. I will tell u it was odd going to the clinic with the boys yesterday. the looks u get.
Court is on October 12th. This is when we will know if they go through with the termination of fathers rights.
I am planning his 3rd b day party. I am so excited about it.
All: My bf just called to tell me that she found out she was having a boy. " i m having a boy! Thank God because i dont think i could handle a girl." I did everything i could not to cry. Then she told me she didnt understand why her dh was mad at her he should be excited. She went into the dr today because she spotted a little over the wkend but it stopped after just a few hours. They saw nothing wrong and no pink or red on the cerix. they said they didnt see any reason why she should have spotted. she ask the us tech if she could tell her what it was. ( she has an appointment in two weeks to see what it is. dh has already ask for that day off.) Tech told her and her mother what it was and then she called dh to tell him. I told her he wanted to be there to find out. This is his first child. U took that away from him. She still didnt get it.
HI all!! Good luck witht he iui Rmm - my fingers are crossed for you.
Watch - great video
As for me 14 weeks to go :) I cant believe it - going so fast . on vacation again this week :) I love saving all my vacation time for summer. Just been trying to clean up the spare room to make way for baby. Hubby has gotten a lil better in the past couple weeks but still...... we will have to see. Hes not taking medication and not seeing anyone. Other than that just enjoying the week off with my dd
All: My liningis thicking and i had 3 follicles on my L between 8-10 and on on R at 8. re kept me on 112.5. I go back in Friday to see what our next step is. I am praying that they grow nicely.
Lastnight wa hard for me. I had a lady call me for my advise. Her neice mc for the 2nd time. She was 5 months. baby was fine last week. she wanted to know how i felt and what she should do. I told her i only wanted my dh and my mother. i wanted everyone to go away. i was glad they cared but to have to tell them and face them was too hard.
us showed that i had 3 on left at 1-11-and 2-12. Right 1-10.5 e2 was only 185 and re wants me back in tomorrow. I think it is too soon. it is 350 per us so it makes me mad that he is bringing me back in this quick. i cant afford this. we have already spent 1700 on us and iui so far and 900 on meds so far.
it is worth it if it works. I think it will . I am sending prayers up and trusting God.
Thanks trying: My re never does the us after the trigger. it is good to know that they can still grow after the trigger. I am so scared that he is going to trigger me too early.
Hi ladies, sorry ive been mia!! I had another weeks holidays but sarting to feel really tired the past couple days. Ive been needing naps mid morning and just tired all day. Sleeping is crappy too lol. Everytime i go to roll over its like my hips" click" - doesnt hurt - just really annoying. I guess with weight shift (i dunno) I have a very active baby now - all the time. My g/f gave me a box of boys clothes this week so that was nice.
All: I feel i know u so well i can share this with u. I ate lunch with my Mother in law( MIL) and dh on friday. she knows we are doing another iui and suggested that if it didnt work we look at something else. I wasnt prepared for what came out of her mouth. she said i want a boy and it needs to be the same dna so we will use your brother( my brother in law(bil) ) . she said i know they say there is nother wrong but maybe if we change up who is putting out it will make a difference. she said it wouldnt cost you a thing. " just lay back and close your eyes and let bildo his thing. it would only take a min or two. me and dh were laughing thinking that mil was kidding. she was laughing too but then she said yeah u think i am kidding but i am not. she said bil hasn't had it in over a year since his wife left him so he is really pinned up. I promise it wouldnt take that long and it wouldnt cosst anything. after some time dh said i m not to sure on that. i want it to be my kid. not my brothers kid. he also said he didnt want his brother to **** his wife. mil said it would really be donging because it would take such a short time and whos to say he would even make it. ( i was about 10 shades of red by this point.) If u would like i can get one of the cow needles, take the needle off and just squirt it up in her. it would still be the same as yours because u and your brother have the same dna.
CAn u believe this!!!! How should i react. I told dh no way!!! yes your brother is cute and sweet but i cant see doing this. did any of u evr get suggestions from your family like this. I have had two people offer to carry the baby for me but tha is not the issue. so far they have found nothing.
I am really late this month . 17dpo today . I have not tested yet . yesterday i had lot of watery discharge . today I can see that the watery CM has a blood color ... I am so disappointed . Has anyone experienced it . I don't have any pain or pressure like periods is coming.
all: wow can't believe im 27 weeks already. The next couple mths will go by slow now that summer has come to an end. Work is stressful right now so cant wait to go on mat leave for a year :)im thinkin Oct 31 will be last day so i can take a few weeks to myself before baby comes.
Sherry: i like your plan. If i get prego i am not going back to work. I think i will be a stay at home mama.
God'skid: thank a hpt. I spotted with my first pregnancy and my bf spotted with heres. she is now 17 wks. I cant wait to hear how it turns out. I hope u get a bfp!!! Take the test.
ALL:Well Dh ahs no hope left. He told me that he doesnt expect to get a bfp in two weeks nd that even if we do he doesnt expect it to stay latched on. I know God will prove him worng and give him his hope back!!! I have a lot of faith and i believe this is it for us. I think we will get a bfp and carry it to 40 weeks.
That is a good question. Maybe u got prego and it just didnt stick well. That now means u are back at day one but that is a good thing. U can try again. Gl and i am sorry that af came. I was hoping for a bfp.
What a weird thing for your mil to suggest. I mean she could at least suggest that he put it in a cup and you use a turkey baster lol. In a weird way i could understand why she'd want the same DNA, then you'd know the baby's family history etc. Anyways SSSSBD to you!
I had an U/s yesterday but the dr couldnt get a good angle on the sex, darn it!
Jo Jo - I know the feeling. When i had my U/s it took the lady 55 min. It was turn on your left, now turn on your right etc... baby didnt wanna cooperate. Tehn at 55 min she says FINALLY!! then when she was showing me on the screen she said it was a boy but i couldnt really tell so i can only assume its a boy
Jojo: I hate they couldnt get the right angle. I know u were really wanting to know. when is your next us?
I understood where she was coming from after i thought about it but it still shocked me. Monday my dh said guess what mom said , and with out thinking i said what she wants to hook me up with your dad now. He just died laughing. He knows we well emough to know that is exactly what ran through my mind.
my u/s tech gave up after like 5 minutes! she didnt have me turn or anything, i guess she figures gender isnt that important ?
RMM-- I have an appt scheduled for the 6th, but thats just my regular appt so we wont do an u/s, but im sure we'll set the date from there. She said she'd like to do it when im 20 weeks which is just under 3 weeks from now
Sherry - congrats if i havtn allready said that.. 27 weeks is great. Ive been so lost with everything thats going on and now im pregnant again its crazy.. really really crazy.lol
Hope everything is going ok and i hope your feeling all those kicks.
Rmm. i find what your MIL said very horrible. Im not sure how u handled it but i would be disgusted.. poor thing.
What else is happening everyone..How are you trying?
Kelli: pregnant again and all natural . Wow I am so excited for u. that will put your little ones how far apart? 13 months? How far along are u?
Jojo: i hope u get your girl.
All: my nausa has been in high gear today. i know it is too early for that . i am guessing it is the meds. i am also having lower back pain. My allergies are kicking my butt but i gave in and took somthing. I figured if womend do crack and drink a little allergy meds could hurt. I am 5 days doewn I will let u know if u have a bfp in 9 days.
Wow Kelli!!! Congrats :) wasting no time i see lol . yOu'll def have your hands full .
Rmm :) im counting downt he days to your BFP
All: as for me feeling a bit slugish today. Can't get comfy sleeping and noticing im starting to go to the bathroom alot more now! baby must be on my bladder. Paige goes back to school on Wednesday and shes so excited. Dh is finally back on a night shift for 2 weeks so i have have some time to myself!! He's been driving me nuts the past weekend. He wants me to be go go go all the time and doesn't get that i need to sit down and relax a lil.
Sherry: You are getting so close!!! Im so excited for you! Take the time you need to relax, you know how impossible that is after birth especially with two :)
Kelli: I am in shock... seriously??? Pregnant again? Are you bf? I don't even start my period again for months because of bf. After ds it took 9 months for af to return and now dd is 11 wks and so far, same thing. That would put your kids... what 11 months apart? I have known people who have done that.. dont know how though.
Jojo: I am sure your 20 wk will go better, stinks having to wait though. Good luck!!!
Rmm: I just cannot get over you mil... seriously hilarious! And your comment to dh about his dad... cracking me up! I am still thinking positive thoughts and praying for you girl!!!
All: I am just trying to keep up :) Ds was sick all last week with a virus. He hasn't ever really been sick before besides a cold or ear infec and this was wierd, he had a fever and NO other symptoms. Then on day 5 of fever he broke out in a rash and we took him to Dr and she said just a virus and will go away in a couple days and it did. Now dd is sick, not bad just a little cold but when nursing or sleeping you can hear the flem and I feel so bad for her. Everything else is great :) New job is great, love my kiddos. It's like having 25 three and four year olds! I stay busy but love them so much. My dd is such a good baby, only fussy when she is gassy or tired so have to watch what I eat. The weather has been great and things are just good. I miss all you ladies and hope you are all doing well!!! I think about you all, all the time!!
I couldnt breastfeed cause jesse was so sick. i really wanted to give it a good go , i even went on a pill to make more milk but there was no point if he couldnt have any.. i was so upset...
and yeah i know im so scared. im so against abortion but i did think about it and decided against it... its going to be so hard and stressful. i feel bad cause i wasnt trying and so many other people are and its not working..
i really didnt know what to do
Kelli: I wasnt able to bf in the beginning either cause dd had to be in the bili blanket but I started pumping day one and kept it up and kept trying so when she was about a month old she latched on like she had been doing it forever and I am so glad. I can imagine you are worried and scared but try to remember that ever child is a blessing and this must have happend for a reason. You will get through it, I will be thinking about you! I am envious in a way cause I only hope I will get to have another baby but I know dh will not go through all we did again so it is truely in God's hands.
Kelli: don't feel bad. It is OK to be scared. My grandmother had a baby on new-years and in December of the same year. It will surprise u how much bigger your two will be by the time this new baby comes along. Your daughter will be able to help u with both of them. Jessie will be walking. By the time the baby hits 6 months Jessie and your daughter can both be bringing u stiff. This is such a blessing I am so glad U changed your mind about the abortion.
Trying: keep checking in. I am glad they are doing better. sick children are never what u want. I am glad things are going to wonderful for u.
Sherry keep your head up. Dh will get better. Take your time and dont over do anything. U are too far along now to over do it. When r u doing your showers? Thanks for the + thinking. I am staying + too.
ALL:I have 7 days down and 7 more to go. I have to say so fare this is the fastest 2ww i have had.
Im so happy its not dragging by for you, im feeling pretty confident that this is your cycle. YOU DESERVE IT!!! =)
as for me:
I have a dr appt today so im pretty excited because im thinking they should for sure be able to find the heart beat =) Also we will set up my next ultrasound for my 20 weeks (so in about 2 weeks) and im really hoping they can determine the sex this time around.
I've been feeling pretty good lately, except recently sometimes i feel like i just cant breathe. I rememeber this feeling from my last pregnancy when my son would push up on my lungs, but i was at least 7 mos pregnant by then. Im only 18 weeks and already experiencing it again. I did some research and its pretty normal, so i wont stress over it.
rmm: Not sure if there will be a shower this time around. I had one with dd but im having a boy and i have all my nephews clothes and if it does end up being a girl i have all my daughters stuff so... .im pretty set already. Ive already stocked up on my diapers and formula so im good to go for now
Well that is great that u are already set. I still like to give a shower every time. It makes the mom feel special. Plus u can gie them diapers gift cards and bath stuff for mom.
All: I am so nausaious this morning!!! I didnt want to move. I actually felt better after i got up. Dh pointed out lastnight that my boobs were bigger. They are very sore today!!! No leakage. I think i will join u ladies in 1 week or less!
Morning ladies. Hope you have all been well. So I found out 2 weeks ago my dh has been having an affair with my friend he works with. He just moved out & in with her & her two kids. Can we say douche bag!!! At this point I don't know who he is & he's not the same man I loved & married. I'll be fine. I'm trying to get both homes which I know I'll get. The hardest thing is he wants my dd 50/50 & I can't let that happen. So time will tell. I have so much lOve & support it's unbelievable, he absolutely has no one except her. He didn't even tell me. Her husband did. Oh well. I've been with him for 13 years but I'll come out of this on top.
On a good note I hope to find out the sex today. I'm bringing my dd. She's so excited. I'll keep you posted!!!
Carlis: WOW!!! I am so sad for you but I know how incredibly strong you are and youre right, you will come out on top!!! Sorry you and your family have to go through this all but I am so glad that you are staying so positive! I will be thinking about you! Cant wait to hear the gender...
well today i found out my hubby has a criminal record !!! Our preschool has to do crimal checks of everyone who picked up the children from school and this is how i found out. She couldnt tell me excatuly what it is , she said its an imvasion of privacy and that he no longer can pick our daughter up. Even if im unable i will have to get someone else. I dont know how to bring this up to him. hes never told me anything and as far as i know hes never been in trouble.. I really dont know what to do. Im kinda scared.
But fancy finding out that way.. this is wrong..
Carlis - im so sorry... but congrats on the baby GIRL... how exciting.
Yay Carlis for team Pink!!!!! At least you'll have all your daughters stuff to pass along
Kelli: thats rough. I would just ask him - he couldve just been in a fight when he was younger and was charged with assault (still not good - but minor) etc... Could be just something minor. Either way he owes it to you to tell you. And if its been 7 years I believe he can apply for a pardon! then nothing shows up on his record.
calis: Boy did things take a turn for the worst! U can get though this and u will come out on top. I dont blaime u for wanting the house. I would take all i could get. What is wrong with him. When he wakes up and see what he really has and what he has lost he will be sorry. U knew something was up. Girl i am so sorry and i wish i could say something to make u feel better. Maybe her husband will take there house and the two cheaters will be left with nothing!!!
Kelli: dont freak out just yet. My dad applied for his gun permit a few years back and was told he had a warrent for his arrest and had to get a judge that knew him to varify that they had the wrong guy. there was someone with his exact name that had been arrested and they put it under his info instead of that guys. Maybe it is a big misunderstanding like that or maybe he got in touble for flashing someone as a teen and they made him a sex offender for that. trust me I know people that have gotten stuff on there record for stupid stuff. If a group of guys moons a car of girls they are then charged with public exposure and labled sex offenders. if i guy pees beside the road and a cop sees him that is public exposure. if an 18 year old guy has sex with a 17 yr old girl that goes against him if her mom wants to press charges. BEst of luck girl!!! maybe it will be something this stupid and we can all laugh about it. If he thought that there was a problem he would have never agreeed to the back ground check. If it is something bad then we are here for u. U can cry to us.
Rmmoye- Wow I am shocked at your Mother In Law. I guess she really wants a baby in the family eh?? So how have you been feeling? Hope you get your BFP!
JoJo- I can't stand when Techs don't take the time for their patients, Do you have to pay for the visit?
Sherrycoup_ Wow your getting close eh? Crazy to think soon you will be holding your New Baby Boy!! And YES someone should be giving you a baby shower each baby deserves new things I had one with each of my 3 boys.
Trying- Hope you DS is feeling better! Its ***** when your child is sick and you cant heal it or take it away for them.. How is everything else?
Kellibubba- Wow another baby so soon you crazy lol.. I'm so happy for you and your family, And about the Criminal Record it could be an old one but I would ask him about it. Must be different where your from that just for pick ups you need a Criminal Record check. Here in Ontario you only need one for trips.
CarlisMama- OMG So Sorry to hear about DH. I have been there my 1st husband was a cheater and an abuser I finally left him when I was pregnant with our 3rd but I didn't know I was pregnant. So I was a single Mom of 3 small boys and we made it work. We as Women are strong and can get through anything life throws at us. The thing that gets to me is does these women they cheat with and may leave for do they not realize this can happen to them as well.. Once a cheater always a cheater..
Congrats on having another girl.
Well ladies so been so busy have only been on here to do my check up list thing lol.. But all is well here.. DH has the Nursery room done just waiting for the Crib set we ordered. I have bought almost everything we will need and DH is getting upset with me cause I am not leaving anything for anyone else to buy us. This is his 1st child. The 1st girl on my side of the family well thats not true my brother has a daughter but we haven't seen her since she was under a year and she is now 11 yrs old maybe get to see her every few years when her Mom wants or needs something is the only time we hear from her.. Its to bad but that is life. My DH side of the family is all girls.. lol So Dh said when we found out we where having a girl he said WELL I guess we can try again for a BOY!!! I laughed and said umm NO unless he can carry a baby we will have another one.. The meds and the needles are to much to take every day.
Trying to catch up here - it's been busy!
Rmm - just a few more days....anxiously waiting here! How are the boys? Your MIL is CRAZY!!!
Carlis - oh my. Can I shoot him? Unacceptable. And congrats to you for going along with your bad self, rock out and have an all girl party! :) And woo hoo for team pink.
Sherry - definetly have a party if you can! Every mom deserves one! I think of it as more of a welcoming gift to baby rather than a prize party for mom. :)
Little Ava is fantastic. She's growing so much it's crazy. She had a freak-out cry session the other night and it broke my heart. I didn't know what was wrong with her and it ripped me apart that I couldn't fix her.
Kelli: I am totally with rmm and think it is probably something stupid, it doesn't take much for a teenage boy to get the title "sex offender" I had a few in my detention center and it always broke my heart cause they were silly teenage boys with a major title:(
All: Things are good here, crazy busy as always but checking in again.
Hey ladies - just need a place to vent for a minute. My MIL said something to me yesterday that really upset me. First, I am the only one of the 5 ladies pregnant at the same time that has chosen to breastfeed. Now, everyone is afraid of my baby pretty much.
So, here's what happened. My SIL watches baby during the day. Since baby is 4.5 months old, I want to start incorporating more cereal into her diet. Before it was optional. Now I want it all the time (breakfast, lunch, dinner). When I arrived to get the baby yesterday, my MIL was there and had some "great information" for me.
She said she asked the other teacher at work how much milk her breast-fed baby's mothers brought each day. Answer: three 8 oz bottles per day. Long story short, MIL suggested that if I were to bring more milk that Ava would go longer periods without needing to eat and quote "wouldn't be so crabby all the time."
This hurt my feelings. Ava eats 2.5-3 oz every 2-3 hours and she seems to be growing at record rates, is very active, and smiles more than any other baby. She does cry every 2-3 hours WHEN SHES HUNGRY. And at 8pm exactly, she starts to melt if I can not feed her and put her to bed - that's HER prefered time, not mine. (I'd like to keep her awake until I go to bed, but she's just too tired!) My baby is not crabby all the time. Currently, she can not talk and say "I'm hungry, tired or bored." Crying IS her ONLY communication.
I have a feeling that I just need to let her comment roll off my shoulders, but it really hurt to hear her say that Ava is crabby all the time. This of course comes right after I have started getting fustrated that she spends more time with her daugter's kids than mine. Since the one boy has broken his leg, it's nearly impossible to get her to even say HI to Ava.
Sorry to be long winded, off topic, and fussy myself. I will eventually get over it...I'm just mad right now.
amanda: from what i can remember when dd was 4 mths old I gace her rice cereal for brekfast lunch and dinner and gave her bottles in between (don't recall the amount - been 6 years) lol You do what feels right for you. If your Dr has no concerns about her eating habits and growth then neither should you.!! As im sure you're well aware at this point - everyones got advice whether you wnat it or not when your a new parent!! Do whats right for you and baby!!! Cheers :)
Thanks sherry. I am confident that Ava is getting EXACTLY the amount of food she needs. My milk is the PERFECT meal for her. I just wish the other non-b'fing people around me would see that too. I am very comfortable in my mothering skills too. It was just hurtful to hear someone so close to me say that Ava is less than perfect. I beg to differ - she is MORE than perfect! And considering that I spend the most time with her, I'm pretty sure I know what she needs at all times - more so than someone that spends a few minutes a week with her!
MIL can be rude at times. I guess they forget what it was like. I would just let it go. U kow your daughter. If she thinks of her that way then she doesnt deserve her. Keep breast feeding her the way u want to. U r the mother. She will have to get over her issues and follow your wishes.
Amanda: Mom knows best, you are doing great!!! DS always ate 2-3 oz at a time every 2-3 hours. I didn't introduce cereal til 6 months per my Dr request. You do what works best for you and is good with your Dr. You have to take everything a MIL says with a grain of salt, it is hard and frustrating sometimes but that is just how they are sometimes. I would be upset too but not worth your worrying!!! You are a great mom and doing the right thing for your baby!!
Ok ladies I took hpt and of course bfn. Dh said I knew it. I still think it was too ealy amd I will get a bfp in Tuesday. I'm thinking positive. I wennt to a game with my mother sis niece and sis bf last night. It was great. 12piui today. As we all know I tested too early.