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So angry I could SPIT on the DR & SCREAM! (blood clot, preg loss)
I have had 4 miscarriages and can you believe that NO DOCTOR...none of the 3 I have been to in 4 years check me for blood clots. Only now that I mentioned to him my calves have been hurting all month is my general doctor finally testing me for it. I have lost 4 beautiful embryos all before 8 weeks...because of this. This is mean. Not right..and I am very upset and angry. Thanks to this forum I decided to go to the doctor today.
How can this happen. They all said "you are fine"--even knowing how many time I miscarried. Even the latest Dr told me that I need to see a specialist. I read all the letters in the forum on how the Dr decided to test for blood clots after the 2nd miscarriage, and here i have had to suffer 4 painful ones. Even almost causing me to lose the love of my life! Thank goodness we are still together. I am so angry.
I am happy that they are checking, but why do I always have to tell them what to check and test for. When i told the Doc that I have feeling of blood clot pain and reminded him how i have lost 4 babies he said, "Oooohhhh....hmmm, actually that sounds about right. I will test you for it." Yet a few months ago when I didnt get a period for 3 1-2 months and had a positive preg test by the time I had my appt their test said neg. Although I knew something was wrong. On the 4th month I bleed for 2 weeks. Sadly it feels like history is repeating itself.
My breasts started hurting 3 weeks ago. So sore I havent sleept a full night. My DH helped relieve some pain from them. I cried because it felt so much better after he stimulated them. I was so happy to be outta pain.
2 days later I am spotting only when I use the toilet. I really dont bleed but when I pee I get VERY BAD cervix sharp pain and about 1/3 of blood that I see at the bottom of the toilet. My nipples still hurt but the horrid breast pain is gone.
I have a feeling I am miscarrying yet again....Been having cramps all month even a big STING feeling below my belly button that felt like a drill.
My gyno refused to do bloodwork until I missed a period. He doesnt care at all! I have fired him. He was the second opinion gyno as well. I told him of how I have a big cramp in my uterus while my DH and I were making love. It hurt so bad we had to stop. I took a urine test 3 days after but it said neg. This was about 2 weeks before my period was due.
I am so sad....I feel sick. Felt dizzy today. The nausea and preg symptoms that I was experiencing all month are GONE. Everything but cramps that dont feel like menstrual ones...similar but not the same.
I am so scared that the man I love and adore wont be able to handle another miscarriage. We have been through so much. He even had stopped ejaculating in me for a whole year. Couldnt handle the scares or stress of me being in pain...and losing another one.
Someone please respond. I cannot hold back tears. I dont even know why I write here. I hope someone whom has been through this can comfort or inform me on what to do...I already owe a big thanks to this forum for being so smart and imforming me of the blood clots affecting pregancy. All this time the doc said chromosonal issues...yet when they tested the embryo tissue from the last one...everything turned out fine 100%. STILL non of the 30 other sites ever even mentioned it could be a possible factor.
Bless the Lord for MedHelp.org and its members,
How can this happen. They all said "you are fine"--even knowing how many time I miscarried. Even the latest Dr told me that I need to see a specialist. I read all the letters in the forum on how the Dr decided to test for blood clots after the 2nd miscarriage, and here i have had to suffer 4 painful ones. Even almost causing me to lose the love of my life! Thank goodness we are still together. I am so angry.
I am happy that they are checking, but why do I always have to tell them what to check and test for. When i told the Doc that I have feeling of blood clot pain and reminded him how i have lost 4 babies he said, "Oooohhhh....hmmm, actually that sounds about right. I will test you for it." Yet a few months ago when I didnt get a period for 3 1-2 months and had a positive preg test by the time I had my appt their test said neg. Although I knew something was wrong. On the 4th month I bleed for 2 weeks. Sadly it feels like history is repeating itself.
My breasts started hurting 3 weeks ago. So sore I havent sleept a full night. My DH helped relieve some pain from them. I cried because it felt so much better after he stimulated them. I was so happy to be outta pain.
2 days later I am spotting only when I use the toilet. I really dont bleed but when I pee I get VERY BAD cervix sharp pain and about 1/3 of blood that I see at the bottom of the toilet. My nipples still hurt but the horrid breast pain is gone.
I have a feeling I am miscarrying yet again....Been having cramps all month even a big STING feeling below my belly button that felt like a drill.
My gyno refused to do bloodwork until I missed a period. He doesnt care at all! I have fired him. He was the second opinion gyno as well. I told him of how I have a big cramp in my uterus while my DH and I were making love. It hurt so bad we had to stop. I took a urine test 3 days after but it said neg. This was about 2 weeks before my period was due.
I am so sad....I feel sick. Felt dizzy today. The nausea and preg symptoms that I was experiencing all month are GONE. Everything but cramps that dont feel like menstrual ones...similar but not the same.
I am so scared that the man I love and adore wont be able to handle another miscarriage. We have been through so much. He even had stopped ejaculating in me for a whole year. Couldnt handle the scares or stress of me being in pain...and losing another one.
Someone please respond. I cannot hold back tears. I dont even know why I write here. I hope someone whom has been through this can comfort or inform me on what to do...I already owe a big thanks to this forum for being so smart and imforming me of the blood clots affecting pregancy. All this time the doc said chromosonal issues...yet when they tested the embryo tissue from the last one...everything turned out fine 100%. STILL non of the 30 other sites ever even mentioned it could be a possible factor.
Bless the Lord for MedHelp.org and its members,
That is such GREAT GREAT GREAT news!!!!!!!! After all that **** you went through it's definatley about time lol. Don't worry, this is the one! You'll have a healthy and with the way things are looking a puke filled pregnancy....but it's so worth it lol.
Take care!
Take care!
THANK YOU NICKIE!!!
I am super happy. I wait for my hcg levels tomorrow.
Having no pain..no bleeding..it doesnt even feel like I am pregnant
except that i puked twice today and my hips hurt and my breasts are hurting again.
Im scared...but im hiding the fear cause that isnt good.
I just wanna scream halluluhah! if i knew how to even spell it...hahahaha.
I cannot wait until I am in the safe zone!
Please keep me in mind tonight when u say your prayers...
I am super happy. I wait for my hcg levels tomorrow.
Having no pain..no bleeding..it doesnt even feel like I am pregnant
except that i puked twice today and my hips hurt and my breasts are hurting again.
Im scared...but im hiding the fear cause that isnt good.
I just wanna scream halluluhah! if i knew how to even spell it...hahahaha.
I cannot wait until I am in the safe zone!
Please keep me in mind tonight when u say your prayers...
I am PREGNANT! I forgot to update this post as well!
I got my BFP about 3 days ago! Went to the doctor today as well.
I am so excited. Such a blessing! OMG!
I got my BFP about 3 days ago! Went to the doctor today as well.
I am so excited. Such a blessing! OMG!
We are on a waiting list for IVF, never been pregnant before - I apparently don't ovulate:(
2 years ago I was tested for the Factor V Leiden Gene and it was positive (along with most my family). When I finally do get pregnant, should that be something that is of major importance then? I would hate to go through IVF, it is emotionally, and physically draining, not to mention the strain it puts on our relationship - all that just to have something as simple as Factor V to have been the reason for a miscarrage!
Anyway, I should definately tell the IVF docs that I am positive for that gene then I am guessing. My other doctors already know but we haven't been called for IVF yet.
2 years ago I was tested for the Factor V Leiden Gene and it was positive (along with most my family). When I finally do get pregnant, should that be something that is of major importance then? I would hate to go through IVF, it is emotionally, and physically draining, not to mention the strain it puts on our relationship - all that just to have something as simple as Factor V to have been the reason for a miscarrage!
Anyway, I should definately tell the IVF docs that I am positive for that gene then I am guessing. My other doctors already know but we haven't been called for IVF yet.
PS Thank you ladies. You are so helpful....after re-reading a few posts...maybe I do go ahead an take a dose of baby asprin today...might as well, huh?
Had to go to the ER the other night....they gave me a blood thinner shot in my belly.
It stopped the cramping and bleeding and i sleept very well...woke up and called the doc over 10 times. He said he would call me back..I feel asleep and he never called!!!
I didnt get the blood thinner shot today and i started cramping and bleeding again!
(the cramps are minor but they are there)
Doc doesnt care as my legs feel like I have a clot. He spoke to the ER and told them to give me Lovenox and that I am to call him asap. Yet I called 10 times up until 2pm and he refused to talk only telling the teen trainee what to say....He promised to call me back yet he didnt. He didnt care that my legs were starting to hurt and feel like blood clots that I cant walk or sit....he doesnt care...Meanwhile, my man is acting a fool and didnt even take me to the doctor, nor did he check on me when I returned from the hospital. He didnt even take me to the ER to get the thinner....I dont even care anymore myself. If I lose it I just lose it. I hate em all. THe Doc. My common law DH and the Gynos can kiss my....
I plan on moving to a whole new state with brand new doctors...this is bull!
The doc didnt even get on the phone...kept telling the girl to say this and say that.
I called my gyno of 5 years and he told me to come in the afternoon because he was really busy. He was nice and listened to what I said. When I mentioned the blood thinner helped...and about the possible clotting issue..he of course said, "ah, oh yeah" Instead of me yelling, "Why the **** didnt u tell me to have the general doc test me for that 4 m/c ago" I simply replied thank u doc. I will be in later.
However, he forgot that he had a surgery at the hospital! So when I called to ask if he planned on giving me the blood thinner and if he even had it in stock or could right a prescription.....he was already gone for the day! The receptionist apologized and said that he doesnt even know his own schedule as several other patients arrived after he told them too via phone.
My stomach is not cramping really...and it never hurt very bad for very long periods..but it did hurt.
My blood is also bright orange almost neon....and when its not its light light pink.
If it was a normal period I wouldve been off of it 3 days ago....
I only see if like 3 times a day...not even enough to fill a pantyliner. Although twice I got a massive amount that does indeed fill the pantyliner (thin tiny maxi).
When I had the Lovenox last night. The bleeding stopped within 30 minutes and I didnt see any when I used the toilet either.
Now that it has wore off I am spotting again a few times throughout the day...and I see it everytime i use the toilet. Its not much tho...less than a teaspoon.
That lovenox helped though whever it did!
Im just spotting pink now..very light at the moment....wondering if I should take a baby asprin or just say F...k it =(
My breast are NOT hurting like they had been the past 2 1/2 weeks. I have had a sharp tinge pain in them a few times...probablly shrinking back to their normal size. ..I felt a bit nautious though today...I dont really feel pregnant anymore.
My lower abodomen is swollen though and kinda firm...not hard..because i am not pressing hard enough to see....but i do notice its a bit firm...so i guess i am bloated too.
It stopped the cramping and bleeding and i sleept very well...woke up and called the doc over 10 times. He said he would call me back..I feel asleep and he never called!!!
I didnt get the blood thinner shot today and i started cramping and bleeding again!
(the cramps are minor but they are there)
Doc doesnt care as my legs feel like I have a clot. He spoke to the ER and told them to give me Lovenox and that I am to call him asap. Yet I called 10 times up until 2pm and he refused to talk only telling the teen trainee what to say....He promised to call me back yet he didnt. He didnt care that my legs were starting to hurt and feel like blood clots that I cant walk or sit....he doesnt care...Meanwhile, my man is acting a fool and didnt even take me to the doctor, nor did he check on me when I returned from the hospital. He didnt even take me to the ER to get the thinner....I dont even care anymore myself. If I lose it I just lose it. I hate em all. THe Doc. My common law DH and the Gynos can kiss my....
I plan on moving to a whole new state with brand new doctors...this is bull!
The doc didnt even get on the phone...kept telling the girl to say this and say that.
I called my gyno of 5 years and he told me to come in the afternoon because he was really busy. He was nice and listened to what I said. When I mentioned the blood thinner helped...and about the possible clotting issue..he of course said, "ah, oh yeah" Instead of me yelling, "Why the **** didnt u tell me to have the general doc test me for that 4 m/c ago" I simply replied thank u doc. I will be in later.
However, he forgot that he had a surgery at the hospital! So when I called to ask if he planned on giving me the blood thinner and if he even had it in stock or could right a prescription.....he was already gone for the day! The receptionist apologized and said that he doesnt even know his own schedule as several other patients arrived after he told them too via phone.
My stomach is not cramping really...and it never hurt very bad for very long periods..but it did hurt.
My blood is also bright orange almost neon....and when its not its light light pink.
If it was a normal period I wouldve been off of it 3 days ago....
I only see if like 3 times a day...not even enough to fill a pantyliner. Although twice I got a massive amount that does indeed fill the pantyliner (thin tiny maxi).
When I had the Lovenox last night. The bleeding stopped within 30 minutes and I didnt see any when I used the toilet either.
Now that it has wore off I am spotting again a few times throughout the day...and I see it everytime i use the toilet. Its not much tho...less than a teaspoon.
That lovenox helped though whever it did!
Im just spotting pink now..very light at the moment....wondering if I should take a baby asprin or just say F...k it =(
My breast are NOT hurting like they had been the past 2 1/2 weeks. I have had a sharp tinge pain in them a few times...probablly shrinking back to their normal size. ..I felt a bit nautious though today...I dont really feel pregnant anymore.
My lower abodomen is swollen though and kinda firm...not hard..because i am not pressing hard enough to see....but i do notice its a bit firm...so i guess i am bloated too.
Dont know if you have read my story.. But im in the same boat. Incompetent Dr. many lost pregnancies sooo painful. My heart is also broken but he is sooooo fired!
I too am very sorry you've had to go through all this. So you have had 4 miscarriages and possibly going through a 5th one right now? Did I understand that correctly? If so, then yes, your doctor(s) should definitely have done some testing. In general, tests will be offered if you've had 3 early miscarriages. You can request tests earlier than that, but most insurance companies won't cover it until you've had 3 (unfortunately).
I've had two early miscarriages, and I already knew I had a blood clotting issue before getting pregnant the first time (after my cousin had a blood clot and it turned out we both have inherited a gene from our fathers called Factor V Leiden). Anyway, all the literature on Factor V says it's only an issue in the second and third trimester, and that blood thinners therefore would help once a heartbeat is detected. Well, my first miscarriage was after there was no heartbeat at 8 weeks, and the second one, I was already cramping by the time we went into the office to look for the heartbeat...which was there...but it was already too late and I miscarried that night without having a chance to start the blood thinning shots.
I recently went through IVF, and this time, I was a blood thinning shots and baby aspirin since the very beginning...and I'm now 17 weeks pregnant! Of course, it could have just been chance that my two previous pregnancies failed, but I have a feeling the blood thinning meds at least helped this time!
Best of luck with everything...and if you have any further questions about clotting issues or blood thinners, please let us know!
I've had two early miscarriages, and I already knew I had a blood clotting issue before getting pregnant the first time (after my cousin had a blood clot and it turned out we both have inherited a gene from our fathers called Factor V Leiden). Anyway, all the literature on Factor V says it's only an issue in the second and third trimester, and that blood thinners therefore would help once a heartbeat is detected. Well, my first miscarriage was after there was no heartbeat at 8 weeks, and the second one, I was already cramping by the time we went into the office to look for the heartbeat...which was there...but it was already too late and I miscarried that night without having a chance to start the blood thinning shots.
I recently went through IVF, and this time, I was a blood thinning shots and baby aspirin since the very beginning...and I'm now 17 weeks pregnant! Of course, it could have just been chance that my two previous pregnancies failed, but I have a feeling the blood thinning meds at least helped this time!
Best of luck with everything...and if you have any further questions about clotting issues or blood thinners, please let us know!
so sorry. you should be mad. just wanted to say that if it is clots, you can go on blood thinners. my friend had 2 mc due to clotting. she was loosing the baby around the same time each time - around 8 weeks. now she is 6 months preg with the help of thinners.
i know how you feel, i am afraid that one day after 3 mcs someone will also have this sudden realization of something they never checked and i will be as angry as you. try to channel that anger into getting yourself fixed. then try again to conceive as soon as you and DH are calm. we are all here for you.
i know how you feel, i am afraid that one day after 3 mcs someone will also have this sudden realization of something they never checked and i will be as angry as you. try to channel that anger into getting yourself fixed. then try again to conceive as soon as you and DH are calm. we are all here for you.
I am sorry for your loss... I don't know what to say except damm those doctors.
I am lucky to have a very good OB/GYN. when i was bleeding at 9 weeks... she did some blood work and told me take baby aspirin to preven blood clot. When i came back in 13 weeks she check blood work again and said it's all fine.. then i can stop taking baby aspirin..
You need better doctor. this is your body and you know when it's not feel right... If your doctor doesn't want to do anything.. go to another doctor.. go to specialist.. anyone who care and able to help you..
Take care of yourself...
I am lucky to have a very good OB/GYN. when i was bleeding at 9 weeks... she did some blood work and told me take baby aspirin to preven blood clot. When i came back in 13 weeks she check blood work again and said it's all fine.. then i can stop taking baby aspirin..
You need better doctor. this is your body and you know when it's not feel right... If your doctor doesn't want to do anything.. go to another doctor.. go to specialist.. anyone who care and able to help you..
Take care of yourself...
Hi hun,
I am so sorry to hear everything you have gone through hunnie, huge (((((((hugs))))))) I wish there was something I could do for you. I don't have any experience with losses related to blood clots hun, but I have lost 4 babies myself, 2 to miscarriage and 2 to ectopic pregnancies, so I understand the heartache and pain of losing babies so desperately wanted, my heart just goes out to you and I am so sorry you have experienced so much physical pain and the utter dis-regard from your Doctors and Specialists who are supposed to be helping you, this is just unbelievable to me and I completely understand why you are so angry.
I am not quite clear from your post hun, do you think you are pregnant at the moment? When was/is your period due and have you done a home pregnancy test recently? You mention you had a test for bloodclots which came back negative? When was this exactly hun?
I am sorry I don't have any advice from experience for you hun, I wish I did but all I can do is advise you to try and find another doctor to help you and hopefully get them to listen to you. Hopefully another lady on here will have experience in this and can help you more. I just wanted to re-assure you that you are not alone hun, and I understand the pain of losing babies and the pressure it puts on your relationship. I went through the same with my Husband, after our losses and the realisation we would need IVF to conceive (I lost both my tubes with the ectopics) we went through a terrible patch, and almost split up because of it all. I would encourage you to talk to your partner, and encourage him to talk about his feeling and you talk openly about yours, try and be strong together rather than shut eachother out. I would also strongly advise counselling hun, my Husband and I both had it after our 4th loss and I feel it helped us immensly as a couple and now we are stronger than ever.
I truly wish you all the best hun and I hope that the doctors take you seriously, I also hope very much that you get your dream very soon and have a healthy pregnancy and baby. Thinking of you,
Much love,
SarahKate xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I am so sorry to hear everything you have gone through hunnie, huge (((((((hugs))))))) I wish there was something I could do for you. I don't have any experience with losses related to blood clots hun, but I have lost 4 babies myself, 2 to miscarriage and 2 to ectopic pregnancies, so I understand the heartache and pain of losing babies so desperately wanted, my heart just goes out to you and I am so sorry you have experienced so much physical pain and the utter dis-regard from your Doctors and Specialists who are supposed to be helping you, this is just unbelievable to me and I completely understand why you are so angry.
I am not quite clear from your post hun, do you think you are pregnant at the moment? When was/is your period due and have you done a home pregnancy test recently? You mention you had a test for bloodclots which came back negative? When was this exactly hun?
I am sorry I don't have any advice from experience for you hun, I wish I did but all I can do is advise you to try and find another doctor to help you and hopefully get them to listen to you. Hopefully another lady on here will have experience in this and can help you more. I just wanted to re-assure you that you are not alone hun, and I understand the pain of losing babies and the pressure it puts on your relationship. I went through the same with my Husband, after our losses and the realisation we would need IVF to conceive (I lost both my tubes with the ectopics) we went through a terrible patch, and almost split up because of it all. I would encourage you to talk to your partner, and encourage him to talk about his feeling and you talk openly about yours, try and be strong together rather than shut eachother out. I would also strongly advise counselling hun, my Husband and I both had it after our 4th loss and I feel it helped us immensly as a couple and now we are stronger than ever.
I truly wish you all the best hun and I hope that the doctors take you seriously, I also hope very much that you get your dream very soon and have a healthy pregnancy and baby. Thinking of you,
Much love,
SarahKate xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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