need an opinion

[shayla1]

Hi,
  Okay I've had two weeks from hell...literally.  After getting pregnant from IUI and having 2 early m/c...I got pregnant in April..successfully...2 weeks ago the baby died in utero and we found out from the ultrasound.  We delivered our perfectly healthy son at 19 weeks and the doctor was shocked to see what happened...the cord was wrapped twice tightly around his neck stopping the blood flow and causing swelling of the brain...
    Both my OB and RE are saying that this was a freak accident...never really happens.  And they are saying that we try again.  If we do we'd start up in early October...I just want to know what you ladies would do being in my position.  We already have one DD who I concieved soo easily with no problems...then in 17 months, 2 early m/c (both times progesterone was super low)...IUI with RE successful with baby aspirin, progesterone shots, and estrogen patch.
  We really want another child....scared to put ourselves out there again...we know this was a freak thing and statistically it looks okay but I'm ready to throw out ALL statistics.
What would YOU do??
THANK YOU.
Shayla

[SLB123]

I just wanted to tell you how sorry I was to hear your story. I have 2 children but after the second one I've had 2 cons. m/c so I went on our local library website and found a book called Pregnancy after a loss- a guide to pregnancy after a miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death  by Carol Cirulli Lanham. I just started reading it tonight so I'm not very far into it but the author said her baby also had  a cord accident that was caused by an abnormality of the cord called velamentous insertion. I don't think this is what you had but she does talk a little about the rare case of cord accidents in the first chapter. I'm also scared about trying again but this book is all about successful pregnancies after tragedy so it has my interest. Good luck with whatever you decide and again, I'm so sorry to hear your story

[1nana]

I echo the words of ALL the ladies above. You obviously want another baby, so I say go for it. As always, you continue to be in my prayers.

[shellcj]

Sorry for the blank post, computer issues...anyway, I say follow your heart it will tell you everything and it sounds like both of your hearts are ready to move passed this horrible accident.  

Good luck and remember god only gives you what you can handle. :)

[dainsey]

Shayla,
I know how scared you guys must be but a really good friend of mine went thru the same thing.  Her baby didn't pass away until the 8th month though...but it was from a cord accident.  Her doctor told her it was a freak accident and the odds were extremly low that it would ever happen again....She got pregnant again a few months after and just gave birth to a little boy :-)  Keep trying and never ever give up...

[vsentz]

What did I do???? TRY TRY TRY TRY UNTIL I RAN OUT OF BREATH.....then try try try try again and again and again until i got that BLISSFUL sent from heaven line.....


but, like i told you before,....that is JUST ME.....and my situation was different.....

YOU have the last word.....

God bless you...

[ashort]

Shayla...I would try again.  I know it's easy for me to say b/c I'm not in your position but if you have always wanted another child then I would go for it.  I also believe that everything happens for a reason.  I think if you want another child you should definately go for it...it may take some time but it will all be worth it in the end...good luck to you..I wish you the best...

[SDScientist]

I would say to try again.  I am speaking for myself but I think having a baby is enough reason to risk going through it all again.  I know it must be tough and I cannot imagine what it is like to be in your position and go through what you and your family has been through.  But statistically speaking, if this is very rare then the chances of it happening again are slim to none.  Follow your heart.  I wish you all the best.  

[babyprayers]

ok  your probably going to jump through the computer and smack me down for saying this. I truly believe things happen for a reason, I do not know why it happens to good and innocent people but I firmly believe there is a reason for everything. It is very obvious you want a baby, I would go for it again, sometimes just living life is one big risk. I am so  so so sorry for your tragedy, I cannot even say I know how you feel because I do not. I cannot even Imagine your pain. I know your scared as I would be too, but you have to do what is right for you and DH. I wish you all the best, and know your friends from med help are all here for you/  

[ad_06]

I think I would try again....it is so hard to say not being in the position you are in..I've only had one pregnancy ending in MC at 3 weeks, so by far I don't know what you are going through...I just wanted to say that my mother in law, had that problem with the cord...I've heard her talk about it...When she was pregnant with her first child she went to almost full term and thought that she was in labor, but once they did the c -section, the baby was decayed...and it almost happened again when she was pregnant with my husband, she said that the dr.s said that she had an extra long cord, but they kept monitoring it and she had my husband and then the same when she was pregnant with her daughter....And this was 30 plus years ago, so I'm sure if they know what to expect with that....they can help monitor what's going on...Well I am so sorry tp hear your story...I hope you decide to do what's in your heart..Best of Luck