Holy Freakin Cow!!!!

[rita02]

ok so i have not posted on this site for many months. had my last mc in feb 2007. which was #5 mc in 13 months. been on dh about just trying ONE more time and i would drop it if it didn't stick. plan was to see md and start fertility meds again. we made this decision last saturday. well i just took hpt and it was bfp...only problem is i have spotted a bit since saturday and if anyone here has had a mc, you get this ripping feeling in the uterus, well i got that today. no bleeding though. so here is my issue, if i tell my hubby that's it! he'll say "a deal is a deal".  i didn't want it to be this way. i wanted to do everything i could to enhance my chances of carrying. what do i do? i know i cannot keep it from him.....HELP!!!!

[tina1111]

Welcome back Rita! We have missed you. Yes, too many of us are still here in the same boat, lol.  I would tell him for sure. After all it is ultimately what both of you want. Maybe give it a day or two more just to see if no more bleeding or cramping. I really hope the break in between helped and this is a super sticky one!!!!

[miky72]

Welcome back Rita and Congrats on your BFP.
I would tell your DH.
I think this is what "partner for life" is.
Keep us posted!

[paranoidpattie]

Hi Rita,

Good to see you back with good news!!  I know that sounds like a dilemma but I'd probably still tell him.  Can you get in to get a blood test before you tell him?  I'd do that and just wait for the second count before telling him.  Either way I'd tell him though but at least you know which route to go and have time to think about things.  You definitely don't want to be deceptive, just give yourself some time to think.

Best of luck and super dooper extra strength sticky baby dust!!

[sunshine1990]

I agree, tell your Dh so you can deal with it together.  Better than trying to cope with it on your own.  You need his support.  I hope he gives you the love and support you need and doesn't  hold you to your "deal".  

I hope all goes well!!  take care, try not to stress too much.  Which I know is easier said than done.  take care.

[boosty]

oh my God, you shouldnt stop your life and your dreams of creating a bigger family just because "of a deal". you will regret it later and you will start to blame and resent eachother. keep trying and if i were you, i would do more research with your doctor to see whats causeing it. maybe your body needs time to heal and recover becore you get pregnant again. good luck and be honest with your husband and dont jump to conclusions. maybe and hopefully its not a mc.

[SLB123]

wow, 5 m/c is so much to go through. were they all early? did they ever do any testing to see what's causing them? I guess my opinion is yes, you have to tell him. but if you're not bleeding I wouldn't give up hope yet. it appears to me you are not ready to quit trying if this one doesn't stick so "a deal is a deal" shouldn't be the last word. plus you agreed to go on to see md and start fert. meds. again so I think you should do that and see what dr. says.