D&C or miscarrage and trying again

[Anya1984]

Hello ladies.....for those who know me, I was 6 weeks pregnant..went to u/c today and doc didn't see embryo in gestational sac which means that it stopped developing....on Tuesday Im going for another u/c to confirm...after that I either going to have a natural m/c (btw, does anyone know how to make it happen?) or going under D&C (how is the procedure done)?

My question is, how soon can we start trying for a new cycle after miscarrage?????

Im soooo depressed right now and would like some input.......

[mommyin10]

I just saw your post !  I'm sooo sorry for you !  :(  I don't have any advice for you, just wanted to let you know I feel for you & although you're obviously saddened, you still sound positive, which is great :)  I'll be thinking of you.
Take care !

[Anya1984]

Hi Jen, thank you...
I came back from doc and we will schedule a d&c procedure either this week or next week...after that, my doc says that my hcg level should go down to 0, so we will not even consider a possiblity of trying again until July....that seems like a LIFETIME!!!!!! :(
But I got to go through with this somehow....he says that the chances to get another m/c are slim, 20%.....not slim to me but I hope that my next pregnancy will go healthy!!!!
Good luck to you too!!!!!!!!

[jen023]

Hi Anya - I do know... it's so hard and then to lose it after all you go through... I haven't gotten pregnant after my m/c's... but I think the reason I had two is because I had a doctor that didn't follow up on anythng, didn't want to run any tests or anything. If he would have, maybe the second one could have been avoided. I had low progesterone and also a slight blood clotting disorder.. there is no way I can know for sure if that's what caused the m/cs, but I'm sure it didn't help. Anyway, I assume you've had the normal blood tests run since you've been ttc for awhile - that's how I found out I had these problems. I'm sure you will be fine... and will be able to have a normal healthy pregnancy very soon. I know how scary it can be - I feel the same way... even if I do get pg again, I will be scared to death to lose it again... but else can we do, right? Like tamjun03 said, the end result will all be worth what we all go through... hang in there... I'm praying for you! ((HUGS))

[Anya1984]

yes, it seems like your book really helps you ....it is great statistics, but I would really not want to have another m/c, it could kill me :( I was not able to work today, i cried all morning and then I left  to go home...I couldn't work anylonger...Im so heartbroken...although I am hoping for the best, Im really preparing for the worst..
right now i need my mind somewhere else but it is very hard.....Thank you for your support....I just want this d&c done to me asap so I can move on with my life and start trying again as soon as I can....my sis in law just had a baby and it is painful for me to not be able having my own.....
I wish this is my last m/c...I also wish you the best with your problems!! I wish all of us to have children!!

[Anya1984]

So Jen, how are you? Were you able to get pregnant again after your m/cs? Im just so scared that it will happen over and over and I just really don't want this..It was such an ordeal to get preggo in the first plac,e you know?!

[Anya1984]

Wow, you were so brave to have the procedure done in the office? Isn't that very painful though? did you feel anything, did they give you local anastesia?> I think I would like to sleep for that...as lons as I don't feel too bad afterwords....
Thank you for support!