We should all be careful...my thoughts...Juana824

[Juana824]

When I first found this site, I was so happy to have happened upon a place where I could ask questions and talk to people who were going through the same things I am ...Since I have been on this site, I have always answered questions when asked and offered support when needed...I try to always respond when someone posts a note on my page and get so excited when there aret news of  BFPs and saddened when I hear of a BFN...We are all in this struggle together...we should try to be here for oe another as much as possible...With that being said I have one more thing to say...be careful who you shun/ignore...you never know if you will need those folks again...

Have a happy and blessed day and good luck to all on your TTC journey's!!

[wanting4#1]

I'm sorry! I didn't mean to say that Juana was doing anything wrong!!!!!  I am so sorry! I was trying to explain why some people might not get responses and stuff! I wasn't referring to her about the 'calling out' - there were OTHER posts where people were saying 'no one likes me because they don't reply', etc.!

I was just trying to explain why I don't post on threads much anymore!

I am sooooo sorry, Juana! I didn't mean anything against you at all!!

[FaithNHim]

I love our group also Tij...such L-O-V-E and S-U-P-P-O-R-T!!!!!

That is EXACTLY what it is all about.
LADIES SUPPORTING AND ENCOURAGING EACH OTHER......regardless of race, religion, etc. Just..........love and support. This site has been a HUGE blessing for me.

[Juana824]

Thanks Hoping, I am not trying to start anything...I was sharing MY THOUGHTS...Silly of me to think I could share my thoughts without people thinking I am calling some one out or seeking attention....I am a part of a great thread, with some of the most amazing women in the world...if I have a concern or problem, someone is always there for encouragement..and I make every effort to be there for them...that's what this site is for...I just merely stated a fact that has obvioulsy ruffled some feathers...Again best wishes and much success to all...

[blessedmomof3]

I have seen it in other ways then just not awnsering a post though. I have seen where people try to join a group and no one even acknowledges them. I don't think Jauna was trying to start anything ladies. I think shee just wanted us all to stop and think about what we are doing when we do that. I myself have tried to join some groups and was not ackowledged and was hurt by it. But I kept trying and I have found 2 great groups that I enjoy alot.

[lmcrt]

True if a post is not answered then the likehood is that no one can relate to the question so they don't respond. If you don't have an answer why waste time responding. I have found many on here that I simply don't answer becuase of what they posted like I have had many abortions and am 16 but want to have a baby or I can't finacially afford a doctor, but I really need advice on how to get pregnant fast. I think these people are ignorent and selfish and want a baby for the wrong reasons so instead of aswering judgementally I avoid the post. Most people on here have bonded with certain friends and only look for there posts and there responses, with no offense to anyone else. I try to answer as many questions as I can though.

[kikicoates78]

I try to be positive for everybody :) Sometimes it is hard to relate to all the posts, I hate that people feel unwanted or unhelped, this site was one of the best things that ever happened to me during my struggle with infertility. I never felt unwelcomed, Sometimes things are posted at the wrong times, Ive also had things go unanswered but I also know people are busy. I hope things get better for "whoever" is upset.

[Juana824]

Let me just say that I am in no way trying to "call anybody out" or "seek attention"...
I just merely shared MY THOUGHTS...I didn't ask for anyone's opinios on what I wrote or ask for advice about it...DID I MENTION A NAME?? No I didn't, so let's not twist what I wrote...I just wrote what I felt...people deal with things differently...some folks log off for a while...others express how they feel...I chose to exprees it in words...Believe me I am not the only one who feels this way..so many think it, but are afraid to say it...

[luvkayln]

I couldn't of said it any better! :)

[wanting4#1]

Hi Juana!

I wanted to comment on your post for a number of my own personal reasons!

Lately, I have seen a couple of different posts 'calling' out members for not replying or 'ignoring' messages and I haven't replied to any of those! Posting a message to tell everyone off and say that they are leaving the site since no one is paying attention to them is, IN MY OPINION ONLY, a very immature and attention-seeking ploy that I won't be a part of! If someone wants to leave the site, then leave..if someone is announcing that they are leaving, then they probably aren't because they come back and check the post and then reply to it over and over again!

I think that it is easy to take things personally on this site and I KNOW that I have done so myself, but I have reminded myself that I don't really know anyone on here and I don't know what anyone is going through in their own lives to know if they are 'ignoring' me!  

I remember writing Tina1111 a PM to ask her if I had done something to offend her because I thought she was ignoring me! (I can't imagine how ridiculous it must have sounded for her to read it!!! :) LOL.....BUT I addressed it directly and got a reply quickly and I realized that it's all in the way a person 'takes' it!)  However, I think direct is the best approach!  

There have been many times that I have posted a question to which I never got a reply....sometimes, I think it's simply because so many posts were put up at the same time and mine immediately got pushed back!

Personally, I only post on our thread anymore! I don't feel like I have anything to offer other people and the drama that has seemingly overtaken this particular forum is more than I want to deal with on most days! I've now been here for almost 2 1/2 years and I have made friends on here that are wonderful; I have made friends on here that I haven't talked to in a long time; I've made 'friends' here that ended up being liars and misled me and others about their situations!

There have been weeks, recently, where I couldn't even bring myself to this site because I just needed to 'get away from it all' - but I have always tried to remember the folks who remember me!

I guess I just think that there are some people on this forum who act like they have some right to reprimand and belittle others when they don't get what they want and I have dealt with that kind of stuff long enough and just don't get involved with it anymore!

I love the friends that I have made on here and hope to continue those friendships throughout, but I don't feel obligated anymore to tolerate any and every person who posts simply because they post!

I hope this makes sense and explains why people don't see my ID name popping up too much anymore!

(And I am TRULY sorry that I didn't get to reply to your kind note before last night ;( )

[Juana824]

No, not me...it's the other way around and not just with me..I see it happen to other people and I just don't thik its cool...

Helen, you have always been helpful and encouraging...my thoughts above are stemming from things I have witnessed lately...

[Helen72]

Hmm, I have never seen you shunning or ignoring anyone...  You are always so friendly and supportive.