Looks Like Our Plan Is Adoption :0) :0) :0)

[SueGre]

My DH, Rob, has said for a while now that we WILL have a baby, it just make take some time.

I now understand this to be totally true.

Although it's really hard to wait and wait and wait, he's right: it WILL happen for us in time.

First, we need to move back to D.C. and get settled in a new home. This could take quite a while. Then, we will talk to Rob's 92 y.o. father about getting an advance on our inheritance so we can adopt. Then, we'll start the process, and as you know, it can take up to a year or more.

Sheesh! This all seems so far away! And it kind of is. But when it happens, it will be amazing. And we will be sooooo in love with our baby and everything will feel complete.

We decided 2 months ago to stop trying, but we BD'ed a day before O anyway. I'm am not holding out any hope that I'm pg. I mean, I'm 41, I have diminished ovarian reserve, and my RE gave us a 3-5% of conceiving. And it's just too stressful to keep trying. I have to admit, though, I've been somewhat preoccupied with the idea of being pg the last couple of days. This is exactly why we decided to stop! :0)

On a good, healthy note, I'm starting therapy today at 4:30. I need to deal with the remaining sadness I feel from losing our baby, still not having a baby, and some other stuff, too.

I'm sending Super-Duper Extra-Sticky Stickies to everyone and CONGRATS to everyone who got their BFPs!!!

~Sue

[mommyin10]

Congrats!  What an exciting plan =)  I love that you were adopted too & want to pay it forward.  It sounds like this is the path you were meant to follow & I'm very happy for you two!  Plus, I'm sure you've heard many stories about couples adopting & subsequently becoming pregnant on their own...  heehee ;-)

[SueGre]

Thanks! You are so sweet to say that! We're trying our best to stay positive and look toward the future. Everything in my life thus far seems like it happened a little "later" than others and everything fell into place right when it was supposed to. So why not be the case with a baby, too?

:0)

[allie_44107]

Hi there-I saw your post and just wanted to tell you that I think you are amazing!!!!!!!  Best of luck to you and DH!  I know you will truly find your happiness!!!  

[scienceteacher79]

LOVE to you and Rob from me and my Rob! Good luck baby girl! I am behind you. :) HUGS and love!

Jen

[amy0013]

Big hugs Sue!!!  You're amazing girl!  :)

[usuk]

Keep me posted will you Sue? I told my bridesmaids two years ago that I just wanted to adopt. They all said I was just nervous about TTC. After 3 MCs I kinda feel like I was on the right track. I'm not worried as much about the legal fees as I am about being approved because of my finances. I lost my job and had to move w/o selling my house. So I have two mortgages and two home equity loans until I can sell my house. I'm in NY so keep me posted or send me a personal message. In the meantime, all the best.

[Helen72]

Do you need all the funds upfront?  Also, will you adopt within US or go international?  Lots of decision-making...  It is also possible to become a foster parent first and then adopt.  That way you will get to know the child before making the final decision.

[SueGre]

I was adopted, too, and I always thought growing up that I would pay it forward and adopt myself. I think that's maybe been the ultimate plan all along. Either way, I think it a great plan and look forward to starting the process. Even if an agency won't work with us until we have the funds in hand, we could at least start researching and go to an adoption seminar. I was also thinking of joining the adoption forum and checking stuff out there, too.

~Sue

[SueGre]

I wonder if we can start the process before we have access to the funds? I don't know if an agency will work with us unless they knew we have the money. Any ideas?

[usuk]

Sue you sound so happy. Best of luck. I was adopted so it makes me happy to hear. If I can get some extra cash I will do the same. Keep us posted.

[mamom15]

hi

Looks like you made some wonderful decision, I am so happy for you.  Yes you will have your baby I am sure of that and that will be one lucky baby to have you as a mom.  We shoudl meet before you leave Boston.  Good luck with everything and remember things happens for a reason and life has a way of working itself out so finally you get what is right just for you which will be your very own little baby. Visiting Dr Tsay tomorrow I iwll say hi to him for you

[Helen72]

You have a great plan!  I would start adoption proceedings before the move though since it will take some time.  Good luck!!