Risk of pregnancy after stillbirth

Question

I delivered a little boy - stillborn at 23 weeks. My doctor has advised me to wait 2 months before trying again. What is the risk of becoming pregnant too early? Would I be at risk for a higher risk pregnancy? I am petrified this will happen and I am avoiding intercourse until after my second period.

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3girls94 · Answer

Thank you very much for responding to my question. It feels good to know kind people are pulling for me. I am pulling for you too...

kayl2205 · Answer

hi on the 9th may 2011 i gave birth to my beautiful little angel Layla who was stillborn it has been 6 and a half weeks since this happened and me and my partner are trying already no one can tell you when the time is right and when your ready to try again you will know. my partner already has 2children from a previous relationship and Layla was my first born. i feel empty inside because im a mom and yet i haven't got my baby girl with me to show everyone. i know what you mean about people saying "its to early" "give it time" the worse one for me is "you have your partners children to look after" although i love his children like they are my own it isn't the same. i have been told after these tragic things happen the next time your pregnant you will have more frequent check ups and scan to prevent it from happening again. i am so sorry for your loss and i hope everything works out for you.

carleena2 · Answer

We lost our little girl, Amelia, in dec of 09. i already have three kids. two with my 1st husband and one with my husband, not counting Amelia. we have been trying to get pregnant since August of 2010. it is now feb 2011. still no baby. i die a lil every time i test neg. i'm so scraed it will never happrn for us again. people say i should be thankful what i already have. i am but i have a big black hole inside. i want a baby so badly. i wonder if i have loss my fertility. i'm only 31. anyone have any suggestions? we can't afford ivf or fertility treatments.

3girls94 · Answer

Hello! Thank you so much for your kindness. I'm so sorry to hear about your sweet Kayln. Your words were a huge help to me as I read them tonight - it's so nice to hear hope - I'm always hopeful - but it can be so hard to block out the noise from those who haven't had the same situation "You probably shouldn't try again", "It was meant to be", etc. It's so nice to hear someone agree and say 'get going'!  Thank you again and good luck to you both with all that trying!

luvkayln · Answer

Hi sweetie! I also had a stillborn in Dec. I had a little girl, and I delivered her at 36 weeks. We've been ttc ever since I got my first period after having her in Feb, and we've been trying since! This is our 6th month trying, and everyone always says you're much more fertile after having a baby. I honestly don't find that to be true! You'll get pregnant again when your body is ready for it! I say get started! :) No one can tell you when the "right" time is, you'll feel it and your body will know...  I'm so sorry for your loss, and let me tell you, it doesn't get any easier like people will tell you. There is nothing more painful then losing your child. My life is a complete wreck without my Kayln, but let me tell you, not a day goes by that I don't think of her and love her! She'll always be my baby girl, just like you're baby will always be your little boy! I hope you find strength through your tragedy, and just know that God is taking care of your son! And He will take care of you, and bless you again! I'm always here if you need to talk! Take care! :)

wanting4#1 · Answer

I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am for your loss.  I don't know about the physical risk of becoming pregnant, but I would think that there is some emotional risk to it!  I would say trust your instinct and when you are ready to try again, you will feel it!

God bless!